Crying to who?
What will it help?

cordnoy

Oh come on. When my father was nifter a few years ago I cried. One may ask, Crying to who? What will it help?. It won't bring him back but I still want to cry. Maybe you'll tell me that this site is strictly for growth and there is no room for silly emotions, but then why do we encourage and sympathize with each other if not to deal with the emotional side. I fell and i'm sad about it. Angry at myself may be a better word. It's an emotion that needs to be dealt with even if it's not necessarily positive. The emoticon's are there to help us convey our feelings.
That said, maybe you don't disagree but was just pointing out that crying alone won't solve any problems.

Crying to who?
What will it help?

Oh come on. When my father was nifter a few years ago I cried. One may ask, Crying to who? What will it help?. It won't bring him back but I still want to cry. Maybe you'll tell me that this site is strictly for growth and there is no room for silly emotions, but then why do we encourage and sympathize with each other if not to deal with the emotional side. I fell and i'm sad about it. Angry at myself may be a better word. It's an emotion that needs to be dealt with even if it's not necessarily positive. The emoticon's are there to help us convey our feelings.
That said, maybe you don't disagree but was just pointing out that crying alone won't solve any problems.

There are distinction between the cases but I won't argue the point.

My main point is to focus on the future and not dwell on the past.

cordnoy

SG

cordnoy


Sorry for sounding so harsh. I'm upset at my self so I'm lashing out at those trying to help me.
Like serenity wrote ( guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/243599-Glad-to-be-here?limit=15&start=285#261891 ) I don't blame anyone else for my problems, except myself, and that is slowly (and faster) chipping away at my self esteem. But as serenity very appropriately pointed out... I cant write it as eloquently. Just check out the link.

Lash out at me.....that's fine. Firstly I deserve it, and secondly, my ego is so large, it bounces right off.

As wise old Ben Franklin used to say:
If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory
sometimes; but it will be an empty victory because you will never get
your opponent's good will.
So figure it out for yourself. Which would you rather have, an
academic, theatrical victory or a person's good will? You can seldom
have both.
The Boston Transcript once printed this bit of significant doggerel:
Here lies the body of William Jay, . Who died maintaining his right of
way-He was right, dead right, as he sped along, But he's just as
dead as if he were wrong.
You may be right, dead right, as you speed along in your argument;
but as far as changing another's mind is concerned, you will probably
be just as futile as if you were wrong.

Just a thought about recent debates that have been raging on another thread lately.
Dale Carnegie

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You're gettin' the hang of it....Now for the pics.....

by yiraishamaim 02 Jun 2015 07:49 #255832It was so many years ago yet I remember it so clearly. I was 18 years old I am now over 50. I decided with a few friends that while we would be in the city that day we would try to sneak into a movie theater known for its "dirty movies" At the time there was no internet. Shmutz and acting out essentially had to do with magazines and movies. We were "successful" and entered the theater. What I saw startled me. The last 4 to 6 rows were filled and tightly filled with men in their sixties and seventies. They all looked sort of saddened and empty but not necessarily of low income. The rest of the theater was empty except for us 3 kids. I looked back at these men and thought " do they still have urges like us young guys? Is there nothing else they could do in their golden years? I certainly won't be such a loser at their age. Only now, when I am young and H_____ will I go to such a place. For me going here is sorta normal but these old geysers???" I have since learned that P____, acting out and the like is not so uncommon for the elderly. It is clear that sexual addiction just does not go away. Young men so inclined become middle-aged men so inclined and eventually turn into elderly men ... Is there anything more sadder and more reprehensible as a dirty old man? Conversely, the person who works on himself with a proper program of recovery is the polar opposite. He becomes more self-confident as he works his program. AT THIS POINT- Although continuing his recovery he feels capable of working on other middos. Daven and learn more. His glowing nature becomes conspicuous to others.  "Chochmos Adam Tair Panav" He becomes a dignified person with a happy disposition.  Hachaim V'hamaves is really in our hands. If we have the desire and put forth the right  hishtadlus, G-d will take care of the rest