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A powerful weapon for our arsenal 14 Sep 2011 07:13 #118872

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Here's a secret weapon that we can use (especially in Elul) to
A) Kick our yetzer hara's tuchus and
B)Bond fellow warriors closer together in our all out war on lust, unholy desires, and the sitra achra.

There is a Torah truism that whomever prays for his brother's needs, gets his prayers answered first.
Through our compassion, care, and concern for our fellow Jew, Hashem sees the selfless love that we have for another member of his holy nation and responds in kind towards the one praying.

So can you imagine the power of two people who are struggling with the same thing, and they are praying for their friend to succeed?!

I propose we start a sign up sheet in this thread for serious guys interested in adding this tactic to their arsenal.

1) Add you Hebrew name to the list
2) Check back on the post regularly and daven sincerely for the person's name directly below you. The person above you will be davening for you. This way, we're all covered.
(I will be the first one on the thread and will ask a brother in arms to daven for me).

The tefillah can be one of the many amazing ones that are already posted in previous blogs. Something not too long that can be said in minimal time throughout a busy day -

perhaps an addition to the end of your shemoneh esrei - whatever you decide, just something from the heart.

Post a daily reminder or alarm on your phone to remember.

Commit to doing it for 40 days straight, or even 90 and beyond!

Let's go into Rosh Hashana with a completely new perspective - smiling knowing that were doing our part to add kedusha and tahara to this world!

Let's go!
SiyataDishmaya

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Re: A powerful weapon for our arsenal 16 Sep 2011 07:38 #119222

obormottel OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1440 Karma: 6	I am a true believer in this concept. There is a website Daven for Me and someone I know who couldn't have kids was davening on behalf of someone else who couldn't have kids and they both had kids that very year (the conception took place within 1 month for one coupole, and ab. in three months for the second!). So I am in. Where do we sign up?
	Baby steps. If the road is pulling you down, it's a sign that you are going uphill, so just press harder on the gas! Have a great day - unless, of course, you made other plans. Last Edit: by .

Re: A powerful weapon for our arsenal 22 Sep 2011 20:27 #119992

einodmilvado Current streak: 1 day OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 5 Karma: 0	Daven for me! Yosef Shlomo Ben Yaakov Dov Add your Hebrew name in a post on this thread and make your own "misheberach" list from it. Yosef
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Re: A powerful weapon for our arsenal 28 Oct 2011 21:40 #123264

unomas	So what happenned to this great idea? btw, don't you need one's mother's name to daven for them?
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Re: A powerful weapon for our arsenal 30 Oct 2011 15:11 #123340

kedusha Current streak: 717 days OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 3167 Karma: 46	unomas wrote on 28 Oct 2011 21:40: btw, don't you need one's mother's name to daven for them? Yes, the mother's name should be used.
	Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'! Last Edit: by .

Re: A powerful weapon for our arsenal 30 Oct 2011 21:49 #123378

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Here is a great tefila to say, if I may say so myself:
Blind Beggar wrote on 16 Oct 2011 18:24:

The Sefer והאר עינינו brings a very big chizuk from the sefer Taharas Hakodesh (Shemiras Einayim chapter 4). Chazal say in Masechta Derech Eretz and the Medrash Rabba at the end of Parshas Acharei Mos “כל הרואה דבר ערוה ואינו זן את עיניו ממנה, זוכה ומקבל פני השכינה" He points out that זוכה ומקבל is present tense, which teaches us that whenever we see a woman who we are attracted to and we look away, our soul sees the Shechina at that moment even though we do not realize it while we are still alive.
This is a wonderful time to say a prayer which will go straight to the Shechina. One prayer we can say is from SA, “God, please help me to find in You what I would like to find in that woman”. Alternatively, one could write his own prayer. Here is one that I wrote myself from pesukim in Tehillim:

1)קמ"ה ט : "טוב יהוה לכל, ורחמיו על כל מעשיו".
2)נ"א י"ב : "לב טהור ברא לי אלוהים, ורוח נכון חדש בקירבי".
3)קי"ט ל"ו : "הט ליבי אל עדותיך, ואל אל בצע" .
4)קי"ט ל"ז :"העבר עיני מראות שוא, בדרכך חיני".
5)קי"ט י"ח :"גל עיני,ואביטה נפלאות מתורתך".
6)פ"ו י"ג : "כי חסדך גדול עלי,והצלת נפשי משאול תחתיה".

7)מ"ב ג :"צמאה נפשי לאלוהים לאל חי,מתי אבוא ואראה פני אלוהים".

1) Is praise, and 6) is thanksgiving, which is how Chazal tell us to start and end prayers. To say 3) correctly, you will need to add vowels. The Bais Yosef in Siman 1 explains the order of 3) and 4): We first ask Hashem to remove the things we have already seen from our minds, and then we ask Hashem to guard us in the future.
I added 7) for when I say it at the end of אלקי, נצור right before עשה למען שמך . One of the punishments of zera levatola is not to be מקבל פני השכינה and the Tur in Siman 122 says the reward for saying those four עשה למען prayers is to be מקבל פני השכינה, so I say this posuk to help.

I think this project will be more successful if we all PM our names to Siyata Dishmaya and he compiles a list and tells everyone who is next on the list. If we have to post our names, Kalonimus Yosef Kehos Zundel ben Chaya Allegra Rivka Baiyla and I might lose our anonymity.

The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars.
If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look.
I can guard my eyes.
I want to guard my eyes.
I do guard my eyes.
Why do I say these four lines?

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Re: A powerful weapon for our arsenal 04 Dec 2011 18:37 #127623

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Re: A powerful weapon for our arsenal 04 Dec 2011 19:02 #127627

chaimyakov Current streak: 61 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 399 Karma: 5	Did this go the pm route or did it just fall to the floor? Either way, i need all the help i can get. Hatzlacha in all things GOOD. chaim yakov ben sara sima shkoach
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Re: A powerful weapon for our arsenal 04 Dec 2011 19:23 #127631

Blind Beggar OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Not a sexaholic, just trying to be good. Posts: 780 Karma: 12	This project fell like a lead balloon. It needs Siyata Dishmaya and then it might work.
	The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars. If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look. I can guard my eyes. I want to guard my eyes. I do guard my eyes. Why do I say these four lines? Last Edit: by .

Re: A powerful weapon for our arsenal 04 Dec 2011 20:11 #127637

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It is hard for me not to gloat when guys talk of "kicking the yetzer hora's tuchess" (see above) and then disappear.

I wonder how the threadmaster is doing now and how it has gone for him so far.

If he has had success, then I pray he comes to share it freely with us - we need help. Period.

And if he has flopped on his own tuchess, R"l, then I pray he shares that openly with us, as freely.Either will help us.

We need help. Our 'kicker' does not seem to work very well.

"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

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Re: A powerful weapon for our arsenal 30 Jan 2012 17:37 #132012

TehillimZugger OFFLINE Platinum Boarder לבד הנשמה הטהורה Posts: 2446 Karma: 34	chaimyakov wrote on 04 Dec 2011 19:02: Did this go the pm route or did it just fall to the floor? Either way, i need all the help i can get. chaim yakov ben sara sima shkoach you forgot hatzlacha in all things GOOD :-\
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Re: A powerful weapon for our arsenal 30 Jan 2012 19:37 #132021

Dov OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 1960 Karma: 383	The sad fact is that the overwhelming majority of people who take their first step into recovery, disappear. Only by Hashem's Grace (Chessed) are we still here, for today. Isn't it good to be here?
	"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same." Last Edit: by .

Re: A powerful weapon for our arsenal 30 Jan 2012 20:23 #132024

gibbor120 OFFLINE Platinum Boarder NEVER EVER GIVE UP! Posts: 5251 Karma: 166	dov wrote on 30 Jan 2012 19:37: The sad fact is that the overwhelming majority of people who take their first step into recovery, disappear. Why is that?
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Re: A powerful weapon for our arsenal 30 Jan 2012 21:54 #132031

obormottel OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1440 Karma: 6	They can't help it- they're powerless!
	Baby steps. If the road is pulling you down, it's a sign that you are going uphill, so just press harder on the gas! Have a great day - unless, of course, you made other plans. Last Edit: by .

Re: A powerful weapon for our arsenal 31 Jan 2012 13:55 #132052

chaimyakov Current streak: 61 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 399 Karma: 5	Obermottel, ~~Don't you mean "we" are powerless?~~ Who am i to say what you mean, so if i were to have answered i would have said because we are powerless. Hatzlacha in all things GOOD. chaimyakov
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