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Re: You’re About to Save My Life 27 Aug 2025 15:20 #440896

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We tell a Nazir to go away from vineyards...how far? Far enough so it's not a michshol. But if the Nazir is up all night dreaming about wine and hanging out with wine drinkers it's going to be hard. If the Nazir fills their time up with good friendships and enriching activities the occassional desire for that red Cab will flare up and then go away...now is the time to try to understand yourself and what makes you fall. The feeling of gravity doesn't come from nowhere. If you were stuck in Amish country it would go away very quickly. Food for thought.

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 27 Aug 2025 15:40 #440898

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I'll tell you what I told myself yesterday after a particularly hard day, and some slip ups, the energy and the motivation will likely falter given our history, what we can do different is widen the radius, so when we falter and slip, its only a slip, not a fall, until sanity kicks in. Another point, we have to learn how to dust off from smaller slip ups, and not get pulled in to the all or nothing mindset, which is self destructive, success doesn't have to be linear, it can have bumps, the pitfall is when we don't know how to travel thru bumps.



All of the above is for the scenario where the motivation starts waning, however as long as your riding strong - and you are - just KOT.
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Re: You’re About to Save My Life 27 Aug 2025 16:02 #440900

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If i would be you, i wouldn't put much focus on 5 10 days ahead, just focus on that day and then of course look back. like R' Usher Reich said in 1 of the V'yimoyin video's from the Tiferes Shlomo about R' Tzudek that when he fasted daily that the Beis Hamikdush should't get destroyed he didn't fast the 40 yrs only fasted every day for that day which is a very strong tip for us when counting, count every day for that day not looking forward that you're pushing for another 30 or 90 days because it like look so far fetch, just a thought  
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Great free resources:

My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation">guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Change your attitude and change your life!

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 27 Aug 2025 17:53 #440907

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If you dont reach 40 that I won't be messaging you!
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Re: You’re About to Save My Life 27 Aug 2025 19:12 #440911

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One of the main things in not to become complacent. Remember that the Yetzer Hora doesn't sleep so keep on doing whatever is working for you. Als, once you are clean for a while you should be able to pick up when something goes wrong earlier on. If you feel a slightly greater sexual pull than usual it might mean that you have to put something in place so you don't slip like doing an exercise in the toolbox. If you have been using the mindfulness exercises, they can be done way before there is a full-fledged urge. Other than that just KOMT.

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 28 Aug 2025 12:51 #440925

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hollyari wrote on 27 Aug 2025 14:51:

Can anyone share what usually comes next?


Thought you might appreciate this post from Reb CO. Adding a link because his thread is saturated with gems of truth - very worthwhile to spend some time with.

https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/395737-Thought-I-wouldnt-need-to-ask-for-help?limit=15&start=330#435913
chaimoigen wrote on 15 May 2025 03:08:
I just realized that 730 days is 365x2. That’s two years clean, a very big milestone, BH. 
BH. 

Life isn’t a bed of roses. In fact I have been dealing with a number of major Nisyonos that have taken place and continue to take place, and I struggle with them internally as well as outwardly. 

However, the internal joy that I have inside from the sense of Tahara that I’ve developed from being clean has changed my life, and given me strength and clarity and a wellspring of Koach that I would not otherwise have.

Because being clean is not just about stopping to feel sick about what was wrong. It’s about how so, so, much in my internal spiritual and emotional life is better from this place that I’m now in, BH. Everything looks different from here.
I’ve written about it in a lot of different ways in this thread and others. 

I don’t think life ever stops being filled with challenges. That’s why we are here. But the rewards of being clean - long term - are abundant. 

Im thankful to be here, thankful for this special gift, and thankful to all of you.

If you’re hanging on at the beginning of your journey and wondering if the long-term gain is worth it. If you’re not feeling how 30,40, or even 90 days makes a difference in the ongoing battlefield of life, I take this moment to tell you, friend, that from this man’s perspective it’s worth hanging on. You owe it to yourself to see what you can be. The difference comes with time, and it’s worth it. 

ברגשי הודאה על העבר ובקשה על העתיד 

מאן דבעי חיים 
Today is yesterday's tomorrow.
The yetzarim a person has the most trouble dealing with are his most powerful God-given tools for developing his potential and achieving shleimus.
It doesn't matter how big the number is, only that today it is going up by one.
There is no "just" when it comes to lust.

Please feel free to reach out. I'd appreciate connecting with you via GYE, Gmail (same as my username), or phone - whatever floats your boat.
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Re: You’re About to Save My Life 05 Sep 2025 17:28 #441271

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hollyari wrote on 27 Aug 2025 14:51:

Friends, I’m at Day 35… just 5 days away from hitting 40.

Can anyone share what usually comes next?

In the past 10 years, I’ve only reached 40 days three times. I’m bracing myself for these next 5 days—they feel like they might be brutal. But B’siyata D’Shmaya – Naaseh V’natzliach!

What I’m wondering is: what happens after 40? Is there some kind of lightness or simcha that opens up? In my past experiences, whenever I built up a long clean streak, the eventual fall felt like gravity pulling me down—and even deeper than where I first started.

Does anyone have advice or ideas on how to avoid that pitfall this time, and how to keep building forward after 40?


Hey you! You haven't posted in 10 days!



I assume you are busy. Busy is good. The best military equipment to bring along in this war is being busy. It's the equivalent of fighting a School of Tigers with a M1 A2 SEP v3 Abrams.


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If procrastination were a sport, I'd be the undisputed international champion!

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 08 Sep 2025 16:30 #441338

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Thanks so much for checking in with me, Yosef – it truly means the world!

So yeah… I’m at day 47!! It still feels a bit foggy, hard to believe it’s really me here, actually living it. My longest streak since my Bar Mitzva was 50 days, so I’m right on the edge of breaking that magic number… and I can feel it!

YEEESSS!!! Just thinking about how I’ll feel when I pass it gives me so much energy. With the High Holidays coming up, I’m walking in with so much more confidence and clarity than ever before. Feeling proud, focused, and ready to keep going!

Fuel me with Chizuk—ideas, encouragement, or just a kind word.
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Re: You’re About to Save My Life 09 Sep 2025 19:17 #441387

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Sick and tired…
I’m overwhelmed at work. It's still only 3 PM, but it already feels like the end of a long, stressful day.

I tried taking a walk, but my feet felt so heavy. Video games are already blocked — and I’m done with them for good. (Friends, please hold me accountable on this. No more unblocking/reblocking — that cycle is a killer.)

I’m just looking for another way to breathe out. My mind is throwing dark, heavy thoughts at me, but I know it would be crazy to throw away a 48-day streak just for a few hours of pressure and headaches.

So instead, I’m writing here to you, my friends.

Fuel me with Chizuk—ideas, encouragement, or just a kind word.
Arihakadosh24@gmail.com ~ 845-459-5843
Friends are my anchor; you are my lifeline.

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 09 Sep 2025 23:51 #441397

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Re: You’re About to Save My Life 10 Sep 2025 07:23 #441413

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There was a big Gadol in the middle east a few hundred years ago that used to wear a ring with the following אותיות engraved into it.

ג ז י

Everyone thought that its Kabbalistic שמות that work magic or some spooky Segulah or a mystical מלאך.

On his deathbed, his deciples asked him, "Our dear Rabbi, teach us the secret of your mystical ring, what does it mean?!"

He replied, "My dear talmidim, it is not Shaimos hakdoshim or mystical stuff, It stands for גם זה יעבור - "This too shall pass!," and that's the secret to a long and happy life!

Holy Ari! Stay strong!! THIS TOO SHALL PASS!!!!!
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Re: You’re About to Save My Life 10 Sep 2025 10:49 #441414

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I know this is after the fact... but what about taking a nap in a conference room? Rooting for you!

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 10 Sep 2025 14:27 #441417

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Good morning, guys, and thank you all!!

YitzchokM – I actually saw this post a while back, printed out some paragraphs, and keep them with me. Always ready.

Yosef – you’re always straight to the point. Somehow what you say just works… like you really get me.

And Kavey – a nap in the conference room? Alright, maybe at the age of 65.. Just kidding around, I really do appreciate your response!

And now… tomorrow is 50. I literally don’t know how to act! Friends, you all passed this milestone — what did you do? Did running through the streets help? I need some way to let this excitement out…

Fuel me with Chizuk—ideas, encouragement, or just a kind word.
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Re: You’re About to Save My Life 10 Sep 2025 15:59 #441419

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Yosef,

very deep... you sometimes think these Tzadikim don't have their nisyonos, we all have on different levels and when see something that we simple people can take a lesson from, it's something special.
like i remember the Rachmstrivka Rabbi z"l from BP, which although he was such an ish kodosh, but he was such a miser sefar by him doing the simple things he was m'cheiv us all push*ta people.
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Great free resources:

My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation">guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Change your attitude and change your life!

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 10 Sep 2025 18:16 #441426

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hollyari wrote on 10 Sep 2025 14:27:

Good morning
And now… tomorrow is 50. I literally don’t know how to act! Friends, you all passed this milestone — what did you do? Did running through the streets help? I need some way to let this excitement out…


I went to my local Ice-cream shop, and excitedly exclaimed loudly "Everything is on me tonight!"
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If procrastination were a sport, I'd be the undisputed international champion!
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