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Making a plan 16 Mar 2022 18:32 #378717

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Shamefully, I'm in my 50s, am what many people consider a talmid chacham, and I at times go on the internet to bad  things.

I think I need a plan. Although my shmiras ainayim on the street also leaves what to be desired, the major problem by far is the internet. I think that if I wouldn't have access to that, I would be more or less ok. The issue is, I use the internet for things that are benign, for some purposes that I don't want to exclude from my life. Some of those thing are the things which at times lead me astray to view bad things. 

There are 3 categories of my internet uses.
  1. Email, banking, Hebrewbooks - no problems there
  2. Jewish News sites, Googling for information including Torah information - Sometimes with the Googling I come across ... and with the news sometimes I want to follow up at non Jewish sites. That can become problematic.
  3. Twitter or similar likely dangerous places - Usually in a weak moment to begin with, and then .....

The area of ambiguity is mostly category 2. I find these things useful. Do I want not to be cut off of knowledge of things which are often important on various levels? 

I don't plan to spend much time here but I came here for some no monkey business help. Is there someone who has experience in giving the right advice for such matters? I would very much appreciate that.

Re: Making a plan 16 Mar 2022 18:46 #378719

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welcome!

A good filter should be able to take care of #3 and a lot of #2.
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Re: Making a plan 16 Mar 2022 18:47 #378720

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Correcting wrote on 16 Mar 2022 18:32:


I don't plan to spend much time here but I came here for some no monkey business help. Is there someone who has experience in giving the right advice for such matters? I would very much appreciate that.

I would advise you to contact our mentor that goes by the name "Hashem Help Me". He's available by email, phone or even to meet in person. He's helped many many people (for free) that are in a similar situation.
You can start by emailing him at: michelgelner@gmail.com  
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
feel free to reach out @  ahavayirah@gmail.com

Re: Making a plan 16 Mar 2022 18:59 #378721

A good filter should be able to take care of #3 and a lot of #2.

Filters would most certainly help, and there's a few ones that I listed in my signature that you can get for free. Many of those filters also have accountability features. There's also WebChaver which acts as a great accountability service (and it's features are unique from the accountability services that the filters offer) and you can actually use it in conjunction with the filters I listed and I recommend that you do so. Check them out on their respective websites for more information, they all have great features.
FOR FREE FILTERS AND ACCOUNTABILITY SOLUTIONS CLICK HERE
(Includes WebChaver/CovenantEyes, Microsoft Family Safety, and Apple
Screentime
and a how-to guide to set them up without loopholes)  

Even if you already have a filter, these are necessary additions because
they fix many loopholes that exist with paid filters (speaking from firsthand
experience) and because they add priceless accountability features.

If you have trouble filtering a shared device, then see the post for how
to get these filters discreetly, without any other users' knowledge whatsoever
and without the filters affecting the other users of the device at all.
Last Edit: 16 Mar 2022 19:01 by To Yosef Hatzaddik.

Re: Making a plan 16 Mar 2022 18:59 #378722

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Many people here with similar circumstances. I definitely recommend getting the book “the battle of the generation” by Hillel s (available on Amazon or download on this site). I read a chapter every night and it is extremely helpful. You need to be invested in this fight.
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Re: Making a plan 16 Mar 2022 19:08 #378724

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Correcting wrote on 16 Mar 2022 18:32:
Shamefully, I'm in my 50s, am what many people consider a talmid chacham, and I at times go on the internet to bad  things.

I think I need a plan. Although my shmiras ainayim on the street also leaves what to be desired, the major problem by far is the internet. I think that if I wouldn't have access to that, I would be more or less ok. The issue is, I use the internet for things that are benign, for some purposes that I don't want to exclude from my life. Some of those thing are the things which at times lead me astray to view bad things. 

There are 3 categories of my internet uses.
  1. Email, banking, Hebrewbooks - no problems there
  2. Jewish News sites, Googling for information including Torah information - Sometimes with the Googling I come across ... and with the news sometimes I want to follow up at non Jewish sites. That can become problematic.
  3. Twitter or similar likely dangerous places - Usually in a weak moment to begin with, and then .....

The area of ambiguity is mostly category 2. I find these things useful. Do I want not to be cut off of knowledge of things which are often important on various levels? 

I don't plan to spend much time here but I came here for some no monkey business help. Is there someone who has experience in giving the right advice for such matters? I would very much appreciate that.

My son, after watchin' a new purim video, asked me: what's the name of the monkey in the story? I responded, "Monkey!?" Weren't you watchin' the purim story? He replied: The one with the tail havin' her hair done by the shaitel macher. Oh, that monkey! 

They say that I'm a "no-monkey" kinda guy, so it's up to you.
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