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Re: A Journey Without a Name 22 Apr 2015 16:14 #252886

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Impressive

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Re: A Journey Without a Name 22 Apr 2015 17:11 #252890

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wow excellent
you are a real mentor for me
i move daily up and down some notches
when going forward gets tough, its merely a sign that you are going uphill, just give more gas
put your sobriety first; before your wife, before your kids, before your avodas HaTorah (except for the 3 that are יעבור ואל יהרג) Without sobriety you won't have any of those things!

Re: A Journey Without a Name 22 Apr 2015 20:21 #252910

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GEVALDIG!!!

May you keep on shteiging till 120 yrs.

Thanks for shining in once in a (long) while.

KOMT!!!!

Re: A Journey Without a Name 22 Apr 2015 21:01 #252912

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Webmaster of www.guardyoureyes.org - Maintaining Moral Purity in Today's World. We’re here on a quest ; it’s really all a test. Just do your best and G-d will do the rest.
Last Edit: 22 Apr 2015 21:09 by the.guard.

Re: A Journey Without a Name 23 Apr 2015 17:18 #252966

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the.guard wrote:


It is always an honor to have the guard post on my thread, even if it just for a test.

I just edited this post because I noticed it is my 500th post. (Not sure there is any real significance, but for me round numbers are always special)

I guess it is significant that I should be singing the guards praises on such an occasion.
Perhaps the whole needing to find my way to GYE was just for a test.
Last Edit: 23 Apr 2015 17:20 by unanumun.

Re: A Journey Without a Name 03 May 2015 17:47 #253752

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I think just do it on a nice way if not everything will bust back on u i have experience already with this garbage

Re: A Journey Without a Name 03 May 2015 21:33 #253769

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If u will not do it on a nice way it will b triple harder 4 u 2 get rid of all the garbage and will back fire u very quickly

Re: A Journey Without a Name 13 May 2015 18:38 #254597

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I just realized that despite the fact that I have not watched porn or acted out in over a year, and despite that I only a slight urge every once in a long while, to watch porn, I still have a skewed way at looking at women.
I still see them in a sexual way. I still notice different parts of their body and think about them having sex.
It doesn't necessarily arouse me or trigger me to anything worse, and i can usually just move on a few seconds later at most, but the thought is still there.
The truth is i am not completely sure that this is always true nowadays, and it could be only in the situation I am in right now, experiencing all the previous reasons that pushed me to porn as an escape (loneliness, stress, pressure, feeling out of control, overwhelmed, a touch of sadness [albeit much more slight than in the past]) and I should just be proud that i have made it to a point that while in this situation my biggest problem is the above.
With the help of Hashem, the oilam here, and my wife, i have been successful in finding other healthier means of escape or coping and they are definitely helping me right now.
all the best,
una

Re: A Journey Without a Name 13 May 2015 18:44 #254600

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I thought I saw you the other day.
T'was kinda dark and your head was covered.
I snapped a quick-pic.
Was this you?

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Re: A Journey Without a Name 13 May 2015 18:48 #254601

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Over a year Huh?

You are awesome. May I ask - Do you have a regular time to learn? With significant success that you have, your noble neshama is eternal and thus wants continued growth.
With over a year clean of acting out saying to yourself "I am sober" as miraculous as it is - it won't cut it now. You have a new spiritual cheshbin now. Keep up the recovery most certainly, but move up the spiritual success expectations a notch.
not so different than a guy who was in serious debt - got a proper job finally - but now after a year of success is capable of moving up in the company.
(If of course you are doing this already then ignore the above)
Last Edit: 13 May 2015 18:49 by yiraishamaim.

Re: A Journey Without a Name 13 May 2015 19:28 #254609

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cordnoy wrote:

Was this you?


nope my beard is a bit longer. but i can see where the mistake came from

Re: A Journey Without a Name 13 May 2015 19:33 #254611

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yiraishamaim wrote:
May I ask - Do you have a regular time to learn? With significant success that you have, your noble neshama is eternal and thus wants continued growth.


Yes I have set habits to learn (habits as in certain points of my day as opposed to times)

And in general I have been experiencing tremendous personal and spiritual growth as a result of honestly facing the underlying issues that had been leading me to act out. It has been a wonderful journey. I feel like i am constantly sorting out myself more and more and making a major renovation from the foundations and upwards.

Re: A Journey Without a Name 12 Jun 2015 02:54 #256694

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Just wanted to check in and say thanks for your shares.
Much Hatzlacha!

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Re: A Journey Without a Name 12 Jun 2015 13:22 #256719

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And me too just saying hello

Re: A Journey Without a Name 15 Jun 2015 14:01 #256876

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Serenity and Shlomo, Thank you
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