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I can't undo the hurt......... 31 Aug 2015 22:56 #263003

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I have lied to my wife for years. I'm doing well at the moment, for 10 days now. But I can't undo the hurt. She is overwhelmed, beaten down, unable to believe in me. I understand, but it sickens me that I can't do anything to help.

Re: I can't undo the hurt......... 31 Aug 2015 23:27 #263006

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Dewayne72 wrote:
I have lied to my wife for years. I'm doing well at the moment, for 10 days now. But I can't undo the hurt. She is overwhelmed, beaten down, unable to believe in me. I understand, but it sickens me that I can't do anything to help.


Yes you can.....one moment at a time.
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Re: I can't undo the hurt......... 31 Aug 2015 23:31 #263007

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Dewayne72 wrote:
I have lied to my wife for years. I'm doing well at the moment, for 10 days now. But I can't undo the hurt. She is overwhelmed, beaten down, unable to believe in me. I understand, but it sickens me that I can't do anything to help.


Welcome!
Are you sick enough to do what it takes to stop, or just sick enough to be depressed and say what's the use?

I don't mean to be harsh, I just know from my own life that being sickened by what I've done to my wife- without any real changes on my part- could go on and on for many years...

Wishing you much hatzlacha!
Last Edit: 01 Sep 2015 01:18 by neshamaincharge.

Re: I can't undo the hurt......... 01 Sep 2015 01:41 #263010

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Welcome! Many of us were exactly where you are and have found hope.
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Re: I can't undo the hurt......... 01 Sep 2015 16:46 #263051

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maybe you can't UNDO the hurt right now, but one day at a time you can REPLACE the hurt with serenity.

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