Snow wrote on 07 Nov 2011 16:13:


USA

Speaking strictly from my limited experience, try to reach out to a live person. I think there comes a point when mere foruming wears itself off.
Of course, you can re-read the Attitude Handbook. I find good stuff in it time and again.
We will love you no matter what, but try not to make it "no matter what"

Hi Gevura,

imho, Mottel has a great idea. talk to someone.
friend wife or your local Congressman.
seriously, speaking to others is a great thing.

hope the traction-control kicks in and we can get back to driving through the mud-bogs at 65mph, and splashing mud on anything in a 1-mile radius

Gevura,
These attacks will come from time to time.  They will become less frequent and easier to quash.  It doesn't mean anything other than that you're doing great!

It's normal to wake up with an erection.  I wouldn't call it 'aroused.'  Don't look at it that way.  It's just a biological thing.  Don't go with it and it will go away.  I'm sure I'm not telling you anything you don't already know.

B"H for another day!
Alex

Thank you everyone for your replies and Chizuk. I did tell my wife about it, I had made up with her at the beginning that I would tell her whenever I slipped. I do feel so much better now. Now I just have to get those snow chains on....

And I will stay here BL"N no matter what. I'm in this for the long haul, and I've never had a better bunch of friends in my whole life.

Gevura!

I also had a similar experience and told my wife. It has lifted a majot load off my back and it has made me feel better and better since....you will feel the same way just give it time

Post #500, Hero Member! (if the post gremlin doesn't mess with my post count  >  )

Hey "Wishing" if you're still out there reading this I haven't forgotten you, I hope you get the help you need to have your "real me" shine through....

Thanks again to all of you for allowing me to share and grow with you.

Gevura!

MAZAL TOV! It seems like just yesterday we were both at post 1, newbies.

You've always been my hero, even as a newbie.

Gevura, you're a super hero here.  One hard worker -- working on yourself and helping plenty others along.

Mazal tov the big five ooh ooh

This was on YeshivaWorld this morning....

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Rav Kanievsky: Your Zivug Hasn’t Been Born(Tuesday, November 22nd, 2011)

A man seeking a shidduch visited HaGaon HaRav Chaim Kanievsky Shlita seeking advice and a bracha, one of the many persons who visit with the Gadol HaDor during the afternoon hours. The man, described to be in his 30s, visited the rav about two months ago, Kikar Shabbat reports. The teary-eyed man explained he cannot find a shidduch, asking Rav Kanievsky for a bracha. The Rav probed the man’s details somewhat and reportedly responded “Your zivug hasn’t been born, bracha V’Hatzlocha”, leaving the man in tears, apparently despondent over hearing the rav’s words.

The man recently returned to the rav, this time with a smile on his face, announcing “I am engaged”. Those present were somewhat surprised, wondering how he accomplished this in two months after hearing the rav’s words. The chosson explained that his bride-to-be is a giyoress who converted a month earlier, explaining the rav’s words “your zivug has not been born”.

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NEVER GIVE UP!!!!! Yeshuas Hashem K'Heref Ayin!

Great Story! Thanks!

Gevurah, I just read a bunch of your posts from the last couple of months and I'm completely inspired. I completely resonate with everything you've been experiencing recently, from the day of calm, to the hard challenges you've been facing these last couple of days.

I wish you only well! Keep up the amazing work!

Gevurah, beautiful story.  thank you, I needed to read that. 

btw:  Wikpedia--"Nocturnal penile tumescence (informally known as "morning wood" or "morning glory") is the spontaneous occurrence of an erection of the penis during sleep. All men without physiological erectile dysfunction experience this phenomenon, usually three to five times during the night.[1] It typically happens during REM sleep.

I just love reading your posts.  Keeping your commitment to your wife is an example for all of us about what real love looks like.  You are blessed with a wonderful wife. 

kot (you always do)