Hey dude, How's it going?

We need every friend we can get here, please KOP!!

dear jake my holy brother!
thanks for sharing your story & struggles.forgive me if i am off base (still drunk from yesterdays binging on lust) Congratulation on your day count and on joing GYE
how about some easy eitzahs for simcha

heard recently from a chashuve mashgiach: (i think it is based on a Rambam)
Music helps to boost the mood. try playing leibidige music (not the goyishe type)
Second is working on GRATITUDE write a list daily.it takes a lot of work but it pays off.
btw excercise is a proven mood elevator. any way u could go walking together with your wife?

btw have u ever tried meditation?

I found that music is very soothing and beneficial for me too. Just find something that you can really get into that makes you feel good. Keep it up! KOP

Thanks to all for the chizuk.
Over the last couple of days I started talking nightly walks with my wife (who incredibly sensed something is up with me and comes no matter how tired!). Also worked very hard on only speaking and acting positively throughout the day.
And (i hope this doesnt sound silly) went to a health store and got sam-e and vitamin b pill which are supposed to be great for moods.
So far doing much better. Dont know if a: joining the forum or b:working with my wife in general on this or c: the supplements did it (or maybe its just in the mind, but who cares thats where the trouble started in the first place) but B'H something is improving. Hope to maintain it and keep building on it

Thanks for the update!!

It's been proven that putting effort into building true relationships diminishes the lusting a great deal, so that does make sense, as does joining the forum make sense to help, and keeping an eye on our moods!!

KUTGW!! KOMT!!!

Keep it up and keep us posted. Glad to hear things are going well. KOP

Hi Jake,

Welcome aboard! You are an inspiration for all of us. Keep up the good work and keep us posted on your journey to recovery.

Dear Jake
Gevaldig! Sounds like Siyata D'Shmaya! btw the women are intuitive.Congrats on ur day count! Keep it going! Very happy to hear that thing are getting better.

Wow, it's such hasghacha pratis that you mention about your wife's negativity. My wife is also negative, but for reasons relating to her work. She says that she feels under appreciated at work, which in turn makes her feel worthless. She's commonly telling me how she's not good at anything and, unfortunately, I guess I just realized now that I'm starting to believe her. (that's for later though…) The ways in which I deal with her negativity is to counter it with my being positive. I know it seems futile at times, but the only person accountable for how you react to any situation is yourself, so if your wife is being negative, it's not her negativity that is causing you to be negative, it's you letting it affect you that's making you negative. Reach out to me in a personal message if you need more support. Hatzlacha!