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Re: stop rating 23 Jan 2017 16:05 #303926

tzomah OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 295 Karma: 11	but how do i stop when i am in the middle of forming a opinion.........
	like a bridge over troubled waters my stuff

Re: stop rating 23 Jan 2017 16:21 #303929

ngc51853 OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 19 Karma: 2	You start small. You catch yourself in the act. You tell yourself "No! I'm not gonna think about that". Then you distract yourself until that urge passes. Wash rinse repeat until you train your mind to not to think like that anymore. Its not gonna happen over night. You don't go from beer-belly to 6-pack over night. U gotta train and exercise your mind. Constantly. Repeatedly.

Re: stop rating 23 Jan 2017 16:53 #303932

tzomah OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 295 Karma: 11	ngc51853 wrote on 23 Jan 2017 16:21: You start small. You catch yourself in the act. can you explain small
	like a bridge over troubled waters my stuff

Re: stop rating 23 Jan 2017 17:09 #303934

ngc51853 OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 19 Karma: 2	Sure - small means that you're not committing to crazy kabalos in attempt to break free. Been there, and didn't work a bit. All that that method brings on is anger and resentment. Rather, slowly work on changing your reaction to seeing a female by realizing that this struggle is not something you want in your life and that you want to change. Realize that your biggest opponent is yourself.

Re: stop rating 23 Jan 2017 17:16 #303939

tzomah OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 295 Karma: 11	ok so i'm going to buy cofee soon there will be a girl there and i........ what?
	like a bridge over troubled waters my stuff

Re: stop rating 23 Jan 2017 17:31 #303941

GrowStrong Current streak: 2153 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder OMAAT Posts: 888 Karma: 89	And you will continue to rate every female you see between a 1 to a 10 because that's the habit you have created for yourself that you cannot break. Until you break it. And that will happen by...........

Re: stop rating 23 Jan 2017 17:38 #303943

tzomah OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 295 Karma: 11	so i need to forget the cofee
	like a bridge over troubled waters my stuff

Re: stop rating 23 Jan 2017 17:40 #303944

tzomah OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 295 Karma: 11	this is great never confronted this issue in such a real way thank you everyone and gye bye now
	like a bridge over troubled waters my stuff

Re: stop rating 23 Jan 2017 18:19 #303959

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Re: stop rating 23 Jan 2017 18:32 #303964

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when out and about - my FILTERED smartphone is my best friend. go for coffee - check out drudgereport.com and see what stupid thing the democrats are doing today. check out the scores from last night's game and the highlights. download an ebook and read it. look at funny (clean) memes. write long dragged out posts on the GYE forum, etc etc etc
the goal is to train your mind to not instinctively think about the attractiveness (or lack thereof) of anyone you run into. staying at home will only exasperate the issue - delay the symptoms at most. you got to fight it.

Re: stop rating 23 Jan 2017 18:38 #303966

trouble OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 874 Karma: 224	cordnoy wrote on 23 Jan 2017 18:19: So.... NoI coffee No streets No computer No stores No library Come join me in a one man igloo in Ankara. Thanks GYE Igloos in Ankara!?
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Re: stop rating 24 Jan 2017 08:58 #304062

tzomah OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 295 Karma: 11	the goal is to train your mind to not instinctively think about the attractiveness (or lack thereof) of anyone you run into. staying at home will only exasperate the issue - delay the symptoms at most. you got to fight it. is distracting yourself a way of training the mind
	like a bridge over troubled waters my stuff

Re: stop rating 24 Jan 2017 09:00 #304063

tzomah OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 295 Karma: 11	cordnoy wrote on 23 Jan 2017 18:19: So.... NoI coffee No streets No computer No stores No library Come join me in a one man igloo in Ankara. Thanks GYE shucks I thought we could somehow squeeze her in
	like a bridge over troubled waters my stuff

Re: stop rating 24 Jan 2017 09:41 #304073

Singularity Current streak: 72 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder To write, or not to write? Posts: 1507 Karma: 78	cordnoy wrote on 23 Jan 2017 18:19: So.... NoI coffee No streets No computer No stores No library Come join me in a one man igloo in Ankara. Thanks GYE Chas v'Shalom, cords! Your long, waving, luscious hair is way too triggering.
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Re: stop rating 24 Jan 2017 23:38 #304146

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tzomah wrote on 24 Jan 2017 08:58:

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the goal is to train your mind to not instinctively think about the attractiveness (or lack thereof) of anyone you run into. staying at home will only exasperate the issue - delay the symptoms at most. you got to fight it.

is distracting yourself a way of training the mind

Consciously distracting yourself will train your mind to not jump to those thoughts every time you run into a trigger. You want to wean yourself off of the that "instinct". But it is important to recognize that you are distracting yourself to not look at what is infront of you. If you just are distracted for the sake of being distracted, then that really doesn't do anything. That would be like going to a lecture and sleeping through it - yeah, you're there but you didn't gain anything. It's all about focus abf determination.