Hi everyone,

I had a tough morning, but I pulled through. This is the longest streak I have had for a long time. I feel so proud of myself. Have a nice Shabbos everyone!

--some_guy/Elias/Eliyahu

Hi Avrom,

Yasher Koach on your kabblah! What are you going to replace it with? Movies seem much more dangerous to me than gaming, but you are right they are both a form of escape.

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One should certainly avoid movies, video games etc. They are highly addictive because they are a form of escape.

So, we need to be honest. Are we living or escaping? It's a difficult choice. It's the choice of live or death. Ubacharta Bachaim.

...Ive seemed to have missed out on a lot here sorry for the delay guys!!

Please let me explain why this group is so important to me. It seems like we are loosing momentum here.


What happens AFTER the fall??
By default I'm toast! The world ends and I try to wash away the pain and guilt with more porn. More shame follows - and somehow I still think that masturbation is the solution. This is the famous cycle.................
(14 days later the pain of acting out, is to hard to bear - a new starts like a rotten seed)


This group has only one rule: "You must post once a week" (tehilim was added later).

"But what good does that do, I post 10 times a day!?"
Yes, you are right, you are posting because things are going great, you are x days clean and the world never was a better place! You are just bursting with kedushah and wisdom...
But what when you DO fall and DO feel depressed - not wanting to speak to anyone - THAT'S when we need this group. Comes end of the week (or whatever your day is) you know that the guys in the group are waiting for you. You don't want to let them down, but you know that by not posting you are letting them down even more. When writing to others we are giving chizzuck, but most of all helping ourselves get out of the confusion and devils-cycle. It gives us a few moments to reflect, and often that's all it takes to get back on track. If not for this group, my last fall would have taken way longer to recover from (as above! Truth is, I logged on to post about my fall - that's it. But while I was writing I was able to gather strength to start again from new. But even if we are letting the group know that we are not planning to get back up - the chizzuck response (of all the members) makes all the difference!!
Thanks Chevra!!

(This group has thus two functions: accountability and Chizuk of course)



So please Some_Guy, stay with us - this is what we are here for. Your not holding us back!! On the contrary, you are telling us all "we are honest - no secrets" thank you so much for sharing!!

Chacha, I dont think this group is a stira to having your own threads as long as you make a tcholent to share how the week was overall (I always love yours, and Zvi's kishka is the best!!). I think that's what inna does (-we miss you brother) Any member can gladly make this your home and post 25 times a day:) It just adds and bring us much closer!!


I beg for forgiveness for what I'm about to say: A new member that doesn't post weekly never really joined the group, it makes this group look like a joke and weakens the morale. I'm not talking about missing out a week here and there or going on vacation without internet possibility. I'm talking about welcoming a new brother to our home, that goes abroad and just comes back for the simchas.. (and levayas)
This is my personal view and if you guys think I'm wrong, I will 100% accept that.


This group has been great as it is. New and old members are always welcome to join!! Just don't forget the one and only rule.



This all was just my point of view, I'm not the leader of this group - we all are. Please don't hesitate to correct me.

I deep appreciation,
Avrom

I won't be here to make the official greeting ceremony, but I'm sure inna can take over.

I had a great week BH. I didn't feel a lust at all. ...is that even normal?? When I see a attractive women on the street I say to myself "I don't need this - I can and will be a happy person without looking and fantasizing gorgeous women." This is a new approach - as until now I told myself "Its soooo good - but I can't have it" (aka: Holding your breath) I really hope my plumbing is doing OK - but acting out won't help it (thanks gibbor)

(Few! now I don't need to go all the way to deli52 )