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Yaakov's Ladder
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Re: Yaakov's Ladder 28 Jun 2013 21:10 #210748

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Good point about the wife. It's not all roses.

Re: Yaakov's Ladder 08 Jul 2013 20:51 #211501

do you use your thread? it was all the way on the 3rd page of new threads.....

Re: Yaakov's Ladder 08 Jul 2013 23:20 #211542

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I use it from time to time, I just find i ussually don't have much to say. so if you want to use it feel free

Yesterday was quite a rocky day, and only thanks to GYE did I get out of it.

today has been much better BH.
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Re: Yaakov's Ladder 09 Jul 2013 22:08 #211688

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I am Iy'H, Bli Neder, starting a new count. A count for days free of playing online games. It takes away from my life, or actually, it takes away my life!!! It sounds a little funny, but I think I may be addicted to it.

So it's the same rule,

One moment at a time, meaning, I have plenty of things to do (I even wrote myself a note of things so that when I think "why not, what else should i do?" I should find things easily) I just have to make the right choice to do what is important and lasting.

First Day
יום ג' לסדר דברים
ב' מנחם אב תשע"ג
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Have a great day, unless, of course, you made other plans. ~ obbormottel
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Last Edit: 09 Jul 2013 22:23 by Pidaini. Reason: wrong parshah

Re: Yaakov's Ladder 09 Jul 2013 22:49 #211712

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and many of us play the online games so that we don't play games online

b'hatzlachah goin' "game-free"!
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Re: Yaakov's Ladder 09 Jul 2013 23:03 #211714

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cordnoy wrote:
and many of us play the online games so that we don't play games online

I like that one! BTDT (been there done that)
Last Edit: 09 Jul 2013 23:03 by gibbor120.

Re: Yaakov's Ladder 09 Jul 2013 23:09 #211716

Pidaini wrote:
I am Iy'H, Bli Neder, starting a new count. A count for days free of playing online games. It takes away from my life, or actually, it takes away my life!!! It sounds a little funny, but I think I may be addicted to it.

So it's the same rule,

One moment at a time, meaning, I have plenty of things to do (I even wrote myself a note of things so that when I think "why not, what else should i do?" I should find things easily) I just have to make the right choice to do what is important and lasting.

First Day
יום ג' לסדר דברים
ב' מנחם אב תשע"ג

you inspire me! hatzlacha rabba!
i used to look back all the time saying "oh no! what have i done! Hashem help me erase the past." and i never heard a response.
finally i started looking forward saying "Hashem i'm leaving the past to you and i'm forgetting all about it. help me have a good future. help me from here and on be the person You want me to be." and that's where i realized Hashem had been waiting to help me all along

Re: Yaakov's Ladder 10 Jul 2013 20:47 #211800

i forgot how to quote...but
"I use it from time to time, I just find i ussually don't have much to say. so if you want to use it feel free "

i feel that way all the time....dont have to much to say...

hatzlacha!

Re: Yaakov's Ladder 12 Jul 2013 02:31 #211963

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Hey y'all!!

It's been a great week, BH. I was looking forward all week to the O.Y.N.C meeting, which ended up being an O.O.Y.N.K meeting.

as for the count, I am BH 3 days clean of online games!!! R' gaurd, can we get a second chart for that?

and since a few guys have told me that they were having this problem as well, I am cordially invinting everyone to join me in that count, we can make it an accountability group

Just to write the changes I have already seen, 1) I have much more time to do things with more quality, whatever it is (posting, learning, etc.) 2)I have been spending more time with my wife and daughter 3)even when I am doing other things, I listen to my wife with much more attention than when I was being interupted (how dare she!!) from the games.
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Have a great day, unless, of course, you made other plans. ~ obbormottel
"Nothing changes as long as everything stays the same" ~ Dov

Re: Yaakov's Ladder 12 Jul 2013 19:28 #212008

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thanks for sharing the good stuff!
kol hakavod
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nice avatar too
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
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Re: Yaakov's Ladder 12 Jul 2013 21:30 #212024

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ZS, you took the words right out of my keyboard

Re: Yaakov's Ladder 17 Jul 2013 23:44 #212473

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I just heard a very deep line (after the levaya of a 46 year old women with 11 children, just so you understand)

"We need to live as long as we are living"

Besuros Toivois
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Have a great day, unless, of course, you made other plans. ~ obbormottel
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Last Edit: 17 Jul 2013 23:44 by Pidaini.

Re: Yaakov's Ladder 18 Jul 2013 16:29 #212565

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Last night I had another insight into "accepting oursleves".

As there is so much going on here regarding the ultimate relationship between husband and wife, I was feeling extreme pressure, I was literally ready to explode!!

I called my very good friend, and when I started talking to him I realized that what was happening. I really really badly wanted to be there already. I wanted to have the perfect relationship, where there are no secrets, we are open to each other etc. and I wanted to have right then.

I, BH, realized that all these things are goals, but we are quite far from them. As long as I am on the right path, of changing from a self centered human being, to a caring and thoughtful, husband to my wife, and person to everyone else, I am doing ok. And as he told me b'shem Dov, our only responsibilty is fixing oursleves, everything else is in the RBSH"O loving hands.

Trucking along, and oh....9 days to online games count
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Re: Yaakov's Ladder 25 Jul 2013 17:43 #213531

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Upon reaching this big milestone in life ...[cough]...I....[clear throat].....I.....would like to.....[wimper]....thank everyone (read with highpitched emotional voice) for helping me make it this far......[motioning to bring tissues].......[blowing nose].....and achAhron achAHron chavvviv....to Hashem Yisbarach for helping me up until this moment and may it be his ratzon that I continue to grow maaleh maaleh! Amen!!

Thank you for listening!!!! [wiping eyes]































Oh did I forget to say what happened?






























I became a
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Re: Yaakov's Ladder 25 Jul 2013 19:00 #213544

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תזכה לגדלו לתורה ולמעשים טובים ולמאדערייטער
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
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The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
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