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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 24 Dec 2021 04:32 #375221

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yeshivaguy i trully admire and am jealous of you -if  i had a 100th of the opportunities that you come across   - i would be in pretty bad shape \

from where i grew up no pretty girls:( nobody texting me no internet no phone till i was older there were no smartphone but rather internet cafes and porn magazines stuck in my socks on the bus for hours till i found my spots ...i was so low -- but you - you sit with the mighty giants!!!!!!!!!!

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 26 Dec 2021 02:06 #375254

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growup wrote on 24 Dec 2021 04:32:
yeshivaguy i trully admire and am jealous of you -if  i had a 100th of the opportunities that you come across   - i would be in pretty bad shape \

from where i grew up no pretty girls:( nobody texting me no internet no phone till i was older there were no smartphone but rather internet cafes and porn magazines stuck in my socks on the bus for hours till i found my spots ...i was so low -- but you - you sit with the mighty giants!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you very much for your kind words.
I wouldn’t say I’m in the best of shape nor am I sitting with mighty giants.
I am though, currently sitting in front of a computer.

I have webchaver which has been great, but it seems since getting an antivirus it stopped working.
I emailed them.
Now I would love to indulge, and perhaps later on I will.
But as for now I’ll bring myself downstairs to play with my little brother.

Ive been home this last while, many ask what’s going on with me. It really is a painful and tumultuous time.
I’m not holding back for GD, as currently I’ve had problems with our relationship as I deal with my problems.

I hold back for I know my issue and I know this won’t solve it, and maybe even it’s a pintele yid. Maybe…

I have no words, and the path before me is one filled with anguish and pain.
But I hope, somehow, someway, to remain,

YeshivaGuy

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 26 Dec 2021 03:04 #375256

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wowow sounds intense -ill just tell you a quick story thats been going around
A billboard displaying an inappropriate advertisement was placed in an area that was frequented by frum people. There was a yid, a principal in an L.A. yeshiva, who was very much disturbed by this, and he decided that he was going to have it removed. He called the advertiser, who obviously laughed him away. He then called the owner of the billboard, who told him that this was prime advertising space. He asked if he could take over the space, at the earliest possible opportunity. They said that in order for them to consider it, he would have to pay $1000 per day for the space. He said that he had $90000 in his savings, and he would like to rent the space for 90 days. The agreed, but they asked him to provide his advert. He said he has nothing to advertise, but they said he should do something. After some thinking, he suggested that they should make a countdown to the end of the 90 days. The agreement was finalized, and sure enough, the offensive advertisement was not displayed anymore, and in its place a simple countdown. What happened next was something that they were completely unprepared for. As people passed by, they were intrigued by this mysterious countdown. The newspapers took interest, and it became “the talk of the town”. People tried to contact the billboard owner, but they said that they could not disclose anything, which added to the intrigue. As the end got closer, this man was contacted by coca-cola, who offered him 3 million dollars, to take over the countdown, and use it do break out a new advertisement on the climatic day. The man gladly agreed, having reached his goal in an exceptional way. This yid was so sincere; it bothered him so much that yidden would be nichshal in inappropriate images, that he was ready to give up his entire savings. Even more, he did not have the resources to eliminate the problem in its entirety, however he decided to do whatever he could, with the emunah that something would happen. He very appropriately made a countdown, this was a countdown to the climax of his personal mesiras nefesh – And indeed Hashem took over!
The points are obvious - but one thing is clear - when we make our will his will -  he will step in 
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 26 Dec 2021 03:34 #375257

growup wrote on 26 Dec 2021 03:04:
wowow sounds intense -ill just tell you a quick story thats been going around
A billboard displaying an inappropriate advertisement was placed in an area that was frequented by frum people. There was a yid, a principal in an L.A. yeshiva, who was very much disturbed by this, and he decided that he was going to have it removed. He called the advertiser, who obviously laughed him away. He then called the owner of the billboard, who told him that this was prime advertising space. He asked if he could take over the space, at the earliest possible opportunity. They said that in order for them to consider it, he would have to pay $1000 per day for the space. He said that he had $90000 in his savings, and he would like to rent the space for 90 days. The agreed, but they asked him to provide his advert. He said he has nothing to advertise, but they said he should do something. After some thinking, he suggested that they should make a countdown to the end of the 90 days. The agreement was finalized, and sure enough, the offensive advertisement was not displayed anymore, and in its place a simple countdown. What happened next was something that they were completely unprepared for. As people passed by, they were intrigued by this mysterious countdown. The newspapers took interest, and it became “the talk of the town”. People tried to contact the billboard owner, but they said that they could not disclose anything, which added to the intrigue. As the end got closer, this man was contacted by coca-cola, who offered him 3 million dollars, to take over the countdown, and use it do break out a new advertisement on the climatic day. The man gladly agreed, having reached his goal in an exceptional way. This yid was so sincere; it bothered him so much that yidden would be nichshal in inappropriate images, that he was ready to give up his entire savings. Even more, he did not have the resources to eliminate the problem in its entirety, however he decided to do whatever he could, with the emunah that something would happen. He very appropriately made a countdown, this was a countdown to the climax of his personal mesiras nefesh – And indeed Hashem took over!
The points are obvious - but one thing is clear - when we make our will his will -  he will step in 
email me brother thekingmbd@gmail.com

The amazing part is I heard that story just this past Shabbos! Mi K'amacha Yisroel...
"It ain't about how hard you hit.
It's about how hard you can GET hit,
and keep moving forward,
how much you can TAKE,
and keep moving forward.
That's how winning is done!"



Re: Make it to Yeshiva 26 Dec 2021 04:21 #375261

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Had a rough Shabbos, got triggered about certain past traumas so was having a terrible time…
Watched a clip on YouTube so I could masterbate. Did it. I don’t have strength to worry so much about my elevating “level of tolerance.”
Not much more to say. Add this to the list, I don’t even know what I want anymore I really don’t, whatever, have a gn and gut vuch.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 26 Dec 2021 04:26 #375262

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growup wrote on 26 Dec 2021 03:04:

The points are obvious - but one thing is clear - when we make our will his will -  he will step in 
email me brother thekingmbd@gmail.com

Thanks. The problem is though that I currently feel that I don’t want GD. That I don’t want him in my life anymore because he’s screwed it up.
I don’t want to make my will anyone else’s will, because I’ve had enough of allowing people to step on me…
But yet late at night, despite so much anger and resentment, not davening etc. Before I fall asleep, I look up and ask Him to save me- this aimless broken shadow of a man.

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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 26 Dec 2021 06:41 #375263

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Hey Yeshivaguy sounds tough, I cannot begin to imagine the kind of pain you are going through. I really feel for you and I hope you find a place for yourself soon that you are comfortable in and happy with. 

The only question I have is this, if you refuse to be called a tzaddik, refuse to believe that you are sitting with giants, refuse to believe that you are really a good guy, then you must explain to me what being a tzaddik really means. Explain to me please who does sit with the giants and who these giants actually are. Explain to me all the stories in Chaza"l that talk about Eliyahu Hanavi pointing out people who are bnei olam habah. When asked what they did to deserve this Eliyahu Hanavi would say some single act or single special thing that they do even though they didn't seem like or look like the "classic Tzaddik." There are also many stories with the Admorim that I don't know too many details about, (aside from the stories of R' Shlomo Charlebach) but they are filled with people who were great even though they didn't seem like it or realize it because of overcoming one struggle or doing one type of special thing.

Give yourself some credit man! We all see it, you can see it too! You are great, everyone on this site is, and someone who is struggling and suffering and still hangs around here in this makom of bnei aliyah is certainly a great. 

It's okay to go through a hard time, it's okay to struggle with kedusha, struggling is part of the package. We all have our ups and downs, don't get too down on yourself for struggling with kedusha with so much else going on in your life.

Hang in there, im lo l'mancha, l'maaneinu. 

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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 26 Dec 2021 17:34 #375275

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wilnevergiveup wrote on 26 Dec 2021 06:41:
Hey Yeshivaguy sounds tough, I cannot begin to imagine the kind of pain you are going through. I really feel for you and I hope you find a place for yourself soon that you are comfortable in and happy with. 

The only question I have is this, if you refuse to be called a tzaddik, refuse to believe that you are sitting with giants, refuse to believe that you are really a good guy, then you must explain to me what being a tzaddik really means. Explain to me please who does sit with the giants and who these giants actually are. Explain to me all the stories in Chaza"l that talk about Eliyahu Hanavi pointing out people who are bnei olam habah. When asked what they did to deserve this Eliyahu Hanavi would say some single act or single special thing that they do even though they didn't seem like or look like the "classic Tzaddik." There are also many stories with the Admorim that I don't know too many details about, (aside from the stories of R' Shlomo Charlebach) but they are filled with people who were great even though they didn't seem like it or realize it because of overcoming one struggle or doing one type of special thing.

Give yourself some credit man! We all see it, you can see it too! You are great, everyone on this site is, and someone who is struggling and suffering and still hangs around here in this makom of bnei aliyah is certainly a great. 

It's okay to go through a hard time, it's okay to struggle with kedusha, struggling is part of the package. We all have our ups and downs, don't get too down on yourself for struggling with kedusha with so much else going on in your life.

Hang in there, im lo l'mancha, l'maaneinu. 

We're thinking about you.
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Thanks.
The giants are the big talmidei chachamim who have taharas halev and middos tovos.
Simpletons like me don’t play much of a role.

As for those gemaras, idk I think it’s drush, not poshut pshat. It can’t be that a guy who’s doesn’t know anything and makes people happy or something, is sitting with tanaim.
None of us are gonna be sitting with tannaim or even gedolim of this dor or previous doros.
Thinking otherwise is a good way to feel good, but I think it’s just a pipe dream.
Gotta wake up to the reality that we’re nothing too special, and unless we are moser nefesh 1,000%, we’re screwed.

Every shmuze I’ve ever heard in Yeshiva definitely seems to support this.

As for chassidim, I think they make too big of a deal about little things people do. Idk if poshuteh yidden are actually that great.

I hope I’m wrong, but it’s how I currently see things…


As for giving myself credit, I do I guess, but l’maaseh I haven’t been in Yeshiva in over a month. Having a very difficult time, and everything is just so uncertain.
Its definitely “ok” in thought, to have a hard time. But it certainly doesn’t feel that way.
Thanks for thinking of me though, it really means a lot.
Last Edit: 26 Dec 2021 17:44 by yeshivaguy.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 26 Dec 2021 18:59 #375277

YeshivaGuy wrote on 26 Dec 2021 17:34:
Gotta wake up to the reality that we’re nothing too special, and unless we are moser nefesh 1,000%, we’re screwed.


perfectionism likes to poke its head in during tough times. 
Dont let perfect be the enemy of good. 
we’re all rooting for you, and i wish you much hatzlacha and a complete refuas hanefesh.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Dec 2021 00:20 #375286

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Thanks.
The giants are the big talmidei chachamim who have taharas halev and middos tovos.
Simpletons like me don’t play much of a role.

As for those gemaras, idk I think it’s drush, not poshut pshat. It can’t be that a guy who’s doesn’t know anything and makes people happy or something, is sitting with tanaim.
None of us are gonna be sitting with tannaim or even gedolim of this dor or previous doros.
Thinking otherwise is a good way to feel good, but I think it’s just a pipe dream.
Gotta wake up to the reality that we’re nothing too special, and unless we are moser nefesh 1,000%, we’re screwed.

Every shmuze I’ve ever heard in Yeshiva definitely seems to support this.

As for chassidim, I think they make too big of a deal about little things people do. Idk if poshuteh yidden are actually that great.


Gedolei Yisroel from all branches of Orthodoxy definitely speak divrei chizuk for the "little things", and they base their comments on the divrei Torah of previous generations.   You are obviously in a lot of pain, and your vision is unfortunately being darkened. You have a lot of admirers here who daven for you to get back your clear vision. We miss you buddy.

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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Dec 2021 18:41 #375303

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Thanks so much to everyone, you guys are amazing.
I was m’sorer last night to start learning a little.
I signed up to learn Mishnayos Yadayim for a family thing, and bought R Yosef Albos י״ג עקרים which I’ve been wanting to learn for a long time.

Im taking it slowly, haven’t learnt yet though.
It’s still very difficult and hard though.
The WebChaver service got back to me and told me how to fix the problem which I will.

Tonight is my birthday, b’ezras Hashem.
I thought I’d be in a much different place at this age. Ready to date, shteiging etc.
I’m trying to embrace the current situation and truly heal.
It is so clear now that I control absolutely nothing in my life. Even my very sanity is not mine.
The only being that is truly independent, as the Derech Hashem says, is Hashem.

I was zoche to daven last night by the Ohel of the Lubavitcher Rebbe ZT”L (though I’m not a lubavitcher, there’s no misnagid in a foxhole) where I davened shmoneh esrei for the first time in awhile.
I can’t explain the clarity I sense at that place. An experience I’ve had only in a few places in this world before.

At this time, the words ״ואנחנו לא נדע מה נעשה כי אליך עינינו״ reverberate through my mind.

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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Dec 2021 18:59 #375307

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Your words are heartfelt, you brought me to tears, may you see great salvation on your Birthday as the bash"t says "אני היום ילדתיך שאל ממנו ואתנה" 
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 28 Dec 2021 06:19 #375318

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None of us are gonna be sitting with tannaim or even gedolim of this dor or previous doros.
Thinking otherwise is a good way to feel good, but I think it’s just a pipe dream.
Gotta wake up to the reality that we’re nothing too special, and unless we are moser nefesh 1,000%, we’re screwed.

Every shmuze I’ve ever heard in Yeshiva definitely seems to support this.

I’m sorry, but I have to interject with the following:

״כיום בדורותינו הכה אפילים, אף אם כל מיעוט גדלותנו הננו צדיקים גמורים ... בן ישיבה כיום המתייגע היטב על תורתן של הגדולים אשר מדורות שלפנים ולפני פנים, ועם כל יגיעתנו ועדיין אינו עומד על דבריו של אותו גדול, אבל סוף כל סוף יתכן והנהו יותר גדול מן אותו הגדול עצמו. באמת כי אין ספק בזה, אלא שאי אפשר לדבר על זה כל כך, מן הדברים האלה עלולים עוד להתהוות בעלי גאווה ... אולם הלא ודאי הוא הדבר בחשך נורא כזה אשר לא יודעים אנחנו מה שאנחנה אחת בדורנו אנו יכולה לפעול למעלה ראשי. כיום, הנה בני ישיבה ודאי יתכן כי הם גדולים יותר מאלה הגדולים אשר מדור שלפנים.״

-דעת תורה מאמרים פרשת שלח

Loose translation: “Nowadays, we are in a darkness. And even if we are small in our greatness, we are still complete tzaddikim … A yeshiva man, today, who works hard on the Torah of the Gedolim from previous generations, and despite his efforts still cannot understand the words of the Gadol, it is possible that he is greater than the Gadol himself. In reality, there is no doubt about this, just we cannot discuss it so much since these words will cause us to become ba’alei gaivah … However, certainly even in this great darkness where we are, we have the ability to become the greatest. Nowadays, a yeshiva man certainly can become even greater than the Gedolim from the previous generation.” -Daas Torah Dissertations Parashas Shelach

Take a look at the words of Rav Yeruchem Levovitz, the late mashgiach of the Mir. Just because we are living in a different time than previous Gedolim does not diminish our ability to become great. As Rav Yeruchem says later in the piece:

“ובכלל, כל גדול נחשב תמיד רק לפי הזמן שבו נמצא.”

“Every Gadol is examined according to the time that he finds himself in.”

And this is not coming from a cute Chassidish vort. This is coming from the man who said that the reason Jews were being sent to concentration camps and the crematorium was because people stopped believing in Gehenom, so HKB”H brought it to this world. He’s not exactly the type to sugar coat anything. And if this was the case during his time (close to 100 years ago), imagine what it is in our time.

Next, let’s take a look at the words of the Arizal, from almost 500 years ago, who gives the reason for this:

״רבינו האר''י ז''ל כתב בשער הגלגולים (ירושלים תרכ''ח דף ס''ב ע''ב) וז''ל של רבי חיים ויטאל: שאלתי למורי (הוא האר''י ז''ל) איך היה אומר שנפשי למעלה כל כך כנזכר בשער הגילגולים באורך, והרי הקטן שבדורות הראשונים היה צדיק וחסיד שאין אני מגיע לעקבו?

ויאמר: דע - כי גדולת הנפש אינה תלויה כפי מעשה האדם, רק כפי הזמן והדור ההוא, כי מעשה קטן בדור הזה, שקול ככמה מצוות בדורות הראשונים, כי ''בדורות האלה'' הקליפה גוברת מאוד מאוד עד אין קץ, מה שאין כן בדורות הראשונים, ואלו היית שם באותם הדורות הקדומים, היו מעשיך וחכמתך נפלאים יותר מכמה צדיקים ראשונים.

אשר על כן שלא תצטער על זה כלל, כי בלא ספק יש ''למעשה קטן'' כיום, מעלה גדולה ממעשה גדול של צדיקים ראשונים מזמן התנאים והאמוראים.״

-ספר שבחי ר' חיים וויטאל

“Loose translation: I (Rav Chaim Vital) asked my Rebbe (The Arizal), how can my soul be so high, if the smallest of the previous generations was a tzaddik and chassid to the extant, that I don’t even reach his ankle?

And the Arizal Responded: You should know, that the greatness of a person is not dependent on the actions of the person, rather it is according to the times and generation. A small action in this generation is equal to many mitzvos of the earlier generations. This is because the “klippos” in our generations are much greater until no end, which did not exist in the previous generations. And if you lived in a previous generation, your actions and knowledge would be much more wondrous than many of the tzaddikim. Do not be disturbed about this at all. Without a doubt, a small action today, is much greater than the tzaddikim from the times of the Tana’aim and Amoraim.”

But in reality, we find this even by Chazal:

״וְכֵן הוּא אוֹמֵר (קהלת ז, י): אַל תֹּאמַר מֶה הָיָה שֶׁהַיָּמִים הָרִאשׁוֹנִים הָיוּ טוֹבִים מֵאֵלֶּה ... אָמַר רַבִּי בֶּרֶכְיָה כְּתִיב (דברי הימים א יב, כח): וִיהוֹיָדָע הַנָּגִיד לְאַהֲרֹן, וְכִי יְהוֹיָדָע הָיָה נָגִיד לְאַהֲרֹן, אֶלָּא אִלּוּ הָיָה אַהֲרֹן קַיָּם בְּדוֹרוֹ שֶׁל יְהוֹיָדָע, יְהוֹיָדָע הָיָה גָדוֹל מִמֶּנּוּ בִּשְׁעָתוֹ. אָמַר רַבִּי סִימָאִי כְּתִיב (דברי הימים א ו, לד): וְאַהֲרֹן וּבָנָיו מַקְטִירִים עַל מִזְבַּח הָעוֹלָה וגו', וְכִי אַהֲרֹן וּבָנָיו קַיָּמִים, וַהֲלֹא צָדוֹק וּבָנָיו הָיוּ, אֶלָּא לְלַמֶּדְךָ שֶׁאִלּוּ הָיָה אַהֲרֹן וּבָנָיו קַיָּמִים, צָדוֹק הָיָה גָדוֹל מֵהֶם בִּשְׁעָתוֹ ... וְרַבָּנָן מַיְיתֵי לָהּ מִן הָכָא (עזרא ז, ה): בֶּן אֲבִישׁוּעַ בֶּן פִּנְחָס בֶּן אֶלְעָזָר בֶּן־אַהֲרֹ֥ן הַכֹּהֵ֖ן הָרֹֽאשׁ וגו' הוּא עֶזְרָא עָלָה מִבָּבֶל, אֶלָּא אִלּוּ הָיָה אַהֲרֹן קַיָּם הָיָה עֶזְרָא גָדוֹל מִמֶּנּוּ בִּשְׁעָתו.״

-קהלת רבה א:ד

Loose Translation: “The posuk says in Koheles (7:10) Do not say that the earlier days were greater than these. Says Rebbe Berechia: The posuk says in Divrei Hayamim I (12:28) “And Yehodaya was the ruler of Ahron.” (However Chazal Darshen the Hebrew as if it were read and Yehodaya to Ahron). Is it true that Yehodaya was opposite to Ahron (in greatness)? Rather, if Ahron was alive in the times of Yehodaya, Yehodaya would have been greater than him. Rav Simai says: The posuk says Divrei Hayamim I (6:34) “And Ahron and his sons offered Ketores on the Mizbeach.” However, were Ahron and his sons alive? Rather Tzadok and his sons were? Rather, it is to teach you that if Ahron and his sons were alive, Tzadok would have been greater than him … And the Rabanan learn this from this posuk (Ezra 7:5): “…son of Abishua son of Phinehas son of Eleazar son of Aaron the chief priest—"  But Ezra was the one who went up from Bavel to Eretz Yisroel? Rather if Ahron was alive during the times of Ezra, Ezra would have been greater.” -Koheles Rabbah 1:4

Do you think that Ezra Hasofer, from the times of the Anshei Kneses Hagedolah, even slightly reached the level of Ahron Hakohen, who stood at Har Sinai? Yet, Chazal tell us that Ezra would have been greater if they lived during the same time.

I’m sorry for being so sharp, but your attitude towered this idea is complete sheker. I’m sure you went to great Yeshivos, but I don’t know how you can argue with Chazal, the Arizal, or Reb Yeruchem. We have the capability to become as great as the Tanaim and Amoraim, even in our dor. We are not “screwed” if we do not put in 1000% (although if you do, you probably will get the front seat in Olam Habah). We don’t have the minds or bodies of the previous dors. We are not going to be omed in every nisayon. There are going to be times when we are “on,” and other times when we are “off.” I’ve read through your thread. You’ve been omed in many situations that a majority of our dor would have fallen. You put more effort into these inyanim than most of our dor. How can you possibly beat yourself up with unrealistic expectations. It’s nothing more than the Yetzer Hara trapping you. And this is beferish in Rav Yeruchims Maamer from earlier:

״הטענה מן המאמרים ז״ל (אליהו רבא פרק כה) ״חייב אדם לומר מתי יגיעו מעשי למעשה אבותי אברהם יצחק ויעקב.״ טענה זו היא כהיום מתחבולות היצר להדיח בו את האדם, ולהבירו מני דרך עבודתו.״

Loose translation: “There are those that claim the maamer from Chazal: “ A person is obligated to say “When will my actions reach the actions of my father’s Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov.” This claim, nowadays, is one of the tactics of the Yetzer Hara to remove a person from his path of service.”

I hope that I was not too harsh.

May you be zocheh to many years of shalom and harvacha.

Have a happy birthday!

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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 28 Dec 2021 14:30 #375326

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omekhadavar wrote on 28 Dec 2021 06:19:


None of us are gonna be sitting with tannaim or even gedolim of this dor or previous doros.
Thinking otherwise is a good way to feel good, but I think it’s just a pipe dream.
Gotta wake up to the reality that we’re nothing too special, and unless we are moser nefesh 1,000%, we’re screwed.

Every shmuze I’ve ever heard in Yeshiva definitely seems to support this.

I’m sorry, but I have to interject with the following:

״כיום בדורותינו הכה אפילים, אף אם כל מיעוט גדלותנו הננו צדיקים גמורים ... בן ישיבה כיום המתייגע היטב על תורתן של הגדולים אשר מדורות שלפנים ולפני פנים, ועם כל יגיעתנו ועדיין אינו עומד על דבריו של אותו גדול, אבל סוף כל סוף יתכן והנהו יותר גדול מן אותו הגדול עצמו. באמת כי אין ספק בזה, אלא שאי אפשר לדבר על זה כל כך, מן הדברים האלה עלולים עוד להתהוות בעלי גאווה ... אולם הלא ודאי הוא הדבר בחשך נורא כזה אשר לא יודעים אנחנו מה שאנחנה אחת בדורנו אנו יכולה לפעול למעלה ראשי. כיום, הנה בני ישיבה ודאי יתכן כי הם גדולים יותר מאלה הגדולים אשר מדור שלפנים.״

-דעת תורה מאמרים פרשת שלח

Loose translation: “Nowadays, we are in a darkness. And even if we are small in our greatness, we are still complete tzaddikim … A yeshiva man, today, who works hard on the Torah of the Gedolim from previous generations, and despite his efforts still cannot understand the words of the Gadol, it is possible that he is greater than the Gadol himself. In reality, there is no doubt about this, just we cannot discuss it so much since these words will cause us to become ba’alei gaivah … However, certainly even in this great darkness where we are, we have the ability to become the greatest. Nowadays, a yeshiva man certainly can become even greater than the Gedolim from the previous generation.” -Daas Torah Dissertations Parashas Shelach

Take a look at the words of Rav Yeruchem Levovitz, the late mashgiach of the Mir. Just because we are living in a different time than previous Gedolim does not diminish our ability to become great. As Rav Yeruchem says later in the piece:

“ובכלל, כל גדול נחשב תמיד רק לפי הזמן שבו נמצא.”

“Every Gadol is examined according to the time that he finds himself in.”

And this is not coming from a cute Chassidish vort. This is coming from the man who said that the reason Jews were being sent to concentration camps and the crematorium was because people stopped believing in Gehenom, so HKB”H brought it to this world. He’s not exactly the type to sugar coat anything. And if this was the case during his time (close to 100 years ago), imagine what it is in our time.

Next, let’s take a look at the words of the Arizal, from almost 500 years ago, who gives the reason for this:

״רבינו האר''י ז''ל כתב בשער הגלגולים (ירושלים תרכ''ח דף ס''ב ע''ב) וז''ל של רבי חיים ויטאל: שאלתי למורי (הוא האר''י ז''ל) איך היה אומר שנפשי למעלה כל כך כנזכר בשער הגילגולים באורך, והרי הקטן שבדורות הראשונים היה צדיק וחסיד שאין אני מגיע לעקבו?

ויאמר: דע - כי גדולת הנפש אינה תלויה כפי מעשה האדם, רק כפי הזמן והדור ההוא, כי מעשה קטן בדור הזה, שקול ככמה מצוות בדורות הראשונים, כי ''בדורות האלה'' הקליפה גוברת מאוד מאוד עד אין קץ, מה שאין כן בדורות הראשונים, ואלו היית שם באותם הדורות הקדומים, היו מעשיך וחכמתך נפלאים יותר מכמה צדיקים ראשונים.

אשר על כן שלא תצטער על זה כלל, כי בלא ספק יש ''למעשה קטן'' כיום, מעלה גדולה ממעשה גדול של צדיקים ראשונים מזמן התנאים והאמוראים.״

-ספר שבחי ר' חיים וויטאל

“Loose translation: I (Rav Chaim Vital) asked my Rebbe (The Arizal), how can my soul be so high, if the smallest of the previous generations was a tzaddik and chassid to the extant, that I don’t even reach his ankle?

And the Arizal Responded: You should know, that the greatness of a person is not dependent on the actions of the person, rather it is according to the times and generation. A small action in this generation is equal to many mitzvos of the earlier generations. This is because the “klippos” in our generations are much greater until no end, which did not exist in the previous generations. And if you lived in a previous generation, your actions and knowledge would be much more wondrous than many of the tzaddikim. Do not be disturbed about this at all. Without a doubt, a small action today, is much greater than the tzaddikim from the times of the Tana’aim and Amoraim.”

But in reality, we find this even by Chazal:

״וְכֵן הוּא אוֹמֵר (קהלת ז, י): אַל תֹּאמַר מֶה הָיָה שֶׁהַיָּמִים הָרִאשׁוֹנִים הָיוּ טוֹבִים מֵאֵלֶּה ... אָמַר רַבִּי בֶּרֶכְיָה כְּתִיב (דברי הימים א יב, כח): וִיהוֹיָדָע הַנָּגִיד לְאַהֲרֹן, וְכִי יְהוֹיָדָע הָיָה נָגִיד לְאַהֲרֹן, אֶלָּא אִלּוּ הָיָה אַהֲרֹן קַיָּם בְּדוֹרוֹ שֶׁל יְהוֹיָדָע, יְהוֹיָדָע הָיָה גָדוֹל מִמֶּנּוּ בִּשְׁעָתוֹ. אָמַר רַבִּי סִימָאִי כְּתִיב (דברי הימים א ו, לד): וְאַהֲרֹן וּבָנָיו מַקְטִירִים עַל מִזְבַּח הָעוֹלָה וגו', וְכִי אַהֲרֹן וּבָנָיו קַיָּמִים, וַהֲלֹא צָדוֹק וּבָנָיו הָיוּ, אֶלָּא לְלַמֶּדְךָ שֶׁאִלּוּ הָיָה אַהֲרֹן וּבָנָיו קַיָּמִים, צָדוֹק הָיָה גָדוֹל מֵהֶם בִּשְׁעָתוֹ ... וְרַבָּנָן מַיְיתֵי לָהּ מִן הָכָא (עזרא ז, ה): בֶּן אֲבִישׁוּעַ בֶּן פִּנְחָס בֶּן אֶלְעָזָר בֶּן־אַהֲרֹ֥ן הַכֹּהֵ֖ן הָרֹֽאשׁ וגו' הוּא עֶזְרָא עָלָה מִבָּבֶל, אֶלָּא אִלּוּ הָיָה אַהֲרֹן קַיָּם הָיָה עֶזְרָא גָדוֹל מִמֶּנּוּ בִּשְׁעָתו.״

-קהלת רבה א:ד

Loose Translation: “The posuk says in Koheles (7:10) Do not say that the earlier days were greater than these. Says Rebbe Berechia: The posuk says in Divrei Hayamim I (12:28) “And Yehodaya was the ruler of Ahron.” (However Chazal Darshen the Hebrew as if it were read and Yehodaya to Ahron). Is it true that Yehodaya was opposite to Ahron (in greatness)? Rather, if Ahron was alive in the times of Yehodaya, Yehodaya would have been greater than him. Rav Simai says: The posuk says Divrei Hayamim I (6:34) “And Ahron and his sons offered Ketores on the Mizbeach.” However, were Ahron and his sons alive? Rather Tzadok and his sons were? Rather, it is to teach you that if Ahron and his sons were alive, Tzadok would have been greater than him … And the Rabanan learn this from this posuk (Ezra 7:5): “…son of Abishua son of Phinehas son of Eleazar son of Aaron the chief priest—"  But Ezra was the one who went up from Bavel to Eretz Yisroel? Rather if Ahron was alive during the times of Ezra, Ezra would have been greater.” -Koheles Rabbah 1:4

Do you think that Ezra Hasofer, from the times of the Anshei Kneses Hagedolah, even slightly reached the level of Ahron Hakohen, who stood at Har Sinai? Yet, Chazal tell us that Ezra would have been greater if they lived during the same time.

I’m sorry for being so sharp, but your attitude towered this idea is complete sheker. I’m sure you went to great Yeshivos, but I don’t know how you can argue with Chazal, the Arizal, or Reb Yeruchem. We have the capability to become as great as the Tanaim and Amoraim, even in our dor. We are not “screwed” if we do not put in 1000% (although if you do, you probably will get the front seat in Olam Habah). We don’t have the minds or bodies of the previous dors. We are not going to be omed in every nisayon. There are going to be times when we are “on,” and other times when we are “off.” I’ve read through your thread. You’ve been omed in many situations that a majority of our dor would have fallen. You put more effort into these inyanim than most of our dor. How can you possibly beat yourself up with unrealistic expectations. It’s nothing more than the Yetzer Hara trapping you. And this is beferish in Rav Yeruchims Maamer from earlier:

״הטענה מן המאמרים ז״ל (אליהו רבא פרק כה) ״חייב אדם לומר מתי יגיעו מעשי למעשה אבותי אברהם יצחק ויעקב.״ טענה זו היא כהיום מתחבולות היצר להדיח בו את האדם, ולהבירו מני דרך עבודתו.״

Loose translation: “There are those that claim the maamer from Chazal: “ A person is obligated to say “When will my actions reach the actions of my father’s Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov.” This claim, nowadays, is one of the tactics of the Yetzer Hara to remove a person from his path of service.”

I hope that I was not too harsh.

May you be zocheh to many years of shalom and harvacha.

Have a happy birthday!


Wow! Just wow! They should post this on the wall in every yeshiva.
In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

Great free resources:
My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation 
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 28 Dec 2021 14:30 #375327

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One of my favourite stories is told about the chofetz Chaim when he was talking to bochurim from branowitz

The chofetz Chaim asked the following:
Yaakov avinu, when he heard that Yosef was still alive and in mitzraim, said 'I'll go and see him before I die'. Why did Yaakov have such a burning desire to meet Yosef in this world? They will be together in gan Eden forever? 

He answered that when Yaakov heated what Yosef hatzadik had been through and how he had remained so holy in such a place, he knew that even he, Yaakov avinu would not be sitting anywhere close to Yosef in gan Eden and the last chance to be with together would be only on this world.

At this point the chofetz Chaim started crying and he turned to R Elchonon and said, thank you thank you for giving me a chance to see the bochurim of today now, because after they live through the 20th century, there is no way that we will come close to their olam haba. 
Any jew that preserves his kedusha in such a world is far far greater than all the gedolim of the past

This was over 100 years ago
If you think it was exaggerated at the time, at least now, in todays world we can start believing it

The problem is that the world has normalised all that is filthy to the extant that we don't appreciate how a healthy human would act and think when the world was how it was designed 
We have to start feeling that all we see and hear is not normal. It should not be like this. Then we can start feeling the obviousness of the need to be a real human, to be holy and pure

Hatzlocho 
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