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Re: hello my friends.... 08 Apr 2013 02:23 #204437

TehillimZugger OFFLINE Platinum Boarder לבד הנשמה הטהורה Posts: 2446 Karma: 34	really RT? life happens.
	?דער באשעפער לאווט מיך אייביג. וויפיל לאוו איך עהם My Creator loves me at all times. How great is my love for him?

Re: hello my friends.... 08 Apr 2013 20:46 #204508

gibbor120 OFFLINE Platinum Boarder NEVER EVER GIVE UP! Posts: 5251 Karma: 166	Hi Gevurah! Thanks for sharing with us, and inspiring us. It's important to remember that one trigger can send us spiraling downward. Hopefully, we avoid the big tests for the most part. Be well my friend! and KOMT!
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Re: hello my friends.... 08 Apr 2013 21:02 #204522

ZemirosShabbos OFFLINE Platinum Boarder pass the compote Posts: 6153 Karma: 72	gevura אתה בן אדם טוב חזק ואמץ
	Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise ~Inna beshem ZS Give, Forgive ~Cordnoy The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting. ~TZ

Re: hello my friends.... 08 Apr 2013 22:36 #204543

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gibbor120 wrote:

Hi Gevurah!

Thanks for sharing with us, and inspiring us. It's important to remember that one trigger can send us spiraling downward. Hopefully, we avoid the big tests for the most part.

Be well my friend! and KOMT!

I dunno. A half a trigger is too much for me.

I'm sorry Hashem I only have a half of a trigger to surrender to you.

That's my machtzis hashekel

(As I'm writing this I'm thinking that I hate little subtle triggers even more than I hate porn)

Roy in the SA White Book noted that we frequently prayed and it did not work...because the best we could muster was begging G-d to "Please take it away, so I will not have to give it up!

No amount of sobriety can cure the insanity -ChaimCharlie

The emmes hurts but fake chizzuk will hurt more -Bards

Remember, best block, no be there - Mr. Miyagi

Re: hello my friends.... 09 Apr 2013 01:02 #204606

RT. OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 40 Karma: 3	@TZ really RT? life happens. What do you mean?

Re: hello my friends.... 09 Apr 2013 01:13 #204608

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I spoke to an Adam Gadol last year and I asked him if I am mechuyav to isolate myself from the world in order to avoid the things that trigger me. Should I never go to a Chasuna or a Bar Mitzva again? Shopping? Maybe not even to Shul? he said that it would be impossible to live that way and it would only make things worse, and it would not be fair to my family. That I should live life normally and deal with things as they come.

This was a situation that I could not avoid without causing difficulty for others. It turned out much worse than i expected, and I will obviously think twice before I get myself into such a spot again. (And obviously I will make sure that i stay as far as I can from that person in the future). But some things can't be avoided. In other words, Life Happens...

!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant

My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

Re: hello my friends.... 09 Apr 2013 21:02 #204680

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A drunk (in recovery and sober for many years) told me that the real problem we have is not drinking - but sobriety.

Living without resorting to our drug (or some drug) is so distasteful to us, apparently! We just do not find the life that Hashem gives us acceptable.

That is what step 3 is about, I think. For Hashem's Will for us is expressed far more in the things that happen to us and for us, than in His mitzvos. And that is a very, very important point for me and other people to accept. His Will for me is expressed in the the way my life goes, mainly. But that is the big issue. It's the gift of step 3 and all the steps that follow it enable people with this problem to actually get a 3rd step for real. Until we do 4-9, we cannot possibly have a 3rd step. Our middos, habits, and past are just too in-the-way.

Hey. Have a nice day and thanks for bringing that out. I needed to read that!

"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: hello my friends.... 09 Apr 2013 21:26 #204690

reallygettingthere Current streak: 72 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 759 Karma: 27	Dov wrote: A drunk (in recovery and sober for many years) told me that the real problem we have is not drinking - but sobriety. Living without resorting to our drug (or some drug) is so distasteful to us, apparently! We just do not find the life that Hashem gives us acceptable. Amen! (Singing and hand clapping in background)
	Roy in the SA White Book noted that we frequently prayed and it did not work...because the best we could muster was begging G-d to "Please take it away, so I will not have to give it up! No amount of sobriety can cure the insanity -ChaimCharlie The emmes hurts but fake chizzuk will hurt more -Bards Remember, best block, no be there - Mr. Miyagi

Re: hello my friends.... 03 May 2013 01:18 #206500

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It's Gevura Shebyesod day again. 2 years now since i finally committed to giving up the last and most compelling of the shmutz I was still holding on to.

Yes I'm still struggling, and I accept that it will be a life-long battle. But things are so much better than they were before, and I could not have done it without all the friends i have made here. So thank you to all of you, and especially to R' Guard who makes it all possible.

KOMT!!

Re: hello my friends.... 03 May 2013 01:23 #206502

gibbor120 OFFLINE Platinum Boarder NEVER EVER GIVE UP! Posts: 5251 Karma: 166	Thank you for monstah truckin with us! Happy Gevurah Shebeyesod day! Maybe we can get the prez to make it an official holiday (or at least guard).
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Re: hello my friends.... 03 May 2013 01:34 #206505

mr. emunah Current streak: 121 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1139 Karma: 43	YEAH!

Re: hello my friends.... 03 May 2013 01:37 #206506

ZemirosShabbos OFFLINE Platinum Boarder pass the compote Posts: 6153 Karma: 72	Mazel ת! continued progressive hatzlocha you are an inspiration p.s. regards from the walruses, whales, snowy owls, woolly mammoths and red pandas
	Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise ~Inna beshem ZS Give, Forgive ~Cordnoy The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting. ~TZ

Re: hello my friends.... 03 May 2013 21:54 #206568

inastruggle Current streak: 25 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder the picture is shimshon hagibor. not st. mary.... Posts: 1263 Karma: 35	gibbor120 wrote: Thank you for monstah truckin with us! Happy Gevurah Shebeyesod day! Maybe we can get the prez to make it an official holiday (or at least guard). I second the notion. KOMT U ROCK DA HOUSE