HA, thank you for finally clearing up that dilemma I was wondering what you were gonna do for a while now..

I really enjoyed the dvar torah thank you for that. I thought you were going to say that no matter how strong you are you have to watch out but I like the twist you put in about not being in the comfort zone. (efshar it works both ways?)

I was thinking that the Parsha of Yefas Toar is sort of how the Taphsic method works. You can have her, but first you have to do this and that, and wait for a while. And afterwards there are consequences as well.

Ya, and part of it is doing things that will actually will be a turn "off". She has to grow out her nail no haircuts (showering? I dont think so) so we can actually draw out that part of the Taphsic should be a turn "off". Theres a turn off page Ive heard about from GYE, fortunately its so nasty you need to send a private message to Gye to get it. If someone puts that in their taphsic that would be pretty powerful.

Hey getting there, I didn't recognize you there for a while.

I liked the vort about the yifas tohar, we have to look in rashi there how he explains the connection to the next parsha which is about the rebellious son, rashi explains that its the result of marrying a yifas tohar. Now that is quit a turn off.
If only we can remind ourselves of the danger and disgusting results of our actions "before" we do anything!

KC

didnt see your respond (this one)



Well, just to remind with "haShem was watching you" you/he meant, that he was shoymer me from having a goishe gf.

Hooo, let me tell you a short story right now. I sometimes have this in my mind as saying "gomel hassadim tovim" in shemone esre., so here we go:

there was a certain shiksa in my school. well than (i was not religious yet) i thought she would be very pretty and goodlooking. well. so like for 2-3 month (beerech) i went mamash crazy for her. but couldnt say anything. (well just to my goishe "friends". and than 1 day i herad, that next year she is changing school, so i thought "huh, im lo achshav, eymosay??" and i decided to aprroach her and ask if she wants to be with me (oy wayyy...). well. during the break she went with her 2 friends (girls) to spazier around. FOR AT LEAST 1 YEAR EACH DAY WITHOUT EXEPTION; I SAW IT EACH EACH EACH!!!! DAY.
so just imagine, on that day that i took all my koash and prepared myself mentaly that i will approach her. what happens? break. i see this 2 other shiksas (her friends) i stand up to go to them (since she is there as well, as usually, at least should be there) aaaaaaand. SHE IS NOT THERE. Oh my g......!!!! i was broken. depression for the whole day. if computer games did not help.
next day i did not have any koach to do it anymore (and guess what, she went out with her friends all the other days til the ned of year) gevald.

it does not end. since i had no koach to tell her, i wanted to write her (pm). and then, as i was pushing enter (send) i thought, nu, efshar take an eitza from a friends. so i went to a certain server where i used to play computer games (yep.) and one of the friends told me not to do it. oy it would me such a busha if i would.

i consider it as one of the biggest nissim geluim that i ever saw.
hatzlocho.

Hi.
Well here goes. Baruch Hashem since joining Gye I have climbed many rungs. And truly improved- however(u were waiting for that;) ) over the last couple days which is the first couple day of my Bain hazmanim, I have let lose a little and acted out 3 times. I watched porn. But even so it wasn't with the same geshmak as it was in the past. I felt wrong while doing it but.... And ways last night after I acted out- I watched a live show of sniper school of the US ARMY, and it's very tough u can make it thru 5 weeks of hell- and ur last day u have one shot to take I think it's lTs like a half of mile away. U get two try's and if u pass u become sniper. I got inspiration! I said these Guys do things that are very tough when trying to complete A certain very difficult task in a 2 hour period. After failing first attempt the have 28 minutes left to complete task. Instructed says "relax, and keep ur head in control"
Well that's what I need to do. And that's what I am doing. Today is a new page. A new mission. Bezras Hashem. Il pass!
Your chizuk always helps!!

why should you pass on your own? join us!

www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?topic=5514.60

Rt.

Ur right, I wrote this while I was very busy, and very tired. So yeh let's all do this together.

i am not sure i explained it well.
go to the link. and write dorten if u want to join the group.

hatzlocho, r"t

Hello dear friends.
I haven't been active for couple days. I feel downish, Prob had I been more active on here I would've been more active in my shmiras einayim..... I have been lusting at times I wasn't being strong now asking Hashem for the help I need. I have been hiding in the foxhole. Well now I am back out, and I ask Hashem to plz hold my hand and pull me thru the marsh. For with out Hashem I will just sink! And my dear friends, thanks to u to!

I hope to check in every day and post on my thread and update u with my progress!

thanks for sharing its a start for me

Hello dear friends.
Welcome beh!

I want to share with my dear friends that Baruch Hashem this fri and shabbos were great. Ok I had the usual struggles in guarding my eyes. But I managed to look away before I regretted looking.

Hope it remains strong. I daven to Hashem to keep me mechuzak!!!

nice to hear, gettingthere.

continuous chatzlocho

r"t