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Re: Toughing it 23 Jul 2015 20:06 #260216

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Nice
good stuff
What 'drugs' are you currently takin' for recovery?
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Re: Toughing it 24 Jul 2015 18:26 #260254

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My 'drugs' are currently the 90 day chart, the taphsic method, and support from you guys on the forum and some partners.

I was so close to falling the other day that I decided to pay my taphsic big knas just incase. I ended up making four times the amount of the knas on the same day! I guess HASHEM is trying to tell me something.

I've decided to limit my time on gye for a while in order to make it give me a bigger impact when I am on it. When you eat too much sushi or pizza, you get used to it, it loses it's specialty. I want gye to stay special. I still come on on a daily basis, as not coming on every day can probably have the negative effect, but I won't linger on it for hours, that way I won't get too used to it.

So far it has been working.

I am also going to polish my taphsic distractions and knases. quite a few sheilos surfaced when I decided to pay the big knas - is the shvuah still chal since I didn't really fall, even though I'm paying the knas? My regular 'knas' yeshiva is closed, can I go to another one instead? I'm going to have to write this up.

Recently I called a chaver as one of my distractions, I was just planning to shmooz for a while until my urge went down, but he invited me to go out instead. I gladly agreed and I went out for a few good hours. When I came back there was nothing left of the struggle, I was so tired.

Re: Toughing it 24 Jul 2015 18:43 #260256

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polar bear wrote:
Recently I called a chaver as one of my distractions, I was just planning to shmooz for a while until my urge went down, but he invited me to go out instead. I gladly agreed and I went out for a few good hours. When I came back there was nothing left of the struggle, I was so tired.
Great!

The problem with the 90 day chart and taphsic is that they are essentially designed to bolster your will-power. Some of us need more than that to stay sober. Including me .

Re: Toughing it 24 Jul 2015 20:36 #260265

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polar bear wrote:
My 'drugs' are currently the 90 day chart, the taphsic method, and support from you guys on the forum and some partners.

I was so close to falling the other day that I decided to pay my taphsic big knas just incase. I ended up making four times the amount of the knas on the same day! I guess HASHEM is trying to tell me something.

I've decided to limit my time on gye for a while in order to make it give me a bigger impact when I am on it. When you eat too much sushi or pizza, you get used to it, it loses it's specialty. I want gye to stay special. I still come on on a daily basis, as not coming on every day can probably have the negative effect, but I won't linger on it for hours, that way I won't get too used to it.

So far it has been working.

I am also going to polish my taphsic distractions and knases. quite a few sheilos surfaced when I decided to pay the big knas - is the shvuah still chal since I didn't really fall, even though I'm paying the knas? My regular 'knas' yeshiva is closed, can I go to another one instead? I'm going to have to write this up.

Recently I called a chaver as one of my distractions, I was just planning to shmooz for a while until my urge went down, but he invited me to go out instead. I gladly agreed and I went out for a few good hours. When I came back there was nothing left of the struggle, I was so tired.


Try finding a drug that treats the disease, not the symptoms.

Bhatzlachah
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Re: Toughing it 27 Jul 2015 16:43 #260345

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Any suggestions?

Re: Toughing it 27 Jul 2015 16:52 #260347

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Haha, Cordnoy, you slam-dunked it in one sentence again. I'm going to remember that. Poet Laureate of GYE, you are!
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Re: Toughing it 27 Jul 2015 20:39 #260367

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TalmidChaim wrote:
Haha, Cordnoy, you slam-dunked it in one sentence again. I'm going to remember that. Poet Laureate of GYE, you are!


On the calls, I talk much longer.
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Re: Toughing it 27 Jul 2015 20:41 #260368

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polar bear wrote:
Any suggestions?


Read 10 minutes from the big book every day.

Or any of the other books.

Join a call.

10 minutes of mussar daily.

Discuss with a mentor.

Bhatzlachah
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Re: Toughing it 28 Jul 2015 18:20 #260456

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Ok, any way of finding out what the disease is?

Re: Toughing it 28 Jul 2015 19:34 #260465

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polar bear wrote:
Ok, any way of finding out what the disease is?


Read the books!
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