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Re: Working on Simcha 02 Oct 2014 02:45 #240679

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Re: Working on Simcha 02 Oct 2014 03:24 #240685

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unanumun wrote:
you can be driving to the atm machine across town because the one closer to your home is not working, and at the same time realize that Hashem wants me to have to shlep to the other side of town. The traveling then becomes avodas hashem and then you can be oived es hashem besimcha. And drive besimcha. That's what happened to me today and I just found myself singing ivdu es Hashem besimcha on the way to the ATM that was 15 minutes away from my house.


Great Vort!

(Not to mention that some people would be envious that you have a reason to go to an ATM machine. You are either going to put something or take something out. Some people can do neither)
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Re: Working on Simcha 22 Feb 2015 16:33 #249170

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I think it is time to dust off this thread (for me) for two reasons:
1. Adar - משנכנס אדר מרבים בשמחה
2. It would help me at this point in my life.

Re: Working on Simcha 22 Feb 2015 17:09 #249174

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The Mesilas Yesharim in Chapter 9 brings the Midrash which asks, how does a person reach Simcha shel Mitzvah? The Midrash answers that when a person is davening or doing a mitzvah, he should develop an understanding of how great the God is that he is serving. This type of serving God will bring a person to great perfection. The Mesilas Yesharim continues by bringing the passuk in Shir Hashirim, which says that God brought us into his inner chamber. He explains that this passuk means to say that the more you foster this recognition of "how great the God that you are serving is", the more Simcha you will have.

He also says that this is the simchah amitis.....the recognition and appreciation that we can serve our Creator...that is true wholesome simchah.
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Re: Working on Simcha 10 Jan 2016 02:47 #273787

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cordnoy wrote:
The Mesilas Yesharim in Chapter 9 brings the Midrash which asks, how does a person reach Simcha shel Mitzvah? The Midrash answers that when a person is davening or doing a mitzvah, he should develop an understanding of how great the God is that he is serving. This type of serving God will bring a person to great perfection. The Mesilas Yesharim continues by bringing the passuk in Shir Hashirim, which says that God brought us into his inner chamber. He explains that this passuk means to say that the more you foster this recognition of "how great the God that you are serving is", the more Simcha you will have.

He also says that this is the simchah amitis.....the recognition and appreciation that we can serve our Creator...that is true wholesome simchah.


but i guess we gotta figure out how to get to that point, for it can be difficult due to our daily struggles.
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Re: Working on Simcha 10 Jan 2016 18:07 #273861

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A trick I came upon in the last few days, is to write down your "limiting beliefs" and then turn them into a "liberating truth"
For example, I wrote down "I can't manage to keep focused during the day"
It is that belief in my mind that actually prevents me from trying.

So I had to think hard how I can convince myself that it isn't true. It took a while but eventually I came up with..
"When I am not dealing with stress, I DO have the ability to stay focused"

The excersise allowed me to realize that I do have the ability to stay focused through the difficulty of my daily struggles, it is just that sometimes I have external factors that don't allow it.
It was an empowering realization, that I actually do have the ability, and sure enough I have been managing to stay a bit more focused through the day. Still not 100 % but a big improvement.
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