Forum

Welcome, Guest

No Despair Allowed

(0 viewing)

Scientific studies show that it takes 90 days to break an addictive pattern in the mind. Start your own Log of your journey to 90 days! Post here to update us on your status and to give each other chizuk to stay strong!

Reply Topic

New Topic

Page:
1
...
4
5
6
7
8
9
10
11

TOPIC: No Despair Allowed 2353 Views

Re: No Despair Allowed 23 May 2024 13:58 #413914

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 10 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 532 Karma: 33	Good morning, everyone. Daily post! Day #3

Re: No Despair Allowed 24 May 2024 13:10 #414020

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 10 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 532 Karma: 33	Day #4 Have a great Shabbos!

Re: No Despair Allowed 28 May 2024 18:16 #414249

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 10 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 532 Karma: 33	Hello, all. Stressful weekend. Thankfully, eyes are still clean. Day eight of clean eyes. Day #0

Re: No Despair Allowed 29 May 2024 12:55 #414295

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 10 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 532 Karma: 33	Good morning, all. In the last week, I have made two new connections with GYE folks offline. That is good. Nine days of clean eyes! Day #1

Re: No Despair Allowed 30 May 2024 13:50 #414383

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 10 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 532 Karma: 33	Good morning, רבותי. Feeling grateful for GYE this morning. For many years including all bein hazmanim and the entirety of my kollel tenure, I felt so alone and ashamed. I've had more successful periods since joining GYE than I am having now, but I don't have those feelings of despair and loneliness with the struggle. 10 days of clean eyes! Day #2

Re: No Despair Allowed 31 May 2024 13:04 #414429

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 10 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 532 Karma: 33	11 days of clean eyes! Day #3

Re: No Despair Allowed 03 Jun 2024 12:59 #414534

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 10 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 532 Karma: 33	Offline communications with GYE chaverim has been very helpful. 14 days of clean eyes. Day #6

Re: No Despair Allowed 04 Jun 2024 13:10 #414601

שבע יפול צדיק וקם
Current streak: 10 days
OFFLINE
Platinum Boarder
Posts: 532
Karma: 33

Good morning, מורי ורבותי.

I want to share what I think has been an important principle in my journey. It is helpful to focus on what positive actions can be done to contribute towards a clean day as opposed to simply focusing on refraining from behaviors and triggers.

This is what I have already done or plan on doing today:

Daven to Hashem for help.
Reach out to GYE connections through this forum and offline, both proactively and if I have an urge
Use my personal computer for non-work related tasks.

15 days of clean eyes.
Day #7

Last Edit: 04 Jun 2024 13:10 by שבע יפול צדיק וקם. Reason: typo

Re: No Despair Allowed 04 Jun 2024 16:15 #414626

oivedelokim
Current streak: 61 days
OFFLINE
Platinum Boarder
Posts: 738
Karma: 101

Hey there שבע, it’s been awhile…

I love your new thread (haven’t gone through all of it yet). I also really like the fact that you keep two different counts, it’s something that I think would really help me as well, being that porn is usually easier to avoid then masturbation.

Thank you for the inspiration, wishing you much success and looking forward to seeing it materialize!

Best wishes,
OivedElokim

I am a bochur with a passion for meaning and truth, searching to remain clean and live a holy and fulfilling life.

If you are reading this-you have a friend in me.
Feel free to PM me and I'll share my offline contact information, so we can call and text. I'd be honored if you'd trust me with your story and promise to support you in any way I possibly can.
I've been on GYE for over 7 years. "I may walk slow, but I never walk back" (-Abraham Lincoln?).
(For the background and meaning of my username- see Tanya chapter 15).

My current thread

Re: No Despair Allowed 04 Jun 2024 16:16 #414627

שבע יפול צדיק וקם
Current streak: 10 days
OFFLINE
Platinum Boarder
Posts: 532
Karma: 33

oivedelokim wrote on 04 Jun 2024 16:15:

@HHM gets the assist for that. Good to see you back on the forum.

Re: No Despair Allowed 05 Jun 2024 13:01 #414700

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 10 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 532 Karma: 33	Good morning, all. 16 days of clean eyes Day #8

Re: No Despair Allowed 06 Jun 2024 12:50 #414766

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 10 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 532 Karma: 33	Good morning, all. I had an 'M' fall last night. It was very late. I didn't have a phone or computer with me and didn't have the motivation to go get them and reach out as I was trying to go to sleep. Not sure what to put in place to avoid this in the future. Thankfully, eyes are clean. 17 days of clean eyes.

Re: No Despair Allowed 06 Jun 2024 13:07 #414767

BenHashemBH
OFFLINE
Platinum Boarder
Posts: 383
Karma: 12

שבע יפול צדיק וקם wrote on 06 Jun 2024 12:50:

Good morning, all.

I had an 'M' fall last night. It was very late. I didn't have a phone or computer with me and didn't have the motivation to go get them and reach out as I was trying to go to sleep. Not sure what to put in place to avoid this in the future. Thankfully, eyes are clean.

17 days of clean eyes.

Good morning צדיק. That is great that you have 17days of clean eyes. Keep it up!

When I worked on this, it helped me to have a 'no touching' rule (besides for X number of seconds for hygiene). I'd justify a little, which usually turned into the whole deal. Instead of wrestling with a beast, my focus is on not unlocking the cage - which for me was much easier to habituate. Maybe this mindset could help you too. Hatzlacha.

Every challenge is an opportunity. Every stumbling block is also a steppingstone. Keep climbing.
Today is yesterday's tomorrow.
"In the place where the penitents stand, the perfectly righteous cannot stand." -Berachos 34b
The yetzarim a person has the most trouble dealing with are his most powerful God-given tools for developing his potential and achieving shleimus.
In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.
It doesn't matter how big the number is, only that today it is going up by one.

A little about what I'm doing here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/412971-I-Want-to-Help-Others

Re: No Despair Allowed 06 Jun 2024 17:56 #414807

שבע יפול צדיק וקם
Current streak: 10 days
OFFLINE
Platinum Boarder
Posts: 532
Karma: 33

Update:
I have already set an alarm on my watch to go off every night except Friday at 10:45PM. I am mekabel, bli neder, that if I'm not already asleep, I will reach out to some GYE contacts who I communicate with offline. This will have several benefits. It will add some extra accountability. It will be a pause for me to think about what I am doing with my night and how I will successfully end it without 'P' and/or 'M'.

Re: No Despair Allowed 07 Jun 2024 12:48 #414850

שבע יפול צדיק וקם Current streak: 10 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 532 Karma: 33	אַ גוטן חודש 18 days of clean eyes Day #1