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Re: I HATE this website!!!!!!! 07 Aug 2014 15:00 #236951

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Maybe start by thinking about what causes you to fall? what brings upon the lust attacks when they creep up?
Many of the guys here are constantly dealing with lust on a day to day basis. You seem to not have that issue. So what is it that brings you to fall? (Of course maybe when you actually post that not artistic post, the oilam can help you pinpoint things.)
I know for me, I came to the realization through being involved in this wonderful website, that acting out was an escape for me. I went through the different issues one by one to see how I can avoid needing it as an escape. Eventually, through the prodding of the oilem, I learned to try to avoid the need for an escape altogether. still working on it but getting there day by day.(And in a certain sense GYE became somewhat of an escape for me)

Re: I HATE this website!!!!!!! 08 Aug 2014 14:28 #237048

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In fact no one has responded yet
But it is true I have to figure out what it is, although it seems that this is the problem. It is extremely spontaneous and unexpected. The only common factors in all my falls has been isolation and...well I don't really know >.<
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Re: I HATE this website!!!!!!! 08 Aug 2014 14:49 #237051

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My apologies; perhaps I wasn't payin' close enough attention.
What were we supposed to respond to?
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Re: I HATE this website!!!!!!! 08 Aug 2014 16:28 #237052

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I agree with umanamamnanan. Most people here have trouble with lust on a day to day basis. They have to learn to accept and deal with it nicely and calmly. You seem to have that. When people begin to recover, they forget about lust all together. This is not good because we always have to be careful and aware (but not worry) that lust could appear at any moment. It seems that's you! You have to be careful and what are you doing and looking at and always know lust could hit at any moment.

Now maybe you aren't addict so that doesn't apply OR perhaps you are a dry drunk and that's a whole different convo.
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Re: I HATE this website!!!!!!! 18 Aug 2014 20:40 #237565

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No one replied refers to the "non-artistic" post I mentioned in this thread...

And that's interesting, dms. I'm really not sure what that means, dry drunk, but I think I can make sense of it...IOW I don't deal with it on a daily basis, but then suddenly it creeps up.

However, I have managed to pinpoint the things that let me slip into "lust mode." As long as I keep a proper Torah-learning schedule I'm usually fine. The drops begin when I waste too much time, especially on my phone. (yes, I need a filter, I know).
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Re: I HATE this website!!!!!!! 18 Aug 2014 21:18 #237571

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If that's the case - keep it up.

Many of us have found that we lust even while we are learnin' torah.

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Re: I HATE this website!!!!!!! 19 Aug 2014 14:22 #237617

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optimistic keep up the good work!!!!

just one point, i too once upon a time thought i don't deal with lust on a day to day level and it just pops in out of the blue, but after hanging out here enough time i learned that i was lusting much more then i thought i was, not just when i am under attack of falling but i can actually be clean for weeks and still be lusting big time, this was a huge eye opener to me that i really am dealing with my struggles on a daily basis, so i really must take matters into my hands,

just giving you some food for thought i might be wrong in your case,

in any case KOMT!!!
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