Yiddle2 wrote on 17 Jan 2010 00:31:


hey yiddle how are you? ur profile has some kind of error as it says u are married

Will,
Welcome back.
I just want to tell you that you are gonna be fine.
You just made the mistake that so many of us made of judging our sobriety by days clean.
A filter does not seem to be the number one thing right now in my mind.
Hashem puts us all in the perfect situation,so if marriage is wat youre gonna neeed to recover,then marriage is what you get.(read that line backwards).

I once asked a well known sex addiction therapist who has more success in recovery:bochurim or married guys.
He said forsure married guys.
Why?
Because alot of this addiction is centered around living in our own world of fantasy and "security" and mistrust.
When a bochur wants to open up to the world,its hard sometimes to learn who to build trust in first.
But you have a great opportunity now.
You can leave the selfish world of lusting.
And move into the world of emes.Of giving.Of trusting,and being trustworthy.
Of honesty with onesself and with others.

May Hashem grant you the strength to undergo a complete recovery and may you be zoche to build a bayis neeman beyisroel amen.