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Re: Think Good 13 Sep 2012 09:55 #144957

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0x1F(Hex)=37(Oct)=11111(Bin)= 31 days!

Part of the reason I made it this far is because I'm so busy I have no time for s*n!

I had a very stressed out time with many family issues both Simchadik and others. The pressure will now subside during Tishrei, but pick up again after the Chagim.

Now, I need to be extremely careful with all the guards particularly Shmiras Ainayim, thoughts and my biggest problem of all wife lust.

Re: Think Good 13 Sep 2012 10:41 #144961

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Hi ThinkGood,

I have read your thread. So you are not the SA type I guess. You are already thinking great, but I think understanding some concepts of cognitive therapy will help you go even further. Read Intimate Connections by David Burns. It's going to help you greatly dealing with your wife as well. If you make the right choices she is going to run after you, not the other way around.

Re: Think Good 13 Sep 2012 11:16 #144964

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34D + 4TG6 x 34F = I'm not sure how many days clean, one day at a time.

Re: Think Good 13 Sep 2012 12:29 #144972

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So you are not the SA type I guess.


Yes, I am the SA type, just because I know what I should be thinking often isn't enough. Even doing it 99% is not enough, it's the first thought, or the second glance which if I allow it linger ....the fall will normally come.


I've read some David Burns, but not Intimate Connections. I will get hold of the book. (bn).

Thank you nederman

Re: Think Good 13 Sep 2012 14:50 #144977

Think wrote on 13 Sep 2012 09:55:

0x1F(Hex)=37(Oct)=11111(Bin)= 31 days!

Part of the reason I made it this far is because I'm so busy I have no time for s*n!


I think that's a great idea. We should spend each day figuring out our days in Hex, Oct and Bin - then we'll be so busy with no time to sin .

On the other hand, it dawned on me that perhaps the reason they advocate to focus on "only today - one day at atime", is because "1" is the only number that is the same in Dec, Hex, Oct and Bin - so that's easiest to keep track of.

So, how are you today? I am fine B"H and hope to hear the same from you.

Hatzlacha to all,

MT

Re: Think Good 19 Sep 2012 08:20 #145045

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0x25(Hex)=45(Oct)=100101=37 days

Re: Think Good 20 Sep 2012 08:41 #145082

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0x26(Hex)=46(Oct)=100110=38 days

Re: Think Good 20 Sep 2012 08:47 #145083

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I just realized I made it through Ellul clean!

Which makes me a little frightened! I'm worried I will be overwhelmed by a lust attack.

Meaning I must be extra on guard and ask for more help from HaShem

Gmar vechatima tova

Re: Think Good 20 Sep 2012 10:02 #145085

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Your next post will be post number 100 which is 0x64 and 0b1100100 and 0o144


Just stay sober and clean and keep posting.
The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars.
If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look.
I can guard my eyes.
I want to guard my eyes.
I do guard my eyes.
Why do I say these four lines?

Re: Think Good 23 Sep 2012 09:17 #145185

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0x29(Hex)=51(Oct)=101001=41 days

Re: Think Good 24 Sep 2012 08:48 #145232

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0x2A(Hex)=52(Oct)=101010=42 days

Re: Think Good 24 Sep 2012 14:38 #145243

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Think wrote on 20 Sep 2012 08:47:

I just realized I made it through Ellul clean!

Which makes me a little frightened! I'm worried I will be overwhelmed by a lust attack.


This is flawed addict thinking. He who starves it is satisfied. The "I'll explode" argument is false.

One day at a time. That's all.

Re: Think Good 27 Sep 2012 10:14 #145315

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0x2D|(Hex)
55(Oct)
101101|(Binary)
45 days

Re: Think Good 27 Sep 2012 10:24 #145316

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This is flawed addict thinking. He who starves it is satisfied. The "I'll explode" argument is false.

One day at a time. That's all


I know it's all about - one day at a time.

I still have this inner fear as the clean days go up so does the risk of a fall.

Just last night after davening hard on Yom Kippur, putting up the Succa folllowed by mid-night learning Shulcha Aruch. When I when to bed I suddenly found myself thinking about my wife, not actually lust thoughts but close, nothing else happened and I fell asleep.

Yet this is my fear after all the ruchnius with no distractions the lust suddenly comes out of nowhere!

Re: Think Good 27 Sep 2012 14:27 #145319

I guess that proves you're actually a human being.

A famous mashgiach once told a bochur who complained of nisyonos and hirhurim, "You see this chair? It has no nisyonos and no hirhurim. It will just sit around until it will eventually rot away. But you are eternal, with a mission to accomplish. And this is part of your Avodah, to overcome those nisyonos and hirhurim".

Hatzlacha

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