It's been a long time coming for me making a 90-day journey-chart: for a while I was only on the cholent group, but stopped after moving from public school to a Yeshiva-College.
[Disclaimer: I am going to be as frank and open as possible, and I doubt that anyone can guess my identity--the information means a lot more to me than it does to other people.]
After going to Yeshiva, I didn't fall until Thanksgivnukkah--I fell (at Yeshiva) the Thursday before, and (at home) the Thursday during חנוכה--there is a small problem on my phone's filter that allows me to view images.
Still, I hadn't viewed p* for like 3 months. I visited with my grandparents a few weeks ago, and they took me to a movie (big mistake--I hadn't seen a movie in like 6 months) that was one of the most inappropriate movies imaginable, and that set me back.
Here I am, at home for Bein Hazemanim, and I just fell (1/10/2014).
It's time to take the struggle seriously again: I haven't been on GYE for a while. Things I need to do:
-Solve issues that have been bothering me. Here is something I wrote down recently:
I also realized--it makes me feel insecure to think that I can love others. I.e. if people are just as good as I am, just as righteous, וכו’ וכו’, it makes me feel insecure. I like thinking that I am better than others. In fact, loving just gives a piece of me that I can’t give. It requires humbling myself, and recognizing that everyone is special, and quite frankly, I have a lot of trouble doing that.
Aish: love = recognizing goodness.
[A big problem I have is loving my parents, even if I know that they do some things / have done some things wrong.]
Cool Chassidic story about hypocrisy (from chabad.org):
The Chassid would always wear a chassidic garb visiting the צמח צדק. Hwoever, his business trips took him through more modern cities, where he would wear a modern garb.
One day, he showed up to the Rebbe wearing hte business suit. He said--I’m a hypocrite, and I’ve had enough fooling the Rebbe. I mgiht as well show who I really am.
“Reb Yankel,” said the Rebbe. “Do you think that I was not aware that you dress differently in Leipzig and Paris than you do in Lubavitch? But I thought that here you showed us your true self, and there you were the hypocrite . . .”
I am a good yid, no matter what.
I also don't feel like I have too many close friends that I can open up too--to be fair, I haven't made a big effort to befriend people either on a deeper level. I need to be a bigger בעל חסד.
Other steps I really should take:
-TaPhSiC (I just kind of stopped doing it).
-Opening up to someone (maybe)
-Improving filters.
Positives:
-I need to focus on being thankful for everything more.
-I am the same chachaman before and after the fall. I just need to keep shteiging and davening to Hashem.
A dvar Torah:
-We see that the בני ישראל who left Egypt were צדיקים--they were the 1/5th that survived. And nevertheless, Hashem Yisborach still felt that it was כדאי to not take them near פלשתים, because they might turn back. Says the Chofetz Chaim: you see how important it is to distance onesself from temptation.