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Working with aWoman 27 Feb 2015 16:56 #249583

My boss just hired a attractive Non Jewish woman and I am supposed to train her in to the business. I don't want to fall please help me?

Re: Working with aWoman 27 Feb 2015 17:00 #249584

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If you have to do it, be very professional. No joking around, no sitting too close etc.
Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'!

Re: Working with aWoman 27 Feb 2015 17:08 #249586

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That is why one works the steps or other tools.
It seems that you will not fall with her, but afterwards.
What is it that is buggin' us in our life that we think about our co-workers later on in life?
Find that answer, and it may go a long way.

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Re: Working with aWoman 27 Feb 2015 19:37 #249595

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First, like Kedusha said, keep it professional, not personal.

If you find your mind wandering, you can try to think of things that make her seem like a person, not an object. She has problems, she has stresses, sometimes she has a husband and kids. You can picture anything mundane, like her taking her kids, or mother to the doctor. Yelling at her kids... Her being sick and throwing up.

Re: Working with aWoman 27 Feb 2015 19:51 #249597

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gibbor120 wrote:
She has problems, she has stresses, sometimes she has a husband and kids.


Yep!
sometimes I have a wife as well....other times.....?
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Re: Working with aWoman 01 Mar 2015 11:34 #249625

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Hi - Wants to Grow
If you're married keep a good picture from your wife and family on your desk, show her that your family is the most important for you.
Don't be embarrassed about Haluche, be firm and clear when it comes to these issues, like Yiched and alike.

Try being Turid Bimelachto like it's known in Hilchos Yiched
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