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Restarting the journey, after a plateau
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Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 31 Dec 2020 22:53 #360286

excellence wrote on 31 Dec 2020 18:16:

Looking_to_improve wrote on 31 Dec 2020 07:06:
Thanks, but that's an exaggeration. The only struggle I had last night was to fall asleep, I didn't have a desire and taiva to act out


That's a mistake. Gevuras hanefesh includes making sure we don't get near the pitfalls, and that's what you did. Your actually beating the Yetzer hora much more this way, because he knows that if we get close at some point we will fall. 

Perhaps, I don't know the exact gedarim of what's considered gevuras hanefesh. I just felt a bit flattered, given that it really wasn't much in the moment.

Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 31 Dec 2020 23:07 #360290

Day 42
6 weeks
Wow, that's passed quickly. Very grateful to HKB"H for bringing me this far, and for being a lot less though than expected, and especially grateful for the days when I didn't even have any thoughts on these inyanim, on those days you feel like any other regular guy.

Today in yeshiva was a bit shvach, probably because I was up late. Couldn't focus so well during shiur and also during night seder. Also felt a bit down tonight and lonely. Made some phone calls to family but still feeling a bit depressed. Been a weird mix of emotions over the last few days. BH didn't feel an urge to act out, but I can see myself looking for an escape from reality if I'm not careful.
Last Edit: 31 Dec 2020 23:09 by Looking_to_improve.

Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 01 Jan 2021 14:12 #360341

Day 43, 

Slept a lot today, probably from struggling to sleep the last 2 nights. I tried to keep myself busy, and I'll need to do the same on motsei, because there's much more free time then.

Hope you all have a great shabbos!
Looking_to_Improve

Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 01 Jan 2021 17:49 #360355

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Wow 43 days! You are doing great!

Sorry to hear about your sleeping challenges, I know how hard that can make this challenge, but keep up the great work and stay strong! 

Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 02 Jan 2021 22:29 #360388

Shavua tov
Day 44

Today is my joint highest count. BH Friday and shabbos were good, and I kept myself somewhat busy tonight. Probably could have planned out my time a bit better, but bH I stayed clean, didn't have any issues.
I have something else I might share, but need to speak it through with someone else first.

Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 03 Jan 2021 21:02 #360442

Day 45
Halfway to 90. I've never been able to say that before since I've started counting.
BH today was pretty much straightforward. Learning has been a bit worse than normal, I've had a lack of sleep for the last few nights, but bH I think I'm still doing well.

Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 04 Jan 2021 22:05 #360530

Day 46
BH a good regular day!

Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 05 Jan 2021 04:53 #360565

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Not just a regular day...An extra-ordinary day! 

Keep up the great work!! 

Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 05 Jan 2021 22:47 #360652

Day 47

Mostly a good day BH. Felt quite stressed tonight so went for a run

Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 06 Jan 2021 21:47 #360720

Day 48

Busy day today, bH didn't have any urges

Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 07 Jan 2021 22:34 #360800

Day 49
7 weeks!
BH today was a good day. Gave a chabura tonight for the first time. I think it went well.

If I don't message tomorrow, have a great shabbos all 
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Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 08 Jan 2021 06:09 #360854

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Tomorrow you will be מקבל עול מלכות שמים!
Before receiving the תורה the yiddin prepared themself for 49 days.

Keep us posted!

Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 08 Jan 2021 14:12 #360878

Day 50 

I think I used my time effectively today, bH didn't have any issues.
Looking forward to going into shabbos 50 days clean!

Have a great shabbos everyone!

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Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 08 Jan 2021 15:40 #360889

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Wow, A true milestone. What a nice way to enter the first Shabbos of Shovavim.

Gut Shabbos,
Excellence
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

Re: Restarting the journey, after a plateau 09 Jan 2021 21:52 #360921

Thank you excellence, really appreciate it!

Day 51
Had a nice shabbos with a good tisch, and managed to do a bit more learning than normal. Stayed busy tonight, so bH haven't had any urges
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