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Introducing myself 02 Mar 2021 16:30 #364538

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Hello:

I am a first time poster here.   I live in a frum community and have been struggling with viewing porn for a long time.  In the past 6 months I have limited myself to looking at innapropriate things but have stopped short of real porn.   More recently I have stayed away from inappropriate images (for about 10 days)       It's been very difficult for me and in my despair I have turned to this website/forum.  I hope I can overcome this problem.

Re: Introducing myself 02 Mar 2021 17:56 #364547

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You sure sound like you are on the right track.

Kuddos for coming here and posting. May you have much success on your journey.

All the best,
Wilnevergiveup
Check out My Thread and The Truth

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Re: Introducing myself 02 Mar 2021 18:34 #364553

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albertc123 wrote on 02 Mar 2021 16:30:
Hello:

I am a first time poster here.   I live in a frum community and have been struggling with viewing porn for a long time.  In the past 6 months I have limited myself to looking at innapropriate things but have stopped short of real porn.   More recently I have stayed away from inappropriate images (for about 10 days)       It's been very difficult for me and in my despair I have turned to this website/forum.  I hope I can overcome this problem.

Welcome aboard!
Keep on posting, it helps you and the person reading it.
Hatzlacha on your journey!
Feel free to contact me happyyid613@gmail.com
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Re: Introducing myself 02 Mar 2021 22:26 #364584

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Welcome!
You came to the right place. We all understand what you are going through. Read though the forum. There are some real gems with great ideas that may resonate with you. In general keep on posting and stick around here.
Hatzlocha!

Re: Introducing myself 03 Mar 2021 02:23 #364606

Welcome Reb Yid!

Just know that the fact that you are on here at all already says so much about you that you are devoted to overcoming this struggle and we are all with you every step of the way! Power through!!

Wishing much hatzlocha,

EvedHashem
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!

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Aiming to be better

Feel free to contact me at evedhashem1836@gmail.com

Re: Introducing myself 03 Mar 2021 14:07 #364638

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Welcome Albertc123,

Check out these great free resources:

Great ebook for breaking free:
The Battle of the Generation guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation.

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free:
theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/
In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

Great free resources:
My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Change your attitude and change your life!

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/

If you're only ready to try something small, check out an easier way to do self-talk here:
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain—Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge

Re: Introducing myself 03 Mar 2021 14:38 #364639

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Thanks to everybody for the responses.   I am wondering about any connection between childhood trauma and this problem of being drawn to inappropriate images and porn.   

Re: Introducing myself 03 Mar 2021 15:41 #364642

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albertc123 wrote on 02 Mar 2021 16:30:
Hello:

I am a first time poster here.   I live in a frum community and have been struggling with viewing porn for a long time.  In the past 6 months I have limited myself to looking at innapropriate things but have stopped short of real porn.   More recently I have stayed away from inappropriate images (for about 10 days)       It's been very difficult for me and in my despair I have turned to this website/forum.  I hope I can overcome this problem.

What do you mean despair? Do you mean you're despairing of ever succeeding? Or despair because it's so hard and you surprised it is so hard? or maybe they are the same.

I've never tried drugs, so can't compare to them, but think of this: along with eating, this is the most difficult drug to control in the world. You are encouraged to have a little, but not too much (putting aside the usual GYE debates, lmaaseh we're supposed to devote our yetzer hora to our wives, but that doesn't mean getting rid of it) which makes it really hard. 

Be strong, we've all been there and unless you are an addict (another big GYE topic) you'll have ups and downs, but hopefully in time, mainly ups. 
I came.
I saw
I conquered.
I failed. 
Too much I. 
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