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I AM HIGHER THAN ALL THIS!!!
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Re: I AM HIGHER THAN ALL THIS!!! 25 Jun 2019 03:57 #341924

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higher wrote on 11 Jun 2019 04:46:
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. i had a fall. i was in a situation with a bad book around and i knew i shouldnt be looking inside and i flipped to a bad part. actually it wasnt a ''bad book'' specifically. in terms of its labeled category it was a novel. but apparently nowadays, either the authors have lost their talent or if they dont put in an inappropriate scene, the book simply wont sell (as much). 
 Either way, i probably could have rationalized that it was just a slip and maybe even gye wouldve allowed me to continue on the streak and all that.
 But im tired of slips as well. for me, i want real clean days. so i scratched the whole thing. 
 Im proud of all the times ive said no the yetzer hara, and i know that ive made Hashem proud over the different successes within this streak. the streak aint my religion and quite frankly (in terms of gye rules) its not even a goal of mine, so here i am. 
and im gonna keep on trucking. 

REM, i appreciate your point. its true.
but i must confess. i dont feel like a garbage can.
see the bold.
and i will still keep on truckin'.
if you need support relating to ur wife having sexual aversion and you are NOT an addict, feel free to pm me. ive picked up some advice along my own journey as well.
my thread:https:guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/340817-I-AM-HIGHER-THAN-ALL-THIS!!!#340817

Re: I AM HIGHER THAN ALL THIS!!! 25 Jun 2019 04:00 #341925

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btw i dont give a darn about my karma but it seems that some individual is making it his duty to find time on a consistent basis to lower it.
if you have a problem with any of my posts.....
SAY IT TO MY FACE! (post it.)
if you need support relating to ur wife having sexual aversion and you are NOT an addict, feel free to pm me. ive picked up some advice along my own journey as well.
my thread:https:guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/340817-I-AM-HIGHER-THAN-ALL-THIS!!!#340817
Last Edit: 25 Jun 2019 04:56 by higher.

Re: I AM HIGHER THAN ALL THIS!!! 25 Jun 2019 05:48 #341926

I just uped it.
Feel free to pm me, I'm a bochur, part of a bi weekly 12 step phone call BH and I meet my gye accountability partner face to face once a week. 

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Re: I AM HIGHER THAN ALL THIS!!! 25 Jun 2019 17:34 #341939

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Shnitzel and kugel wrote on 25 Jun 2019 05:48:
I just uped it.

nice of you.
its not about the karma (but it is!)
​i really just want to hear if anyone has any criticism concerning my posts. id rather people not hide behind faceless and wordless karma lowering and rather speak up and post directly.
 i have no problem defending any of my posts and also no problem admitting if i agree that im wrong.
 so speak up, unknown one! now!
if you need support relating to ur wife having sexual aversion and you are NOT an addict, feel free to pm me. ive picked up some advice along my own journey as well.
my thread:https:guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/340817-I-AM-HIGHER-THAN-ALL-THIS!!!#340817

Re: I AM HIGHER THAN ALL THIS!!! 27 Jun 2019 13:20 #341973

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Regarding an earlier comment here, there are two types of "feeling bad" about a fall. Charata - to feel bad enough to do something about the fall, is good. Figuring out what the trigger was, talking it over with a chaver, and planning strategy for the future is all good. Yi'ush - to simply feel bad and "down" has no place in yiddishkeit. Usually it is also self defeating because when one is depressed, acting out is "around the corner".

Regarding karma, for the longest while I have not paid the slightest attention to mine or anybody else's. I do care what intelligent people feel about my posts and I find that where they feel it necessary to compliment or criticize, they either post a response, send me a PM or an email, or sometimes a phone call. Anonymous karma raising/lowering from any random fellow (who may be of compromised intelligence, be a cynic, or is simply unfamiliar with how guys break free) is meaningless.
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Re: I AM HIGHER THAN ALL THIS!!! 27 Jun 2019 15:22 #341976

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Hashem Help Me wrote on 27 Jun 2019 13:20:

I do care what intelligent people feel about my posts and I find that where they feel it necessary to compliment or criticize, they either post a response, send me a PM or an email, or sometimes a phone call. 

or, click "thank you."
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
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Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

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Re: I AM HIGHER THAN ALL THIS!!! 28 Jun 2019 03:35 #341984

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Hashem Help Me wrote on 27 Jun 2019 13:20:
Regarding an earlier comment here, there are two types of "feeling bad" about a fall. Charata - to feel bad enough to do something about the fall, is good. Figuring out what the trigger was, talking it over with a chaver, and planning strategy for the future is all good. Yi'ush - to simply feel bad and "down" has no place in yiddishkeit. Usually it is also self defeating because when one is depressed, acting out is "around the corner".

Regarding karma, for the longest while I have not paid the slightest attention to mine or anybody else's. I do care what intelligent people feel about my posts and I find that where they feel it necessary to compliment or criticize, they either post a response, send me a PM or an email, or sometimes a phone call. Anonymous karma raising/lowering from any random fellow (who may be of compromised intelligence, be a cynic, or is simply unfamiliar with how guys break free) is meaningless.

great points! i really appreciate your post!
i did notice that you personally have taken down your karma so no one can raise or lower it. 
if you truly dont care about it...then why would you even bother taking it down? wouldnt you just ignore, it period? 
not an accusation, just curious...
if you need support relating to ur wife having sexual aversion and you are NOT an addict, feel free to pm me. ive picked up some advice along my own journey as well.
my thread:https:guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/340817-I-AM-HIGHER-THAN-ALL-THIS!!!#340817
Last Edit: 30 Jun 2019 14:13 by higher.

Re: I AM HIGHER THAN ALL THIS!!! 30 Jun 2019 17:22 #342011

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higher wrote on 28 Jun 2019 03:35:

Hashem Help Me wrote on 27 Jun 2019 13:20:
Regarding an earlier comment here, there are two types of "feeling bad" about a fall. Charata - to feel bad enough to do something about the fall, is good. Figuring out what the trigger was, talking it over with a chaver, and planning strategy for the future is all good. Yi'ush - to simply feel bad and "down" has no place in yiddishkeit. Usually it is also self defeating because when one is depressed, acting out is "around the corner".

Regarding karma, for the longest while I have not paid the slightest attention to mine or anybody else's. I do care what intelligent people feel about my posts and I find that where they feel it necessary to compliment or criticize, they either post a response, send me a PM or an email, or sometimes a phone call. Anonymous karma raising/lowering from any random fellow (who may be of compromised intelligence, be a cynic, or is simply unfamiliar with how guys break free) is meaningless.

great points! i really appreciate your post!
i did notice that you personally have taken down your karma so no one can raise or lower it. 
if you truly dont care about it...then why would you even bother taking it down? wouldnt you just ignore, it period? 
not an accusation, just curious...

I don't recall ever requesting my karma be taken down...….
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Re: I AM HIGHER THAN ALL THIS!!! 15 Jul 2019 03:50 #342290

Hey Higher than all this! I hope all is well...

Re: I AM HIGHER THAN ALL THIS!!! 15 Jul 2019 18:55 #342303

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im okay bh.
appreciated. 
maybe well talk one of these days...
if you need support relating to ur wife having sexual aversion and you are NOT an addict, feel free to pm me. ive picked up some advice along my own journey as well.
my thread:https:guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/340817-I-AM-HIGHER-THAN-ALL-THIS!!!#340817

Re: I AM HIGHER THAN ALL THIS!!! 15 Jul 2019 19:00 #342304

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i actually had pretty bad slips, very close to falls recently. 
kind of lonely. but things are okay.
decent ground for improvement with stuff.
have to work on it.
been pretty busy lately.
i hope that i am successful, bez''h
i also hope the same for everyone else here.
if you need support relating to ur wife having sexual aversion and you are NOT an addict, feel free to pm me. ive picked up some advice along my own journey as well.
my thread:https:guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/340817-I-AM-HIGHER-THAN-ALL-THIS!!!#340817

Re: I AM HIGHER THAN ALL THIS!!! 16 Jul 2019 13:00 #342321

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I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a rough patch.  I'm also going through a period with additional stress.  Our journey has its ups and downs.  We just need to ride this out.  It will get better.
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