I don't think its fair that she has had more relationships than me. I don't know if this is comming from lust or jealousy or something but I really feel the need to get even before I start a relationship with her. I just want to have tons of fun before I get settled down for a family. I know it sounds weird but because every other person in USA is doing it, I really feel inferior to them so I have to start having sexual relationships with girls just so I can feel like I am like everyone else.

feel like everyone else?

where would it end?

Hopefully at an SA meeting

Joe, you are not like everybody else. You have the moral fortitude and personal conviction to go against everything in your life and embrace G-d and His Law.

Great people in history are great precisely because they saw the truth and followed it, even though everyone else in the world disagreed. You are one of those great people.

This area is no different. You know that even though everyone is having sex out of marriage they are still wrong, and you have the ability, not to be inferior to them, but rather far superior because you are doing what is right because it is right, and not because it is popular.

Keep strong.

MBJ wrote:


This was so well said I had to repeat it.

I get u all the way!

think of them as they are losing the war with their weakness of sexual habits and u are the winning side imagine it like a actual war as if he has troops of thoughts against u and u are stronger and beating him that gives u a great feeling when ur holding urself back.

I agree with everybody else. Keep Strong! If it helps, think of it this way: how would having other "relationships" help your relationship with her? It really doesn't. If anything, the fact that you've had fewer "relationships" is probably a bigger plus in her mind about you. Don't give in!