Thanks to all for your replies...

Just for clarify, I haven't had sex with my girlfriend.


By the moment we have a relationship by phone, most with text messages.

Fantasies with she arejust for moments, respectfully, I will not go into details. But, you know, after talk with her or think of her, sexual desire arrives thinking in being with she at that time.
It is for a little time, the I have to say to me: "wait, you will have her properly when you get married, you do not need this, just wait, she will not deny anything proper for you". It helps...

She is not my wife because we are started our relationship six months ago. It requires some time to get married, and it is not too simple like say "let us do it".

UnJovenConfundido wrote:


welcome to the forums.

I was married for over four months by the time I knew my wife for six months. I don't regret it and we have had and continue to have a beautiful marriage. It might be easier than you think. (I don't mean to bud into your personal life but just wanted to share my experience with you.)

Thanks for your answers.

I am a very sick lust addict, so what I say doesn't apply to what's normal.

You asked about fantasizing about her. It's probably normal to think about sex when we think about a woman we like.

Personally, though, when I started dating my wife I made extra efforts not to think about her in a sexual way. I didn't want to reduce her to the same base level I reduced all other women to.

Pervert's code of honor.

If only I kept it up after we married.

On to the next issue...

If she's the right one for you, propose to her ("will you marry me").
If she's not, let her go.
You don't need time to develop a relationship with her. You just need to know if she's the right one for you. The relationship comes after you are married.

Just my opinion. Don't take it too seriously. Only you know what's best for you. I probably wouldn't take advice from a random pervert on an anonymous website.

AlexEliezer
best quote ever!

Thanks for your answers...

I know she is the right one for me.
I even have asked her about get married, and she agreed.
But when? it is up to me and she.

One thing if for sure...
All of us have lost something, and that is the reason to be here,
Some of us have lost a good standing with our god, trust of family and friends, self respect, on a more or less grade each of us..

So let us take again whatever we have lost...
let us put our worries in God, the only one who will lead us to the right...
and let us do our part for being close to God and our loved ones...

YAY! SIMAN TOV UMAZEL TOV YAHEY LANU ULCHOL YISRAEL!!!!!!!

I dot know if I lost something, in fact it may be I just never found what I was looking for. This turned into misdirected seeking. Whatever the case, thank God for today!