Did you ever do the 12 steps?

Eye.nonymous wrote on 15 Aug 2011 06:40:

Hey, SG, I don't like living that way, but if it is working for you, then why quit it? Seriously.

If and when it stops, youv'e got lots of other recovering buddies here and elsewhere to share their experience with you and help you out! 

some days i dont mstrbt

...and you are not alone.

wedding is monday night IYH.
Yes there have been struggles and breaches between us throughout our dating and engagement. we are two frum people attracted to each other, wanting to make each other happy and comforted when stressed out and human beings with yitzrei hara (lusts) [for me]. If it matters- because we say iot is not all or nothing- it is not like we falter all the time- when i was in camp for example, BH things were pretty good, minus one slip.
for me personally- im still touching myself etc. but havent ejacted it a few weeks, my longest in a while.
PLease be mevarech my kalla and I to have a life filled iwth health, happiess, and a life of avodas Hashem.
Thank you all for your help this past couple years.

MAZEL TOV!!!!!

May you be zoche to build a true bayis neeman beyisrael, filled with kedusha, shalom and lots of happiness!

And you can still keep in touch

Gevura!

Beautiful!
Beshaah tova!
wishing you the best, happiness health and contentment always
zs

MAZEL TOV MAZEL TOV

thnk u everyone
il still be here

ejacd last night. maybe i shouldnt have been so cocky when i posted that i was clean for 3 weeks.

You know best, chabibi. Take it easy, and remember that you learned something from that. The lesson of not being so cocky sounds obvious, but it is a painful one for all of us.

My un-cocky suggestion for you at this point is that you consider davening for other people, mainly. Especially at a time like this, if you liberate yourself from the typical intense and hyper-focused self-absorption we tend to have, you will feel a lot better and Hashem will be with you. If you just "try your best and fight the lust and daven to stay clean, etc.,"....you will probably be disappointed.

When you need hel the most, when things are coming down to 'the wire' - is the one time when it is most imperative to throw yourself onto Hashem by focusing on being helpful to others - both physically (doing people favors) and spiritually (davening for them and being concerned about others).

It may sound crazy (if it doesn't, there is probably something wrong with you!), but it will help your marriage start off on the right foot. And that is what you really want and one of the main reasons that you are here, no?

Mazel Tov, sweet SG!! You are geshmak - your kallah is not the only one in the world who sees that!!!

thx dov
it is interesting - ejctng in a MUTAR fashion. still felt a little dirty but that was because of all the times
s** is not what hollywood makes it seem like. even if you think you know what you are doing you do not at first . it allows us to communicate with each other.
more to follow..

StrugglingGuy wrote on 25 Aug 2011 16:36:


MAZEL TOV!

and mazel tov

Not to be a part pooper, but if you are going to get very graphic or discuss the finer points of your self-discovery through sexual experience, I suggest you move that discussion to a married-only part of the forum. The lessons from your experience, SG, will probably be of benefit to single guys, too. But let's be sensitive to their needs for protection, too. Anyhow, lust and sexual lust are the only real problem we all have here, not just sex. Hatzlocha.