Machshovo Tova wrote:
The possuk (Tehillim 33:9) says: כי הוא אמר ויהי - For He (Hashem) said and it was. The Gemara (Shabbos 152a) says that this applies to the woman (כי הוא אמר ויהי - זו אשה). And the Gemara explains that a woman is actually like a vessel full of unappetizing material, and yet everyone chases after her. So the only rationale (as Rashi comments) is that it is a decree from Hashem (so that people will have children).
One can ask: If this possuk refers to a woman why does it not use a feminine term כי הוא אמר ותהי ?
Thank you MT for a Gevaldig vort!
I would like to suggest, that when the Gemara says "that this applies to the woman (כי הוא אמר ויהי - זו אשה)" it does not mean that that the thing that "was" (ויהי) is the woman, but rather that - זו אשה means that this refers to the woman, meaning the thing that was, is an issue which refers to the woman.
This means the תאוה - lust which the man has toward the woman, was Ki Hu amar - Hashem said, and it was.
But after thinking about this, I realized that the word תאוה is also לשון נקיבה, so it should still have used the feminine term כי הוא אמר
ותהי.
So continuing along your line of thought, to base it on GYE guidelines, I think the Pshat might be that it is referring to THE MAN, and to the MAN's situation, and to his LIFE, as it is noted in the section called
ACCEPTANCE IS THE KEY:
The addiction is a disease and sobriety is not a matter of willpower. When we stop living in the problem, and instead live in the answer, the problem goes away by itself.
And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation-some fact of my life -unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God's world by mistake. Until I could accept my lust addiction I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.
We think that if we could just control the external environment, our internal environment would become more comfortable. But it doesn't. When we turn our will and lives over to the care of G-d, we are taking care of the internal environment, and then we find that the external environment takes care of itself
This explains why the posuk uses the Loshon Zochor, because we learn from this that, The key to recovery is the understanding that "כי הוא אמר ויהי" - Hashem made it - MY LIFE - MY SITUATION to be this way, and I ACCEPT IT.
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