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Overcoming challenges
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Scientific studies show that it takes 90 days to break an addictive pattern in the mind. Start your own Log of your journey to 90 days! Post here to update us on your status and to give each other chizuk to stay strong!

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Re: Overcoming challenges 16 Feb 2021 05:30 #363465

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I’m so so excited for the big simcha, Day 90 of the tzadik R’ Zedj!!!
Keep shteiging and keep being mekadesh sheim shamayim!!

With boundless admiration,

YeshivaGuy

Re: Overcoming challenges 16 Feb 2021 13:53 #363492

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Striving Avreich wrote on 15 Feb 2021 08:54:
My Rebbi told me that R' Volbe told him that R' Elya Lopian told him that in his day as a Mashgiach, 99% of Bochrim had mz"l. this obvioulsy not to say that they were addicted, did it multiple times or struggled with it for many years, but still.

I heard a figure similar to this, also from someone who heard it directly from R' Volbe. It really helped me at the time, feel so normal. It kind of puts things into perspective.
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Re: Overcoming challenges 17 Feb 2021 07:04 #363565

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85 days clean

Thank you all for your responses and encouragement.

BH today was a good day. Not the most productive day but rather pleasent.

@serenity Thank you for the reminder..."one day at a time"

Wishing you all well!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 17 Feb 2021 16:13 #363579

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Zedj wrote on 17 Feb 2021 07:04:
85 days clean

Thank you all for your responses and encouragement.

BH today was a good day. Not the most productive day but rather pleasent.

@serenity Thank you for the reminder..."one day at a time"

Wishing you all well!

Dear Zedj,

​I'm rooting for you, can't wait for your 90th day!!!

Re: Overcoming challenges 18 Feb 2021 03:04 #363636

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I told the band ,party planners,bakers etc etc that right after they finish their party in Grodna they should head straight Zedj's Yeshiva...The next celebration is coming. The big 90 !

Can't wait!

Re: Overcoming challenges 18 Feb 2021 05:59 #363645

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Lou wrote on 18 Feb 2021 03:04:
I told the band ,party planners,bakers etc etc that right after they finish their party in Grodna they should head straight Zedj's Yeshiva...The next celebration is coming. The big 90 !
can't wait!



86 days clean



Yeah! Thank you @Lou for arranging!
I wonder what cuisine the people Migrodno have.....I guess I'll have to wait and see

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 18 Feb 2021 08:27 #363656

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Zedj wrote on 18 Feb 2021 05:59:

Lou wrote on 18 Feb 2021 03:04:
I told the band ,party planners,bakers etc etc that right after they finish their party in Grodna they should head straight Zedj's Yeshiva...The next celebration is coming. The big 90 !
can't wait!




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Yeah! Thank you @Lou for arranging!
I wonder what cuisine the people Migrodno have.....I guess I'll have to wait and see

No sushi, I promise  .
Check out My thread

Daily Dose of Clarity

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Re: Overcoming challenges 21 Feb 2021 16:37 #363872

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We're almost there!
The music has started playing. I can smell the food cooking in the kitchen. Traffic is a snarled on all the highways heading towards Zedgeville. 
You are an inspiration to us all!
                       90!!!

Re: Overcoming challenges 21 Feb 2021 17:21 #363874

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I don’t need no highway! Bwaahahaha!
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."

"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."

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Re: Overcoming challenges 22 Feb 2021 04:59 #363926

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Ish MiGrodno wrote on 25 Jan 2021 04:40:
Wow Zedj, mazel tov on this truly remarkable accomplishment!

​Please reflect and let us know what has been working for you?
 i.e., what three pieces of advice would you give to a newbie on GYE?


The zechusim you have for the chizuk that you give to others is immeasurable ~ IMG




90 days clean!

It's definitely not an easy nisoyon to master and overcome. This we know from the fact there are so many of us that are working on ourselves for months or even years.  

I would like to share some tips that really helped me.


1- Eccept your challenge:
We all have different challenges in life. Hashem gave you a certain struggle? Come to terms with it (easier said than done)..  that is what really helped me look for a way out of the mess that I created for myself. It did not happen overnight. There was alot of guilt, shame and confusion with my struggle. I realized that I have a problem. I couldn't hold out more then a couple weeks and before I new it....back to square one. Eccept the struggle. It's going to be with you probably for the rest of your life. You were never meant to be perfect but you are not free from working on yourself.

2- make the call:
most guys struggling are afraid they will not be understood. I myself was skeptical about calling someone or speaking to anyone for that matter. I promise to those that have not called a veteran GYE member, you are understood. I know the feeling....I had wanted so desperately to talk about my struggle with somebody that can understand. From when I realized and eccepted the fact I had a problem, so much time past. I wasted so much time by not calling, I can only blame myself for it.  If you can please take the opportunity to speak with someone you trust in person about your struggle. If you cannot, please pick up the phone and call a GYE veteran. Don't waste prescious time. The call is hard but it will work wonders if your seriously trying to stop. The guys here at gye understand very well what your going through.    If your not ready for the call, at least start your own thread and share your story. Starting my own thread and calling/texting fellow GYE members really worked wonders for me. 

3-filter up: boy did I underestimate a filter. It can't be your only tool but it works! Don't go for the filters that you get in the app store that you know you can by-pass. Don't fool yourself. Get a good filter such as netspark or gentech.  Pretty much all of the other filters I've tried were bogus and a sham.  There is no such thing as a perfect filter but as long as you let the filter do its job, you should be fine. 

4- one day at a time: there is no magic pill to take that will make your desires/fantasies disappear rather focus on the "today now". "Now" I have  choice and now I'm in control...just for today   


There are so many more on hand tools to overcome this struggle but I think this will suffice for now.  

Thank you all for your support, guidance, perspectives and chizuk. I could not have made it to this day without you guys! 

Thank you GYE for everything you do!

I plan to continue updateing and keep myself accountable with my partner and continue my progress here.

Wishing you all much hatzlocha and continued success in this struggle that we wish we never had to overcome.


To be honest...i still despise the fact I will have a "desire" or have a fantasy of sorts and it kills me inside every time but I know now that I have the ability to control these desires and fantasies. I know Hashem is watching me and guiding me and I will have the strength to be strong and be an example for others going through a similar struggle.

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 22 Feb 2021 05:19 #363928

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Big big Mazel tov Zedj!!! May you iyh stay clean, with harchuvas hadaas!
Thanks for all your inspiration! Please dont suddenly leave us....

Re: Overcoming challenges 22 Feb 2021 22:16 #363993

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Mazal tov! Beautiful! Commit to read your last post often, it will keep it fresh.
I lost a 6 month streak. I will get back there. Not if, but when. When? Now.

l can be reached at: Grant.400@yahoo.com

Re: Overcoming challenges 26 Feb 2021 05:31 #364275

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94 days clean

BH doing well

Wishing you all a very Happy Purim!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 01 Mar 2021 19:48 #364460

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Hows it goin bro? 3 more days until 100!

Re: Overcoming challenges 02 Mar 2021 07:09 #364527

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98 days clean

BH doing well
I can confirm my yetzer hora is still pumping and is still around...shows his ugly face here and there
Seems like that dude can't get enough of me.

Another semicha test is coming up so gonna be extra busy these coming up days.

Wishing  you all well.

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

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