Gevaldige truth, wow ! So Lust is a thermometer , when i feel it coming or when i feel the need to do something lustful , i have to say hey ! am i feeling pain now or RID ? let me work on the pain and lust will lose its steam .

thanks Dms this was an eye opener for me !! thank you so much !

Hi guys,
I haven't posted in a while. i have however, been talking to Dov and joined his call a couple of times, but things haven't really gotten better. and however petrified i was/am of going to a live SA meeting, i am sort of coming to terms with it as my only solution.
Can anybody describe please their first time walking into a meeting, their prior fears, and what became of them. i think it would make it easier for me to make my move.
Thanks

I was petrified of going to a real live meeting and pushed it off for several years,
i even stayed clean for a shtik tzeit probably with the help of the yetzer hora to convince myself that maybe i don't really need that, and maybe its a chilul hashem, etc etc etc. I also had a real founded fear that I would meet someone who knew me and respected me because of a position that I have and what would be then maybe everyone will find out... Eventually kalu kol hakitzim and I had no choice but to go
and lo and behold I did actually meet someone who i knew and nothing happened adraba..., also made a few friends there and bli ayin hara have been clean for the past seven months Hashem should help veiter one day at a time.

I was scared.
I was petrified.
Who would I meet?
What would they be like?
Would I be understood?
Would we be similar at all?
Would it remain confidential?
Would I get lost in the church?
Would they baptize me?
Would it make any difference?

And hey, I survived....and it helped.

I think that what scares me most, is the fact that its a new way of life that i will still be doing in 50 years from now (iy"h). its going to redefine me, and i am scared of that. i picture myself with a white beard still going to meetings. aside for the fear of maybe "she" won't want to marry a creepy pervert.
and the list goes on.
but i feel like it's inevitable and bound to happen in the near future.

give it a try
you will be surprised

kilochalu wrote:

Can you explain please?

tzudreiter wrote:


I just look in a mirror

can explain and explain fun heint biz morgen until blue in the face
but you will have just one more question and then another sofek (at least thats how it was by me and by some others that i know)
If you just try it out (seriously that is) you will see for yourself and your misconceptions will disappear. They don't make you sign a lifetime contract and you can stop attending whenever you so desire, before your beard turns white or before you get married (in a gutte shu) or whenever.
Hashem hamaichin mitzadey gover should help us all to take the steps which are right for us.