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TOPIC: SOBRIETY 10487 Views

Re: SOBRIETY 28 Jun 2015 19:45 #257966

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stillgoing wrote:
pischoshelmachat
I feel the same way. I feel so close to all my dear friends here and would love them at my simcha. Then maybe you are my brother, cousin, mechiten, or even son in law and really are at my simcha

All of your talk of my (future) son-in-law, or (present) father-in-law could be here on gye? And he might even be YOU, is starting to get me a little nervous. All of us here are striving to grow and that's nothing at all to be ashamed of, yet some of my past mistakes... well, they can be a little embarrassing if you know what I mean.


stillgoing you are doing so well. Please focus on your own words "... yet some of my past mistakes..."

Be'ezras Hashem they will remain behind you. So as you continue living a life of Sobriety and meaning the old past mistakes change from being items of shame to medals of honor and distinction.
Because of how you CHOSE to deal with these mistakes you have elevated both yourself and so many others as well.
Last Edit: 28 Jun 2015 19:46 by yiraishamaim.

Re: SOBRIETY 29 Jun 2015 22:51 #258094

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Appreciation

a bite to eat
a breath of fresh air
a walk in the park
a quick glance or stare

perhaps small things
in many a man's eye
who gives it a thought
no interest to buy

But for the wise
who value the reflection
they understand things' worth
that have no compensation

one must add to this list
that which deserves a benediction
living a meaningful life
without the burden of addiction

To simply exist
without the hunger or need
of pursuing the inappropriate
from slavery we are freed

With hearts full of gratitude
we forever sing thank you
to Hashem, source of all blessing
and the GYE crew
Last Edit: 19 Aug 2015 01:11 by yiraishamaim.

Re: SOBRIETY 30 Jun 2015 00:27 #258100

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yiraishamaim wrote:
I have not seen any posts from Shmeichel for a long time. Does anyone know why?

I miss him. I tried contacting him by e-mail but did not receive a response.


He did reply to an email or two from me. (I think it worked by fighting with him a bit) ...he says he's fighting the battle.

I told him we miss him but I didn't get a response.
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Re: SOBRIETY 30 Jun 2015 16:28 #258155

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pischoshelmachat

I feel the same way. I feel so close to all my dear friends here and would love them at my simcha. Then maybe you are my brother, cousin, mechiten, or even son in law and really are at my simcha
stillgoing

All of your talk of my (future) son-in-law, or (present) father-in-law could be here on gye? And he might even be YOU, is starting to get me a little nervous. All of us here are striving to grow and that's nothing at all to be ashamed of, yet some of my past mistakes... well, they can be a little embarrassing if you know what I mean.
yiraishamaim

stillgoing you are doing so well. Please focus on your own words "... yet some of my past mistakes..."

Be'ezras Hashem they will remain behind you. So as you continue living a life of Sobriety and meaning the old past mistakes change from being items of shame to medals of honor and distinction.
Because of how you CHOSE to deal with these mistakes you have elevated both yourself and so many others as well.

Well now you know, They are not past anymore but present. Actually as I am writing this I realize that It is past! So what if it's only 13 hours past and not 64 days past. If we only look at the moment (one day at a time) then right now it is past! Hurray! I started writing this gloomily and ended happily. It must be the kedusha emulating from the threads author.
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Last Edit: 30 Jun 2015 21:11 by stillgoing.

Re: SOBRIETY 30 Jun 2015 23:20 #258241

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stillgoing you are a good man

I know your gonna raise yourself up and get back on the sobriety road.

If I got a dime for every time I fell I would be a rich man

Kol Tuv and keep on posting!
Last Edit: 01 Jul 2015 03:38 by yiraishamaim.

Re: SOBRIETY 30 Jun 2015 23:26 #258242

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Yoo da best!
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Re: SOBRIETY 09 Jul 2015 00:45 #259086

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Went to a meeting today. Now get this. I am over 50. I go to the receptionist and state my arrival and that I have an appointment. This young woman of maybe 25-30 has to smile at me.

Then when she says Mr. so and so can see you now. She says let me lead you to his office and walks in front of me up two flights - totally unnecessary.

I am not foolish enough to think she actually liked me. She probably just likes that men should notice her. I did not smile back or show her any interest.

However, as you can see thoughts are still lingering.

Again we see that nisyonos and triggers can pop up any time.

May G-d save us!

Re: SOBRIETY 09 Jul 2015 01:28 #259099

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Some seriously addictive thinking there chaver.
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Re: SOBRIETY 09 Jul 2015 01:34 #259102

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serenity, I respect your opinion, unfortunately I don't think I understand it.

Perhaps I am thinking too deeply into your words.
Last Edit: 09 Jul 2015 01:50 by yiraishamaim.

Re: SOBRIETY 09 Jul 2015 03:00 #259111

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Maybe she just gets paid to be courteous, and her job includes smiling at clients and escorting them to the boss's office?
I honestly don't think this is so farfetched. She prrobably went right back to her game of solitaire without giving you a second thought.
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Re: SOBRIETY 09 Jul 2015 03:05 #259112

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Oh I agree I was just displaying that it was a trigger.

I clearly stated she had no interest in me specifically.

Re: SOBRIETY 09 Jul 2015 03:49 #259114

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yiraishamaim wrote:
I am not foolish enough to think she actually liked me. She probably just likes that men should notice her.

I was just saying, לאו דוקא even that.
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Re: SOBRIETY 09 Jul 2015 23:14 #259178

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Good day today.

Learned, davened and no illusions of women trying to get my admiration.

Thanks for setting me straight.

Re: SOBRIETY 14 Jul 2015 01:03 #259379

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You know this journey to sobriety is so precious. Lessons attained flow over to other parts of life.

I have definitely improved especially in my emunah.
For example my direct superior at work is a woman who has begun to be unreasonably difficult and demanding on me. The past couple of years many quality people in our organization have been let go and she hinted to me that perhaps I would be next.
I am handling it much better than I would of because of what I have learned and attained from the quest and journey to be free of lust.
As well, because I am sober for a while I also feel better about myself which makes for less anxiety.
I must admit that I still need more work on the emunah bitachon department but we all know that it takes constant work.
Thanks all for your continued support, but most of all for just being there.

Re: SOBRIETY 21 Jul 2015 22:17 #260019

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Yiraishamayim,
An extra thank you for that post.
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