First of all, welcome!

You've taken an amazing step already - you've accepted that your struggles till now have not been working, and you're trying something new and different.

And yes, it is scary. But that's the thing - one of the damaging parts of this...problem, drug, addiction, whatever you want to call it, is that it becomes our big, dark, scary secret. And we get so used to wrapping ourselves around it to cover it up and hide it, that we end up twisting our whole lives up just doing that!

So opening up about it is something we're totally not used to, and it's going to be scary.

The question you have to ask yourself is: do you really want to stop? How important is it to you?

Agree with what everybody has said here... hiding my lust problem from others meant that I was hiding it from myself as well... in fact, hiding it from myself has been crucial to its continuation. I need to face facts - as hard as that might be - that I have a problem, and that I must take responsibility for my actions in order to address that problem.

Please G-d, we should all have hatzlacha rabba in our efforts... and a good clean day today.

-- Larry

I guess your right, if I wasn't GYE yet I probably would have acted out do the stress...

Guys I'm happy to say that I'm up to 2 days dlean! for me this is amazing because the past few
days have been very hectic, (I'm actually flying now), Thank g-d for gye I have hope on how to help avoid and deal with all the triggers while travelig.

I just made a special thread for my 90 challenge, it's called sj's life changer.

A new level of the challenge is starting for me now, since I'm home for pesach which include more "alone "periods of time and many more triggers around...

Is there some volunteer work that you can do over Pesach? Visit nursing homes or hospitals? Put the seforim away at shul? ???

hatzlacha!

SamJoe wrote:
I remember bein hazemanim well. Very tough time. Try and stay busy as much as possible. get together with friends, exersise... Really, do anything not to be alone and/or bored. Hatzlacha!

I'm trying to busy and involved with family (my mother is trying to figure out why I'm so accepting in doing so many jobs Shabbos! ) I noticed that usually I'm so involved with the struggle that I don't really spend the time with family, I'm taking Dov's words to heart (see my thread under sj's life changer) and want to get myself focus and involved in some real life experiences

Thanks guys, Hatzlacha!

SamJoe wrote:

Hatzlacha to you and have a great Shabbos!

Hi guys! I feel like I'm in isolation (not a good recipe for recovery) so I'm gonna reach out, so far I'm still clean and just made it to 7 days! One day at a time and now it's like one minute at a time:woohoo:
Seriously it's starting to get tough and I feel like I'm gonna fall one of these days the taphsic method is awesome but now my lust is starting to kick at the fence... Anybody?

You don't need the release that u think u do. Stay positive and focus on the person that you want to be.

Stay positive and trust that Hashem ishelping you - no anxiety now- just relax - breathe deeply and have the certainty that those filthy depressive days are behind you

Whenever an inappropriate thought enters your mind - just blow it away with ease - after all Hashem is helping you

Whatever your degree of attachment you have with lust you can be sure there are others with more serious attachment that have significant YEARS of sobriety -Isn't it time for you to get on the same road?

Im lo achshav aimosai?

Believe

It's amazing how focus and mindset really make a difference, I will probably need to hear "be positive" etc. Many more times but this is definitely the way to go!
Thanks for keeping me positive!