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Re: Nothing to lose - update 19 20 Feb 2024 06:55 #408883

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Thanks,
Start of day 4 
My old friend the wet dream is back I rolled unto my stomach last night while half awake and having trouble sleeping.
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend. 

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson

Re: Nothing to lose 20 Feb 2024 13:27 #408886

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I envy your courage to post about your fall! 

KOT!
Looking forward to get to know you better! 

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Re: Nothing to lose 20 Feb 2024 13:32 #408887

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Yah well I fell again this afternoon and I am tempted to quit again this seems like an impossible task that's driving my insane. 
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend. 

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson

Re: Nothing to lose 20 Feb 2024 15:11 #408891

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I am scared by the fact that the only times I have seemed to have found success is when I take on somthing new and that freshness gives me hope and lasts for about a 20-30 day period before it gives way and I am back to struggling again and I worry that's happening here.
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend. 

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson

Re: Nothing to lose 20 Feb 2024 16:20 #408896

notezy wrote on 20 Feb 2024 15:11:
I am scared by the fact that the only times I have seemed to have found success is when I take on somthing new and that freshness gives me hope and lasts for about a 20-30 day period before it gives way and I am back to struggling again and I worry that's happening here.

Your username says it all. This is not easy. I have been struggling with pornography and masturbation for 20 years.

You started off this thread with:

I have struggled with this for many years I have tried different tools and I see what a differences it makes in my life when I am clean I might as well start.


What difference does it make in your life when you are clean? Why do you want to be clean? Whatever it is, it sounds like it was worth it to you to try and join GYE. Please don't despair just because it is hard. It is hard, but not impossible.

Last Edit: 20 Feb 2024 16:20 by שבע יפול צדיק וקם.

Re: Nothing to lose 20 Feb 2024 19:24 #408915

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שבע יפול צדיק וקם wrote on 20 Feb 2024 16:20:

notezy wrote on 20 Feb 2024 15:11:
I am scared by the fact that the only times I have seemed to have found success is when I take on somthing new and that freshness gives me hope and lasts for about a 20-30 day period before it gives way and I am back to struggling again and I worry that's happening here.

Your username says it all. This is not easy. I have been struggling with pornography and masturbation for 20 years.

You started off this thread with:

I have struggled with this for many years I have tried different tools and I see what a differences it makes in my life when I am clean I might as well start.


What difference does it make in your life when you are clean? Why do you want to be clean? Whatever it is, it sounds like it was worth it to you to try and join GYE. Please don't despair just because it is hard. It is hard, but not impossible.


See the quote from General Grant in my signature below. 
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant


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Re: Nothing to lose 20 Feb 2024 21:53 #408924

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Alright, I was extremely down and then angry at myself today over this but I a continuing.
I am going to changes some things I have been putting off since I got this new phone a month ago which is to have my rabbi control the screen time app with a password. 
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend. 

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Re: Nothing to lose 21 Feb 2024 21:02 #408968

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Day 1
I ran into an issue with the password thing but should have it worked out by tommrow.
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend. 

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 20 22 Feb 2024 12:10 #408983

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Middle of day 2 
saw some girl on the street botherd me but I think I will manage.
I jjust wanted to update that my rav is now in control of my screen time tool password. 
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend. 

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 21 25 Feb 2024 05:34 #409065

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Starting Day 5
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend. 

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson

Re: Nothing to lose 26 Feb 2024 01:23 #409090

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Re: Nothing to lose - Update 22 26 Feb 2024 18:40 #409144

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Had another fall today slippery slope and a day off...

Let myself down 
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend. 

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 22 28 Feb 2024 21:56 #409298

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Hey! Sorry to hear about your fall. Seems like you picked yourself up! thats amazing!

Keep Rollin'
Keep Plowing,
Never look back,
Focus on the good,
You can win the fight, but I'll have to live with the loser.

Any excuse you use for yourself, you must be willing to use for your wife.

Not Always can I understand others, but I can always respect their wishes.

You're human, it's okay.

One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other.

Re: Nothing to lose - Update 23 29 Feb 2024 17:14 #409346

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Day 3 waiting patiently for my time to come...
trying to do all the right things.
"Excuses are the tools of incompetence" -My Friends Friend. 

"Change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change" -Milton H. Erickson

Re: Nothing to lose 29 Feb 2024 17:53 #409351

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