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Re: introduction 04 Apr 2013 20:40 #204221

gibbor120 OFFLINE Platinum Boarder NEVER EVER GIVE UP! Posts: 5251 Karma: 166	Nice mashal MT!
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Re: introduction 04 Apr 2013 22:54 #204232

Shlomo	If he's a Mashgiach for 17/18 year olds, he's not going to be blind to this problem. Dear Zvi, for some reason some mashgichim seem to BE blind to this problem. Any suggestions, what to do? I've tried to speak with him already, he promised (to address this topic) but didn't do anything about it. I told my father and my wife WOW! What did your father say, if I may ask? And the wife???

Re: introduction 04 Apr 2013 23:01 #204240

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Shlomo wrote:

If he's a Mashgiach for 17/18 year olds, he's not going to be blind to this problem.

Dear Zvi, for some reason some mashgichim seem to BE blind to this problem. Any suggestions, what to do? I've tried to speak with him already, he promised (to address this topic) but didn't do anything about it.

So if you feel your mashgiach won't help you here, try someone else- another rebbi in your yeshiva, your local rav- chances are, there's someone in your life who knows about these things.

Life’s a mountain. You just gotta keep climbing…

Re: introduction 18 Apr 2013 03:40 #205401

the.guard Current streak: 805 days OFFLINE Moderator Posts: 6438 Karma: 138	Please read these 3 pages: www.guardyoureyes.com/articles/tips-suggestions/item/the-taphsic-method-made-simple?category_id=18
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Re: introduction 18 Apr 2013 16:50 #205422

Dov OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 1960 Karma: 383	Seriously, I don't it is the mashgiach's (or anybody's) job to help you. Rather, it is your job to help yourself by opening up to somebody. It is not the power of the eitza of your mashgiach and what he will advise you to do that is of value here, 'hopefull'. It is the power of your opening up that will help you. Hatzlocha, man. You are a beautiful Jew.
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Re: introduction 19 Apr 2013 22:24 #205611

hopefull OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 39 Karma: 2	thank you for all you suport every one

Re: introduction 19 Apr 2013 22:27 #205613

hopefull OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 39 Karma: 2	my masgiach is in his 1st year should i still talk to him?

Re: introduction 19 Apr 2013 23:25 #205618

gibbor120 OFFLINE Platinum Boarder NEVER EVER GIVE UP! Posts: 5251 Karma: 166	Do you trust him, and feel comfortable opening up to him? If not, is there someone else who fits that criteria? It could be someone on this forum, although a "real" person who you can talk to face to face is certainly better.
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Re: introduction 19 Apr 2013 23:29 #205619

hopefull OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 39 Karma: 2	no i dont feel comfterball talking to him

Re: introduction 19 Apr 2013 23:30 #205620

gibbor120 OFFLINE Platinum Boarder NEVER EVER GIVE UP! Posts: 5251 Karma: 166	Then he is a bad choice.
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Re: introduction 19 Apr 2013 23:36 #205621

gibbor120 OFFLINE Platinum Boarder NEVER EVER GIVE UP! Posts: 5251 Karma: 166	hopefull wrote: thank you so much i do have a rebbi who i can talk to im just very nervous Sounds like you do have someone you can speak to, no? You just need to ignore your nerves. I remember how nervous I was the first time I posted here, when I called someone on the forum for the first time, etc. Nervousness is normal.
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Re: introduction 21 Apr 2013 21:26 #205692

zvi OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 224 Karma: 11	Go for it hopefull! Take the plunge! I know it's not easy (personal experience) but once you've done it it'll change your life. And that's not an exaggeration...
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Re: introduction 22 Apr 2013 23:04 #205759

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Go for it hopefull! Take the plunge! I know it's not easy (personal experience) but once you've done it it'll change your life. And that's not an exaggeration...

Yup! Go for it!!
I spilled the beans to a friend who i had a feeling had the same problem, he's about 5 or six years older than me and was married with kids at the time. we have since become BEST friends and help each other in awesome ways!!

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Last Edit: 22 Apr 2013 23:05 by Pidaini.

Re: introduction 22 Apr 2013 23:19 #205763

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Pidaini wrote:

Go for it hopefull! Take the plunge! I know it's not easy (personal experience) but once you've done it it'll change your life. And that's not an exaggeration...

Actually my friend had the courage to spill the bean to me first, before I told him about my problem. Opening up to him was one of the best decisions I've ever made.

Roy in the SA White Book noted that we frequently prayed and it did not work...because the best we could muster was begging G-d to "Please take it away, so I will not have to give it up!

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Re: introduction 23 Apr 2013 06:47 #205772

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I was a ll years old too when this all started. It is amazing to see that I was not the only one that young to start. But, you are still young, and I believe if you be open to all of the help that is here in this forum, I pray that you won't have to go as long as I have. One of the greatest things I have learned in the small time I have been visiting this site, I know that I am not alone, and neither are you.