Thank you so much for your comments T613. WHat should I say I am comforted to know that I am not the only one who feels like a loser sometimes...
Agreed it is just plain unhealthy and abnormal behavior. I totally get what you are saying regarding having different 'drugs' and how you may look at mine and me at yours.... The point is that what addicts have in common is that we lose our identity and humanity to this drug. Whether it is lusting for X, Y or Z we at some point lose the control that makes us people and instead behave like zombies. I don't even think I am on the level of animal, because animals just seek their natural needs, whereas I am seeking a way to placate inner stresses with an act that was never intended to serve that purpose. I become worse than an animal- self degrading and .. well not a good me.
It's good to sometimes remember though what a loser I feel like when I act out. It is not just guilt that I feel. I feel like a loser because people I associate with look at me like a loser. And at that point,,, well I am acting like a loser so I guess I get what I deserve.
On a separate note: Today wound up being an unusual day. I had a great business conversation and some good things happening on that end. However, I became very emotional and distraught. Truthfully, I take some mild antidepressants. ANd I ran short for a few days, so maybe that is what I am feeling. I didn't want to write that. BUt it is kind of hard to write anything wthout putting that out there.
In anycase, I was also feeling (I think) some of the pain that I have felt inside for a long time as I have been struggling in business. Now that some good things are happening I think the pain I have been feeling is surfacing.
On the other hand, as a result of working the steps, I have been rally improving with a family member who has presented me a lot of challenges and frustration in the past. Tonight in particular we were talking and instead of berating them for not seeing things my way, I complimented their approach, as it truly was deserving of compliment. Although they did not see the solution that I did, their solution was definitely good from one perspective. After noting that I said, "but I think there is something even better that you can do and that is ....."
Responding this way is something I have always wanted to do. I was glad I was able to do it tonight and hope to act in that way more going forward.