I have been fantasizing practically all my life, and masturbating, got married went from newspapers to magazines, and it didn't stop at that. I reached a point where i had enough of this, but cannot seem to stop, there's always a fall and it's hard,  I need help!

Welcome Raymon, you could not have come to a better place.

Start by reading the handbook, sign up for the emails, browse the forum. There are many tools and methods available, you will eventually find what works for you.

And we are all here to share your concerns, and support and encourage you.

Hatzlacha!

Gevura!

P.S. Here is the "Official welcome Package".

Welcome to our community, you have finally come home!

GuardYourEyes (GYE) is a vibrant network and fellowship of Jews of all affiliations, struggling to purify themselves and break free of lust related behaviors. For the first time, there is somewhere to turn to for help in these areas. We're all in the same boat here. Tzuras Rabim Chatzi Nechama  .  Once you've arrived, there's no turning back. Everyone here will just grab a hold of you and pull you up with them!
 
In the last couple of years, the GYE network has helped roughly 1,000 Jews get back on a path of sanity, self-control and healing and has touched the lives of thousands more. GYE has become known throughout the Jewish world as the number one address for dealing with these challenges which have reached epidemic proportions. 

The tools of our recovery program were developed with guidance from the best experts in the field, such as Rabbi Dr. Avraham J. Twerski, and through the personal experience of hundreds of Jews who successfully broke free. We use a unique approach that recognizes that there are many different levels in these struggles.

Our network is comprised of a website, a pulsating forum, phone conferences, daily Chizuk e-mails, support hotlines, therapists, live 12-Step groups and a program of recovery for all levels of this struggle/addiction.

All our work is free of charge and we zealously protect the complete anonymity of all our members.

Here are some quick things you can do to help you jump straight into your journey:

1) See the "GYE Program in a Nutshell" (Right Click the link and press "Save Link/Target As" to save the PDF file to your computer) that can help you quickly identify at what level of the struggle you are at, and which tools and features would help you most at your particular level.

2) Install a strong filter (see this page for more info). It is hard to break free of this while having all the garbage within a mouse click away.  The filter gabai at filter.gye@gmail.com will hold the passwords for you. We also highly advise installing "Reporting Software" such as webchaver.org to give you some accountability.

3) Join the daily Chizuk e-mail lists to get fresh chizuk every day.

4) Join the 90 Day Challenge. Scientific studies have shown that it takes 90 days to change the neuron pathways created by addictive behaviors in the brain.

5) Post away on this forum, where hundreds of yidden like you exchange chizuk and post logs of their journey to recovery. You will internalize that you are not alone, and you will learn the techniques and attitude that work for so many others.

6) Join our free anonymous phone conferences, led by an experienced sponsor.

7) If you need more general guidance, write to GYE’s helpline at gye.help@gmail.com or call the hotline at 646-600-8100.

8.) Download and read the "Guard Your Eyes Handbook" (a hard copy can be purchased for cost price over here). This handbook outlines the GYE approach in detail, and makes our network much more effective and helpful for people. The handbook has two parts:

A) The first part, "The 20 Tools", detail suggested tools and techniques, in progressive order, beginning with the most basic and fundamental approaches to dealing with this addiction, and continuing down through increasingly earnest and powerful methods. No matter what level our addiction may have advanced to, we will be able to find the right tools to break free in this handbook!

The second part, "Attitude & Perspective", detail 30 basic principles to help us maintain the proper attitude and perspective on this struggle. Here are some examples: Understanding what we are up against, what it is that Hashem wants from us, how we can use this struggle for tremendous growth, how we can deal with bad thoughts, discovering how to redirect the power of our souls, understanding that every little bit counts, learning how to bounce back up after a fall, and so on and so forth…

Our souls cry inside of us, but we have accustomed ourselves to block out that cry. Today we can begin to be who we really want to be.

We are here for you.
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Thanks for the welcome

Raymon wrote on 01 Nov 2011 01:51:


You've come to the right place.  Poke around, you'll see alot of people in the same boat as you.  But their are eitzos.  And they work too.  Don't despair.  Have you taken a look at the Handbook yet?
Hatzlacha

Isn't there some show about meeting raymon (I stopped watching TV long ago)? 

WELCOME! Nice to meet you.  You are definitely in the right place!  We all did things we're not proud of (serious understatement) and want to stop!!!  You will meet the bestest, nicest, sweetest, caringist people on the planet here.  Welcome aboard!

Everybody Loves Raymon  ;D

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Hey Raymon,

You should be so happy as your first step is reaching out by coming here.

So did I just recently and I feel like a new being. You have admitted to your friends your issue which is the first step out of the hell.  If you keep taking small steps we can hold you hand and together get there one step at a time.  I started with the 90 day calendar. are you ready to do it, and start? 

Time to get ANGRY at that nasty YH, hate him and tell him to leave you alone.  >
hes just a big bully. But a bully will walk away if you just ignore him.

Thats the secret.

Everytime you feel like turning onto the p--- come here instead and read some posts..it really helps...

Love you bro, be strong, and be busy

HY

Raymon wrote on 01 Nov 2011 01:51:


Boy have I been there and boy have I done that.
Recovery from this addiction is a process.  Read and learn what recovery means, how it's different from fighting, and how to do it.

While you're reading and getting up to speed, start working on your shmiras eynayim.  No picutres of tznius women, no live women, not their faces or whatever your thing is.  Make a commitment to give up lust.  Ask Hashem to take it from you.

Hatzlacha and keep in touch.
Alex

Thanks it's nice to now that people care

Hi Raymon and welcome.  Enjoy the rush of getting started, by all means.  Enjoy how totally nutty this place can get.  there' lots of support and caring.  You'll see as you keep inching along.  Keep posting, get a filter, start reading (if you haven't already) the handbook, etc.  As they say in recovery, "It works if you work it".

Raymon wrote on 02 Nov 2011 18:40:

Welcome Raymon! I felt the same way too when I came here. I was like, what? These people care? They want to help me? I am confused. why would they do that? Aren't I just beyond help in these area's? So yeah, I can relate to what you say you are feeling. I think that the two best places to turn to are the Handbooks (both of them) and this forum. Just reading other peoples reports of how they are doing, where they came from and how far they have come from that can be so amazing to read, and really provides inspiration. But the main thing as far as what practically we can do right now is in the handbook for sure. Specifically page 37 and onwards. It helps to try and find yourself in terms of which level you are most similar to as listed there. Then you already have a pretty good idea of what you need to do.
Good luck, and remember we are all here to help each other so always try and speak stuff out here if you can.