Hey guys, as you may know in my previous thread, 
im 21 and struggling. 
I haven’t been on porn sites, but have been struggling with YouTube and trying hard to stop and make gedarim.

On this thread I’d like to discuss a different sugya.
Ill be honest and blunt.
There have been many times in the last few months that I’ve gotten my parents to unlock the AppStore and Download hookup/meetup apps.
Ive spoken time attractive girls, and def could’ve hooked up but held back from going beyond the app.

Im wondering if others struggle with this.
Im amazed by how easy it is to do this, which is what’s so scary.

Thanks

YeshivaGuy wrote on 16 Aug 2020 03:37:


I don't have any experience with this but it definitely is scary and be careful

YeshivaGuy wrote on 16 Aug 2020 03:37:

A great place to start!

We just put together a 3 part article on the false allure of infidelity which I believe can also help with your question.

I would also strongly suggest making a shvuah never to download or use any hookup/meetup apps. See the TaPHSiC method for a SAFE way to make this vow, and for suggestions of how to say it.

Here is part of the nussach:

"If I initiate contact with - or respond positively to - any woman other than my wife for a sexually related purpose (including by app, e-mail, chat, webcams, etc.) then..."