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Re: This time will be better 20 Jan 2022 10:10 #376216

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You are amazing. We believe in you. You will succeed! 
I'm sick of the Un-scientific approach of today's medical and social environment. 
we will never heal and become a better society unless we realize that all people are addicts. Any thing we do that we aren't interested in is "addiction" and medicine doesn't fix addictions. 

Pain causes addiction and medicine cant fix pain. 

Unless we heal our pain, and become truama conscious so as not to cause others pain, we will never be living in a functioning human society.

Re: This time will be better 20 Jan 2022 20:22 #376254

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before I arrived in this place for Shabbos I took the advice of some chashuve people here and I davened for all these wonderful girls to have a great shabbos and give nachas to their parents which brought me an awareness that they are human. they are regular people... they are not there for my pleasure...

Looking forward to an amazing shabbos!!!!
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Re: This time will be better 21 Jan 2022 08:38 #376273

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Day #4!!!!!!!!!!!! I know I can do this!!!! it'll be a week b4 I know it Bez"H!!!!
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Re: This time will be better 22 Jan 2022 19:00 #376311

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5 DAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is the streak I have hit a couple of times but now is the crucial time.... We gotta beat this I know I can do this!!!! I gotta be on guard!!!!
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 

Re: This time will be better 23 Jan 2022 00:04 #376317

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 I do not recall doing more than 5 days of no mzl or inappropriate vids in probably a year.... so we got to be on guard... 
THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND:
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[*]women are not sex toys they are not here for my pleasure.
[*]women are regular people just like me and assuming the rest of the guys here aren't robots.... (cringe)
[*]the relationship status between me and the pretty Bas Yisroel passing me on the street is that I respect her space and I don't look at her for pleasure
[*]I don't want to even just check out that video, it cant be that bad because it probably is. (If it needs justification somethings not right)
[*]I need to reset the way i look at sex life if I want to have a healthy marriage  BezH so a small fall isnt a small fall in the long run
[*]I need to throw myself into learning more than ever cuz I dont want to have space to host inappropriate thoughts
[*]I need to stay calm and mindful (I will listen to those audios Iy"H every day this week)
[*]Watching videos even kosher ones will not help me (that doesnt mean i cant watch but i should try to find other outlets)
[*]if anyone has any other tips LMK!!!!
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Re: This time will be better 23 Jan 2022 06:44 #376336

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DAY 6!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Re: This time will be better 23 Jan 2022 10:14 #376341

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I knew you would get past day 5! YOU CAN DO IT

keep it up brother your an inspiration.
I'm sick of the Un-scientific approach of today's medical and social environment. 
we will never heal and become a better society unless we realize that all people are addicts. Any thing we do that we aren't interested in is "addiction" and medicine doesn't fix addictions. 

Pain causes addiction and medicine cant fix pain. 

Unless we heal our pain, and become truama conscious so as not to cause others pain, we will never be living in a functioning human society.

Re: This time will be better 23 Jan 2022 10:56 #376342

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i have to stay calm and not get nervous about this or start stressing about maybe falling...
Tomorrow it will Bez"H be my first time clean for a week in God knows how long 
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 
Last Edit: 23 Jan 2022 10:57 by joetyh. Reason: the quote feature didnt work

Re: This time will be better 23 Jan 2022 13:59 #376349

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I don't know if it's important to share but I was whatsapping my very very close friend who is also on GYE (i have no idea who he is...) we were talking about how far we are going and I just started crying... again I STARTED CRYING!!!!!!!!!!! all those hot tears that were stuck inside came rolling out. It felt soooo good my eyes still feel it.... (this was a half hour ago) So picture this I'm sitting on my little couch in my room in my dira on my laptop just balling and my roommate walks in......... the confusion on his face..... so than I was crying and laughing at the same time

I just want to say I am so happy I was able to cry (if anyone knows why I would just start crying please LMK I wanna make sure I'm not snapping lol)

Thank y'all for being here!!!!
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Re: This time will be better 23 Jan 2022 15:08 #376351

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I'm so happy for you that you were able to cry! it healthy and its relieving! Your not snapping at all. Its actually very confident of you to cry in front of others!
I'm sick of the Un-scientific approach of today's medical and social environment. 
we will never heal and become a better society unless we realize that all people are addicts. Any thing we do that we aren't interested in is "addiction" and medicine doesn't fix addictions. 

Pain causes addiction and medicine cant fix pain. 

Unless we heal our pain, and become truama conscious so as not to cause others pain, we will never be living in a functioning human society.

Re: This time will be better 23 Jan 2022 20:07 #376370

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WOWOWOWOWOW!!!!!!!!!!! 
I just had an amazing moment...
I was talking to one of the amazing Yidden on GYE it was his first time ever talking to someone on the phone about his struggle and together we were being mechazek each other and I was trying to bring out the point that we are not bad people so we popped out the good old calculator and did the math (we ended up asking siri cuz i couldnt figure out how to do the actual math.... I forgot all math when the diploma touched my hand....) there are over 8,000,000,000 people in the world and out of all that there are 30,000 people on GYE!!!!!!!! that means that us heilege GYE chevra are approx. 0.00037% of the world and how the heck can we think we are bad??????? out of 8 Billion people just 0.00037% are here shteiging!!!!
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 

Re: This time will be better 23 Jan 2022 22:05 #376377

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Honest question guys please respond!! Is it bad that instead of watching random kosher videos I'm now spending a lot of time reading the GYE forums?

I did not phrase that correctly. 

I meant to ask is it better now that I'm reading the forums or is it just another tech related entertainment?

i felt like I should leave both versions of the question in for some reason.....
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 

Re: This time will be better 24 Jan 2022 05:57 #376391

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joetyh wrote on 23 Jan 2022 22:05:
Honest question guys please respond!! Is it bad that instead of watching random kosher videos I'm now spending a lot of time reading the GYE forums?

I did not phrase that correctly. 

I meant to ask is it better now that I'm reading the forums or is it just another tech related entertainment?

i felt like I should leave both versions of the question in for some reason.....

Many of us have this issue. Some respond "well, it's better than the other stuff that you would be doing." 

I like to say as HHM always says, don't worry, it will wear off, it's not as exciting as Porn/YouTube."
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Last Edit: 24 Jan 2022 07:29 by wilnevergiveup.

Re: This time will be better 24 Jan 2022 09:17 #376396

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definitely true lol!!!!

any tips how do I get the grat box on the quote?
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Last Edit: 24 Jan 2022 09:19 by joetyh.

Re: This time will be better 24 Jan 2022 09:20 #376397

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Guys!!!! My First week!!!!!! this is crazy!!!!! 
this GYE thing is insane!!!! the support is crazy!!!!!!
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 
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