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Re: just joined 25 Dec 2020 06:17 #359718

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A Brother wrote on 25 Dec 2020 01:57:
thank you so much for keeping tabs... after a fall im back up and 3 days strong... still cant bring myself to talk to him... but for the meantime i made up with myself that I will absolutely wait 15 minutes before doing something I might regret. And, if by then I still think its worth the 100$ knas I put on myslef for watching, I can go ahead. So far so good thank G-d. 

Write a shtar, it helps a lot.
I highly recommend speaking to one of the guys here on the phone. It changes everything.
Ypu can PM me for info on who/how to call.

And update more often man! Don’t be embarrassed of falls, or anything.
We are one family.
Dont ever forget that.

Re: just joined 31 Dec 2020 13:58 #360254

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How's our brother doing? Is he in control? 

Re: just joined 01 Jan 2021 15:18 #360345

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No darn it I completely broke my plan last night... totally fell straight through.... ahhhhhhhhhhh
Last Edit: 01 Jan 2021 15:24 by a brother.

Re: just joined 01 Jan 2021 15:25 #360346

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Costs me a whole lot of money 

Re: just joined 01 Jan 2021 15:28 #360347

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Instead of my bro though, now my mother has the password to my filter so hopefully it’ll be a little harder to justify reasons to turn it off. And now the 100$ knas is for using my device in a private place ever.... so that I don’t get far enough that I lose control 

Re: just joined 03 Jan 2021 07:18 #360412

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Ok great.
Please keep us in touch. Talk about yourself, your ups and downs etc.
We are one family and we really all care about you.
Hatzlocha!

Re: just joined 03 Jan 2021 07:47 #360416

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You are amazing and a modern day Yosef Hatzadik.

One pointer: I did Taphsic with all of its ups and downs, I paid tons of money, was a regular in the hataras nedarim chevra, etc...

L'maaseh, nothing changed until I change my self-talk and worked on rewiring my brain. I can't explain this concept as well as Hashem Help Me can; I would highly advise that you reach out to him...

​Be strong and keep up your awesome work!

ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳]

 Perhaps you can find chizuk from my thread at guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/356161-Intro 

Feel free to reach out to me at
jackz90dys@gmail.com

Re: just joined 03 Jan 2021 13:17 #360420

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Ok thank you @yeshivaGuy for caring. Now 2 days clean. It feels so much better than being under the control of my yetzer hara. I will not fall today

Re: just joined 03 Jan 2021 13:33 #360422

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Wow. @ish migrodno
i checked out your thread. Woh. Dude. You are a massive inspiration. May hashem give you strength. The honesty and integrity it takes to do what you are doing, after being stuck for so long.... here I am feeling stuck and hopeless, then I see someone like you.... 
if you are not stuck, then I am not stuck.
you are overcoming this, and so can I. Wow. Am honored to speak on the same forum as you. Thank you for your chizzuk 
im familiar with those concepts, and you are right. I have been punishing myself for a while and I still fall.... it’s time to take that route 

Re: just joined 05 Jan 2021 17:02 #360621

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To all the heiligeh yidden who have been encouraging me so far
For the first time in a very long while I am clean for 4 days. Your assistance has gotten me thus far. Thank you all my brothers and friends I feel like a human being

Re: just joined 05 Jan 2021 17:12 #360623

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Amazing!! Soo proud of you!

Re: just joined 05 Jan 2021 17:33 #360625

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Beautiful! Thanks for sharing! 

Re: just joined 06 Jan 2021 04:28 #360678

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Keep em coming!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: just joined 06 Jan 2021 14:18 #360712

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Sometimes it seems that big numbers of long streaks is what's impressive and amazing. But in Hashem's eyes (the only truth that matters), it's all about the effort. And the clearest indication of effort is when you do what you haven't done in while, or ever!

Keep it up!
In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

Great free resources:
My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation 
https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Change your attitude and change your life!

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: 
https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/

If you're only ready to try something small, check out an easier way to do self-talk here:
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain—Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge

Re: just joined 08 Jan 2021 02:18 #360817

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I am also new to this process and learning as I go along. The process works and the struggle is worth it. Just knowing that there are so many other people out there who are going through the same thing...to know you are not alone. It is like someone reached out a hand to you and is pulling you up, out of the dark place we fall into. Something that helps me, advice from my social worker: porn was a problem, but deeper than that it was how I was self treating a problem. Once I identfied what I was using porn to escape from, and started to honestly address that issue, it started to dissolve my need for porn The struggle is ongoing, but gets better everyday. Keep up the fight, keep up your faith. I hope this was helpful friend.
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