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Cracked filter 03 Jun 2021 11:06 #369400

  • truckguy
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I have quite a strong filter but over the past few weeks have managed to get around it. Every time I fall I block that way but always seem to find another way around it. I think by now I have blocked all ways but i could always find more ways.

Not sure what to do, because I can't really block that category because it is normal websites (especially being vague so no-one gets any ideas). Also I'm married so don't want to do anything that my wife will realize if I block normal websites or send reports of internet usage to someone else etc.

Any advise would be appreciated.

Re: Cracked filter 03 Jun 2021 13:56 #369407

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truckguy wrote on 03 Jun 2021 11:06:
I have quite a strong filter but over the past few weeks have managed to get around it. Every time I fall I block that way but always seem to find another way around it. I think by now I have blocked all ways but i could always find more ways.

Not sure what to do, because I can't really block that category because it is normal websites (especially being vague so no-one gets any ideas). Also I'm married so don't want to do anything that my wife will realize if I block normal websites or send reports of internet usage to someone else etc.

Any advise would be appreciated.

Ok...so you are discovering what many of us discovered all too painfully. When all filters fail...it's time to start working on ourselves. We gotta learn how to say no. Obviously filters are important and definitely make it easier...but we must know that that's never enough...

The real work begins and ends with your ability to say "No!"
Last Edit: 03 Jun 2021 22:45 by grant400.

Re: Cracked filter 03 Jun 2021 23:09 #369436

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Feel free to email me about filters. I'm not downplaying that we have to work on ourselves but I have some ideas after stress testing most of them for years.
Also, some filters allow different users so you and your wife can have completely different settings (just have your wife use a different user account on the computer that you don't have access to).
נאָך אַ שריפה ווערט מען רייַך - After a fire one becomes wealthy.

My email: bhyy@protonmail.com

My thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/349632-Hayom-Yom

Re: Cracked filter 04 Jun 2021 05:49 #369444

Grant400 wrote on 03 Jun 2021 13:56:

truckguy wrote on 03 Jun 2021 11:06:
I have quite a strong filter but over the past few weeks have managed to get around it. Every time I fall I block that way but always seem to find another way around it. I think by now I have blocked all ways but i could always find more ways.

Not sure what to do, because I can't really block that category because it is normal websites (especially being vague so no-one gets any ideas). Also I'm married so don't want to do anything that my wife will realize if I block normal websites or send reports of internet usage to someone else etc.

Any advise would be appreciated.

Ok...so you are discovering what many of us discovered all too painfully. When all filters fail...it's time to start working on ourselves. We gotta learn how to say no. Obviously filters are important and definitely make it easier...but we must know that that's never enough...

The real work begins and ends with your ability to say "No!"

Agree 1000%

I personally dont have a filter (i have something very easily passable which completely blocks youtube on both phone and computer, and blocks Google on phone but thats it) and rely more on willpower. Not recommending this derech but point is at least for me personally if I was someich on a filter zero chance id be holding where I am now. The struggle isn't about perfecting your filter, rather its about bettering yourself. Even if u have a perfect filter but u keep struggling every day to try to bypass it you didn't really heal yourself your still addicted in my opinion. So you gotta work on yourself to break free

And you can do it. Because if you're here in the first place that already says you have enough motivation and drive to get it done
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!

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