mendel 770 wrote on 09 Apr 2012 03:18:
So how do we have to do to make this official?
YOU have to stay clean for 90 days, and then Alexeliezer has to pay $90 to GYE.
You have to have some plan of recovery. List out what you are doing, daily, to keep yourself sober. It would be a good idea to post it here, too. Perhaps send it to GUARD for review first, to make sure it's realistic--sufficient without going overboard on anything.
And I'll add--keep watch of you perceptions and motives. Not just, "I'm going to the computer to look at p*rn, so I guess I better not look at the computer." But also, "I'm surfing the sports news (or whatever) on the internet because I'm bored. That's not a healthy state to be in." It's the more subtle emotions--restlesness, irritability, and discontent (really stemming from fears and resentments) which, if left to fester long enough, will drive us to act out. Keep tabs on those, and keep in a healthy place, emotionally, as best as you can. This little bit of info has lead to a big part of my recovery.
Good luck.
--Elyah