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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 04 Feb 2021 06:11 #362708

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YeshivaGuy wrote on 04 Feb 2021 04:06:

cordnoy wrote on 04 Feb 2021 03:07:





I actually think that a 3rd option of some "tough love" might be beneficial as well.

“Might” is the key word. It would be best to not forget that. It also Might have a negative affect, when it’s done wrong. Especially to a person who’s already in emotional pain.
A thought.

especialy when the tough is felt but the love isnt...
For an explanation on my choice of username and avatar see my first post 
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 05 Feb 2021 03:01 #362775

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YeshivaGuy wrote on 04 Feb 2021 05:25:
Lol
Alls good guys, no worries. I’m really fine, no need to cover bases or anything.
I was just saying to be mindful to a person in a shtikl Depression. And if u never experienced real clinicial depression, then better not to risk it.

Anyway, I may take a miny break from here... Y’all are great. Hatzlocha and Shkoyach!

I hope you’re in good hands. We’ll be missing you, but don’t feel pressured to post 24/7

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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 09 Feb 2021 04:55 #362974

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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 09 Feb 2021 17:38 #363018

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Haven’t met with him yet. He wants to give me more time to get better on my own. I’m slowly getting better bh. And I’m keeping this phone in my friends room and only using it there

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 12 Feb 2021 05:39 #363215

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Baruch HaShem I’ve been doing pretty well.
Been sick the last few days, so feeling shver.
Staying away from my phone has been going great, though I’ve had it on me while sick so I can contact my chavrusa, friends, parents etc, and I don’t have koach to go upstairs.
Baruch HaShem I’ve been doing well though.

Finnaly had a great morning seder at beginning of the week, but then got sick. But THATS OK! Because I’m searving HaShem. Not Myself. And I need to accept what HaShem gives me and make the most of it.

Im trying to be patient with myself on many fronts, including learning, davening, weight loss etc, and it’s been going pretty well Bh.

Been feeling a shtikl “free,” though I’m scared to say that...
Spoke to a guy my age who hasn’t masterbated in like 1/2 years, and I felt like what’s the point of what I’m doing if he’s that ahead of me. 
But I discarded that thought as stupid.

Anyway, will be bkesher!
A Gut Chodesh and a Gut Shabbos!


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Last Edit: 12 Feb 2021 05:47 by YeshivaGuy.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 14 Feb 2021 01:28 #363273

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160 days clean Baruch HaShem.
Had a dream on Shabbos that was in bed with a certain girl and was about to... then woke up.
Was pretty bummed out that didn’t finish the dream.
And was turned on etc.
Bh didnt “act out.”

There was a Bar Mitzva on campus so was a woman walking by me.  Baruch HaShem I looked down so not to grow the flame of taiva that was burning from the dream.
It was hard but I prevailed, Bh.

I’m proud to have made it this far, im in the mood now to be nichshal a bit, but I’ll take a pass.

Still not feeling the best, my head has been hurting a lot the last 4 days...
Anyway, Gut Vuch!


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Last Edit: 14 Feb 2021 01:33 by YeshivaGuy.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 14 Feb 2021 01:45 #363274

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הנך שבוייתא דאתאי לנהרדעא,  אסקינהו לבי רב עמרם חסידא, אשקולו דרגא מקמייהו

בהדי דקא חלפה חדא מנייהו נפל נהורא באיפומא, שקליה רב עמרם לדרגא דלא הוו יכלין בי עשרה למדלייא, דלייא לחודיה

סליק ואזיל, כי מטא לפלגא דרגא איפשח, רמא קלא: נורא בי עמרם

אתו רבנן, אמרו ליה: כסיפתינן

אמר להו: מוטב תיכספו בי עמרם בעלמא הדין, ולא תיכספו מיניה לעלמא דאתי

אשבעיה דינפק מיניה, נפק מיניה כי עמודא דנורא, אמר ליה: חזי, דאת נורא ואנא בישרא,
ואנא עדיפנא מינך.

קידושין פא


your schar is completely off the charts, buddy

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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 14 Feb 2021 11:50 #363291

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Mazal tov on 160 days!
I cant wait to be in your shoes, thank you for sharing your journey.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 14 Feb 2021 14:35 #363301

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Keep on going!
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 16 Feb 2021 05:09 #363463

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The voices are speaking. Saying I have no future. I am doomed. I missed first seder last two days and I will never retrieve that opportunity. I’m done.

I watch the bustling buchrim and chevrei hakollel, learning yomam v’laila.
And me?
I walk in a daze. 
Aimlessly traversing these hollowed grounds.

Oy.
But, I shall pull myself together ones more, with inner strength and will. I will go to sleep and tomorrow will be better. It WILL.
I need to believe. 

Good night dearest friends
Last Edit: 16 Feb 2021 05:11 by YeshivaGuy.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 16 Feb 2021 05:14 #363464

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YeshivaGuy wrote on 16 Feb 2021 05:09:
The voices are speaking. Saying I have no future. I am doomed. I missed first seder last two days and I will never retrieve that opportunity. I’m done.
I pull myself together ones more, with inner string and will. I will go to sleep and tomorrow will be better. It WILL.
I need to believe. 

Good night dearest friends 

My Rosh Yeshiva (He will have to remain nameless) is someone that speaks always blashon nekiya. However, he once told that sometimes you have to just turn around and tell your yetzer hara "Shut up!" I think that response would be appropriate to those doomsday voices that you hear.
Hatzlocha

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 16 Feb 2021 05:46 #363469

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Heilige YG,

For many years I was the "bustling bochur and chaver hakollel" that you refer to....yet I could not string together 3 clean weeks.

You ain't no slouch, bro

Excuse the reality check from Grodno ~ IMG

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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 16 Feb 2021 05:57 #363471

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Ish MiGrodno wrote on 16 Feb 2021 05:46:
Heilige YG,

For many years I was the "bustling bochur and chaver hakollel" that you refer to....yet I could not string together 3 clean weeks.

You ain't no slouch, bro

Excuse the reality check from Grodno ~ IMG

Yes I hear and appreciate the reality check.
But idk, I feel like it’s more choshuv to be a masmid/Talmud Chacham that isn’t matzliach in Shmiras hakedusha than to be some guy who just doesn’t masterbate...
Excuse my probably crumb mindset, but a part of me would rather be a Talmud Chacham than a tzadik.

The question is why?

Anyway chevra, ah Gutten Nacht!
Last Edit: 16 Feb 2021 05:59 by YeshivaGuy.

Re: Make it to Yeshiva 16 Feb 2021 06:04 #363474

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 I feel like it’s more choshuv to be a masmid/Talmud Chacham that isn’t matzliach in Shmiras hakedusha than to be some guy who just doesn’t masterbate...

ROTFL

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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 16 Feb 2021 06:06 #363475

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Ish MiGrodno wrote on 16 Feb 2021 06:04:


 I feel like it’s more choshuv to be a masmid/Talmud Chacham that isn’t matzliach in Shmiras hakedusha than to be some guy who just doesn’t masterbate...

ROTFL

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