Hi all. I am in my early 20's and have had this problem for about 10 years now. I accept that i have control over my actions and thoughts, but it is still a work in progress for me. Having read so many stories of people who go into marriage with this problem and the tzuris it causes them has been a major motivator for me joining here. I can't bring myself to even have a hava amina that my dor yeshorim number be given out until I am at least 90 days clean and have been cleared by a therapist. I have not been to a therapist yet but am looking for one. 
I know this can be done, even after years, I know i can change. Thank you to everyone who has gone before me to help me on my journey of healing.

Hey, welcome. Looking forward to following along on your journey.
If you're looking for a therapist, Relief might be able to help with that.

Welcome! Youve come to the right place! And good for you for taking care of this before marriage, something I wish i would have done... Hatzlocho! We are here for you!

Hi welcome, make sure to keep us updated on your progress!

Just one little pointer, you wrote "I accept that i have control over my actions and thoughts" while i agree with you that we have control over our actions, i absolutely don't have any control over my thoughts or emotions. The problem with many of us is that we think we could and must control all thoughts and feelings, one of the most useful things i learned in recovery is i can't control how i'm feeling and sometimes i'm going to feel awful and that's ok, but just because i'm feeling  a certain way doesn't mean i have to act on it "i could ride the waves"!

Wishing you lots of success on your journey 

  Love Yankel!

thank you for that reference. I will look into that.

thanks! your words mean a lot to me

Hey welcome !

Kol hakavod that you are starting to tackle this NOW , many guys Mistakenly think that once thay get married this issue goes away ... WRONG  - now its worse  in many ways as I and others here can attest to

Hatzlachah