I've been looking through some of the forums. Specifically ones that deal with marriage. Can someone help me understand, I know I'm the one with an addiction problem, and therefore I have to work on myself, but so many people are complaining about their wives, either that they're not having sex or they feel like their wives are doing them a favor, there are a lot of responses about treating your wife better or something like that. Marriage is a two way street! I understand giving in, I use the idea it's better to be happy than to be right. But still sometimes I feel like woman should also be working on their marriage. I know they're not the addict, but they should work on stuff also. Basically I'm asking why does it seem to me that the guys are the ones who are told so much about working on shalom bayis and the woman not so much

I know you guys are trying to help, but this really isn't working for me. Forget about lust, porn or anything like that for a second I feel under appreciated and unloved when sex isn't in my life. Is that because I'm an addict? I don't see the connection