Shalom aleichem -
I am a 45 year old divorced male with a pornography addiction that has developed its course from light to now full blown out of control, for the past 26 years.  This addiction has literally destroyed my soul and has compromised my Torah observance significantly.

The good news is that I have finally admitted to my immediate family that I have this addicition and how bad it has become.  To say that was difficult and humiliating in itself is an understatement.  I have also sought out professional help for MDD (major depression), GAD (anxiety), and addiction.


My goal through this forum is to seek a supportive online community which will help me navigate through the hopeful closing out of this disasterous addiction and help me achieve the lifestyle I've always dreamed of; that of shomer Torah u'mitzvos.

Thank you.

TikkunHaNefesh wrote on 10 Apr 2022 19:39:

Welcome! 
Congratulations on taking this courageous step. 
We're here as a family to heal each other and with the help of Hashem you'll be able to get clarity and win this struggle very soon. 

I'll start with onle tip:
The world is full of temptations. If we want to hold on to lust, we will have endless opportunities to continue lusting at every turn. We will be fighting a losing battle of Shemiras Ainayim by constantly trying not to look at things that we do want to look at so badly. Instead, the real trick to success is to learn how to let go of the lusting altogether. Instead of fighting it head-on, we need to simply let go of it.

Oh hi, welcome.

I came here looking for lamb chops, I guess korbam pesach is around the corner

Welcome! You have definitely found the right place for what your looking for. If you also want to look for an online partner in addition to the online community, the Partner Program of GYE is something you should definitely look into also. They'll be able to give you much more support and at a much more personal level having overcome this struggle themselves. Wishing you much hatzalacha on your journey. 

Welcome! 

Congratulations on taking this courageous step. 

We're here as a family to heal each other and with the help of Hashem you'll be able to get clarity and win this struggle very soon. 



I'll start with onle tip:

The world is full of temptations. If we want to hold on to lust, we will have endless opportunities to continue lusting at every turn. We will be fighting a losing battle of Shemiras Ainayim by constantly trying not to look at things that we do want to look at so badly. Instead, the real trick to success is to learn how to let go of the lusting altogether. Instead of fighting it head-on, we need to simply let go of it.



And that is the challenge - letting go of it.  I am currently reading "The Battle of the Generation" with the hopes of gaining more insight.  I am also here with the hopes of gaining tips or insight on how to let go. 



Yes, the more I try to abstain from looking at un-kosher images, the harder it is to kick the demon.



This is very important to me because this demon has destroyed almost every inch of Yiddishkeit I had inside of me.  I refuse to let it destroy my soul totally.



Once again, thank you for your reply.

חג כשר ושמח

Bilaam Harasha to Yosef Hatzaddik wrote on 11 Apr 2022 12:47:

I plan to look into the partner program as I need to have an additional source of accountability.  Thank you for your reply and well wishes to you as well.

חג כשר ושמח

Check out the links below in my signature. You may find them very insightful. One of them is a self talk method that has helped many… And of them is lots of insight that can help anyone and any stage. Hatzlacha!

Shtarkandemotional wrote on 12 Apr 2022 18:06:

I took a look at the self talk option.  I love the statements that were presented and I would like to devote some time to saying them.  Thanks for sending those links!

חג כשר ושמח

TikkunHaNefesh wrote on 13 Apr 2022 03:38:

Ty! Additionally, if you’d like you may find the insight very helpful! It’s the last link in the signature.