I don't know about you, but for me the problem was not just acting out--it was a whole addictive, escapist personality. Shirking responsibility, out of touch with reality, unavailable for my wife and children, moody, defensive, self-centered, and generally irritable.

That has all changed very much, as a result of recovery, thank G-d.

--Elyah

It would be much more effective if your webchaver partner is someone you know personally and locally, like your rov, rather than an anonymous "friend." Think about it.

as much as my wife sees an improvement in my personality and stuff...do u think she wud be able to figure it out its from internet addiction? i mean my lying will decrease alot im sure and ill have more time for my family but can she really say oh its because he was addicted and now getting better? i mean she doesnt have a clue what ive been doing...

If she doesn't have a clue, leave it this way. Don't worry about her noticing your improvement: either you will or not, it's in a distant future which you have no control over.

You can definitely fall even with k9, as I have proved.
So don't just settle on a filter.
Hatzlocho,
Mottel

knowing that after so many years of trying to stop and i just put on a filter finally...even if it does let me see things..i know that bec i put on k9 i cant continue...dont know if that makes sense. maybe its just the beginning and all beginnings ppl r excited. but im hoping that this want to stop will continue.

The filter is not there to save you. Any fence can be climbed over if you want to badly enough. But while you're busy trying to bypass it you have a minute to think...do I REALLY want to be doing this?

And as far as the wife, as you work on refocusing the priorities in your life, she will probably eventually notice a general improvement in your attitude. If she asks you can just say you've been learning Mussar or something....

Keep On Trucking towards being a truly Happy Jew!!!

Gevura!

happyjew wrote on 16 May 2012 16:16:


She won't really give a darn.

--Elyah

Gevura wrote on 16 May 2012 17:33:

not understanding how i would bypass it...i dont have the password and im not so computer savvy...

Well if you don't know I'm not gonna tell you.

But I'm sure if you would try you could find some sites that will get past the filter and still give you your "fix". And again, the extra effort that it takes gives you some time to think.

In the end, the only filter that counts is the one between your ears. And your job is to train it, which takes time.

KOMT!!!

Gevura!