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In SA for a while but new on GYE 25 Jan 2024 21:24 #407600

parev
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Hi everyone
Spent the last 24 hours [obsessively...] checking out the site
I'm a 30 y.o. marbitz torah in israel
in SA 2.5 years
my form of acting out is only in real relationships so find hard to relate to the P&M that is the main topic on GYE
Hate Netfree as it blocks too much, but grateful that I found out about gye.nu
Have a great sponsor BH [ie someone who is actually available when I call...]

BTW My sobriety definition includes touching for pleasure even if not finishing - since my issue isnt relgious ie zera lvatola, rather a lack of control regarding lust, and touching = Maturbating...

Keep up the good work!

Shlomo

PS TOTALY maskim to Dov about the importance of not hiding behind a user name - in meetings I even sometimes use my surname too - just to not hide myself and live a double life...

Marbitz torah and communal askan in E Yisroel | 30's | Went to rehab | Avid SA'er
Not perfect yet, but a changed person 180 degrees
If you think you know who I am, and want to reach out for further chizzuk, I have nothing to hide in real life and would love to share my ESH with you

Last Edit: 25 Jan 2024 21:51 by parev. Reason: Some typos etc

Re: Hi... 25 Jan 2024 21:47 #407602

yitzchokm
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parev wrote on 25 Jan 2024 21:24:

Hi everyone
Spent the last 24 hours [obsessively...] checking out the site
Im 30 yo marbitz torah in israel
in SA 2.5 years
my form of acting out is only in real relationships so find hard to relate to the P&M that is the main topic on GYE
Hate Netfree as it blocks too much, but grateful that I found out about gye.nu
Have a great sponsor BH [ie someone who is actually available when I call...]

BTW My sobriety definition includes touching for pleasure even if not finishing - since my issue isnt relgious ie zera lvatola, rather a lack of control regarding lust, and touching = Maturbating...

Keep up the good work!

PS TOTALY maskim to Dov about the importance of not hiding behind a user name - in meetings I even sometimes use my surname too - just to not hide myself and live a double life...

Welcome!

People came to GYE for all different types of struggles, including real relationships, posted about them and broke free. You are in SA already but enjoy anything on GYE that you find useful.

Touching for pleasure is religiously forbidden. Possibly, the reason why the criteria include finish is to give us the power to stop even if we started. Starting is a slip and not a fall and we don't lose our streak so these criteria give us the incentive to stop.

https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/399000-My-long-journey

Last Edit: 25 Jan 2024 21:58 by yitzchokm.

Re: Hi... 25 Jan 2024 21:57 #407603

vehkam
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I understand the difficulty in relating to the struggles of p&m, for someone who feels that he is struggling with much greater falls. I started out with the same question as I was dealing with a lot of in person stuff. I found for myself that the tools that are helpful are the same regardless of the point of struggle.

Looking forward to being inspired by your success

Best wishes
Vehkam

vehkam7@gmail.com

guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/375452-Work-in-progress

The Battle of the Generation by Hillel S. has been a huge help for me. Message me to find out how you can receive a free copy.

some of the experiences I write about may make it easier to identify me. This is ok. I trust that if anyone discovers my identity they will keep it to themselves. If you do realize that you know me, I am completely comfortable and welcome you acknowledging me and my struggle in person.

Re: In SA for a while but new on GYE 26 Jan 2024 12:39 #407657

parev OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 485	New Avatar Y Parev? 1] I have MilchigFlieshigephobia... 2] Being honest about my attitude on GYE [for now...] Attachments: pareve.jpg (8KB)
	Marbitz torah and communal askan in E Yisroel \| 30's \| Went to rehab \| Avid SA'er Not perfect yet, but a changed person 180 degrees If you think you know who I am, and want to reach out for further chizzuk, I have nothing to hide in real life and would love to share my ESH with you

Re: In SA for a while but new on GYE 28 Jan 2024 01:40 #407682

parev
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Although i'm BH happy in SA I feel that as a yeshivish ben tora married man with a growing family there aren't many who i relate to fully in the Jerusalem fellowship.
Furthermore, since I don't have WhatsApp or text, I am limited to phone calls which have their limitations
I would appreciate anyone in the israeli SA fellowship OR of a similar lifestyle to me who would be happy to connect via private messaging t be in contact.

Re: In SA for a while but new on GYE 06 Feb 2024 16:42 #408351

parev OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 485	I thank the awesome guys who reached out to me via PM, although would love to widen my circle of friends that I can call and surrender with when necessary.
	Marbitz torah and communal askan in E Yisroel \| 30's \| Went to rehab \| Avid SA'er Not perfect yet, but a changed person 180 degrees If you think you know who I am, and want to reach out for further chizzuk, I have nothing to hide in real life and would love to share my ESH with you

Re: In SA for a while but new on GYE 06 Feb 2024 17:10 #408352

yitzchokm Current streak: 418 days NOW ONLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 679	There are partner and mentor programs on GYE.
	https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/399000-My-long-journey

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