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Re: Overcoming challenges 07 Apr 2021 05:13 #366459

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134 days clean

A quick update:

BH im still around and keeping up with the olom though I have not had much time to actually write and update.


Pesach was nice and although plenty of devices to use bh with hashems help im holding on and keep away from them to the best of my ability. 
The few times I personally touched an unfiltered device was if others were able to see the contents or i sent a message to a fellow GYE member that I was using an unfiltered device.

I have also been in touch with some chevra off of GYE.
this is how I keep myself accountable and I hope it continues as so until I head back to yeshiva. 

All you guys keep me in the straight and narrow...alot of appreciation here.

Wishing you all well!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 09 Apr 2021 04:56 #366569

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I love logging into GYE after a while and seeing posts like these. Keep up the great work!!

Re: Overcoming challenges 09 Apr 2021 23:00 #366611

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136 days clean

Wishing you all a very hearty good shabbos!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 13 Apr 2021 02:47 #366750

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140 days clean

Down day for me.
I had an unpleasant wet dream this morning.
I have thought of a few things that could've triggered me so I'm glad I can at least identify a "reason" for what happened.

Its disturbing that throughout the whole bein hazmanim I didn't have any vivid dreams (nor wake up wet as far as I remember) yet the first night in yeshiva...bam

however,  I believe I can still say I'm clean according to all opinions BH.

Dont mind my rant
Onto better days ahead

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Last Edit: 13 Apr 2021 02:54 by Zedj.

Re: Overcoming challenges 13 Apr 2021 04:53 #366754

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I had the same problem last night. Don't even think about it - just move on. 

You are awesome! 

Re: Overcoming challenges 16 Apr 2021 04:57 #366921

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143 days clean

BH im doing well.
Trying to get back into a good learning schedule so far it has been so-so.
BEZH I will up the game starting with a new week on Sunday.

I'm not really sure how to describe where im holding..
with Hashems help and with all the chevra here im in a much healthier place than where I was in the past.
On the other hand I don't feel grounded maybe not satisfied or comfortable with myself.

Don't get me wrong, I love myself!
Im happy with where I'm holding and extremely grateful....just I don't feel strong.

(After writing this i ask myself: would feeling strong/confident in oneself in regards to this nisoyon beneficial? Maybe it can be detrimental for the simple reason one can lose focus. Is there a good balance)

After speaking with a GYE member I'm gonna Bli Neder learn 10 minutes extra every day.
To make the 10 minutes count I'm gonna put my phone on zen mode.

Not sure this post is gonna make sense to you'all (I don't know if it makes sense to me) but at least I'm sharing my thoughts/feelings...


A nice quote I saw from R' Shais Taub-

"WE ARE NOT BAD PEOPLE TRYING TO BECOME GOOD.
WE ARE WOUNDED TRYING TO HEAL"

Wishing you all well

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Last Edit: 16 Apr 2021 05:18 by Zedj.

Re: Overcoming challenges 16 Apr 2021 07:03 #366926

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Zedj wrote on 16 Apr 2021 04:57:
143 days clean

BH im doing well.
Trying to get back into a good learning schedule so far it has been so-so.
BEZH I will up the game starting with a new week on Sunday.

I'm not really sure how to describe where im holding..
with Hashems help and with all the chevra here im in a much healthier place than where I was in the past.
On the other hand I don't feel grounded maybe not satisfied or comfortable with myself.

Don't get me wrong, I love myself!
Im happy with where I'm holding and extremely grateful....just I don't feel strong.

(After writing this i ask myself: would feeling strong/confident in oneself in regards to this nisoyon beneficial? Maybe it can be detrimental for the simple reason one can lose focus. Is there a good balance)

After speaking with a GYE member I'm gonna Bli Neder learn 10 minutes extra every day.
To make the 10 minutes count I'm gonna put my phone on zen mode.

Not sure this post is gonna make sense to you'all (I don't know if it makes sense to me) but at least I'm sharing my thoughts/feelings...


A nice quote I saw from R' Shais Taub-

"WE ARE NOT BAD PEOPLE TRYING TO BECOME GOOD.
WE ARE WOUNDED TRYING TO HEAL"

Wishing you all well

Amazing, man! 

Re: Overcoming challenges 23 Apr 2021 04:08 #367320

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150 days clean 

Thank you Hashem for 5 clean months!

Thank you to all the chevra here (way to many to name) who give me tremendous chizuk every day.
I know I wouldn't be where I am now without you guys

Side note-
I do have to admit im not keeping to my daily 10 minute of extra learning...I know it sounds stupid. I guess I gotta get my act together and just do it. 

Side side note-
What do you'all think of the new GYE whatsapp group?

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Last Edit: 23 Apr 2021 04:09 by Zedj.

Re: Overcoming challenges 23 Apr 2021 06:22 #367324

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Side side note-
What do you'all think of the new GYE whatsapp group?

Mazal Tov on 150! You are a real inspiration!
Theoretically,it sounds like a good idea...Just think I (and probably many others) are just better off without using Whatsapp at all.

Re: Overcoming challenges 23 Apr 2021 11:24 #367330

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Mazel tov! Kein yirbu! Being that I don't have WhatsApp, I can't comment. However I have heard from some guys that they wish they could disconnect from it, because it has too often led to challenges. You need major discipline to know when to leave a specific group, where too much is being shared, or there is lack of discretion about what is posted.
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Re: Overcoming challenges 23 Apr 2021 12:51 #367336

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Mazel tov!

My personal experience with WhatsApp:
For small personal groups (siblings, etc.),  no problem. But for larger and less controlled groups, it inevitably leads to casual inappropriate remarks and pictures (all it takes is one bad apple....)

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Re: Overcoming challenges 25 Apr 2021 19:04 #367391

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Mazel Tov!

Regarding the whatsapp group - I haven't heard of it where can I find this?
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


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Re: Overcoming challenges 25 Apr 2021 19:20 #367394

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EvedHashem1836 wrote on 25 Apr 2021 19:04:
Mazel Tov!

Regarding the whatsapp group - I haven't heard of it where can I find this?

GYE sent the info out in an email they send out weekly. You aren't subscribed? 
I could forward you the email of you want...
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Re: Overcoming challenges 25 Apr 2021 19:37 #367395

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Are we talking about the GYE boost videos or is this something else? (I'm already on a whatsapp group for the videos)
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


My thread: 
Aiming to be better

Re: Overcoming challenges 25 Apr 2021 19:38 #367396

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EvedHashem1836 wrote on 25 Apr 2021 19:37:
Are we talking about the GYE boost videos or is this something else? (I'm already on a whatsapp group for the videos)

Something else
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