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A platform of recovery for Jews who find themselves struggling with addictions to pornography, masturbation or other sexual problems. Post anonymously about your struggles without fear of anyone finding out who you are. Ask questions, post answers and be inspired! Get tips and guidance from the experts who moderate this forum, as well as from fellow strugglers.

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Re: Starting Again... 27 Apr 2021 22:24 #367527

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Your cumulative number is more "real".
Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com

My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned

                    My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: Starting Again... 28 Apr 2021 19:45 #367580

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Unfortunately I had what I will term as a slip last night. This can not continue. BH it did not end in actual fall,but a slippery slope down there...

Re: Starting Again... 28 Apr 2021 20:04 #367584

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Lou wrote on 28 Apr 2021 19:45:
Unfortunately I had what I will term as a slip last night. This can not continue. BH it did not end in actual fall,but a slippery slope down there...

Hey Lou, I guess that was you slipping in the dark next to me. I was wondering who it was. Unfortunately I did fall. I actually hate the term fall, it makes it seem benign, like it wasn't my fault. So I didn't "fall" I jumped.

Wanna restart together? Whoever loses must donate $150 to GYE (or a tzedaka of choice). Let me know if you accept the challenge. 

Re: Starting Again... 28 Apr 2021 20:54 #367585

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....and whoever wins, gets the privilege of donating $300?

ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳]

 Perhaps you can find chizuk from my thread at guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/356161-Intro 

Feel free to reach out to me at
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Re: Starting Again... 29 Apr 2021 01:29 #367614

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whoever hits 90 days first get to change the title of the story teller
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


My thread: 
Aiming to be better

Re: Starting Again... 29 Apr 2021 13:44 #367659

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My office has reached out to the office of Lou, we have yet to receive a response.

Re: Starting Again... 29 Apr 2021 14:57 #367663

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Grant400 wrote on 28 Apr 2021 20:04:

Lou wrote on 28 Apr 2021 19:45:
Unfortunately I had what I will term as a slip last night. This can not continue. BH it did not end in actual fall,but a slippery slope down there...

Hey Lou, I guess that was you slipping in the dark next to me. I was wondering who it was. Unfortunately I did fall. I actually hate the term fall, it makes it seem benign, like it wasn't my fault. So I didn't "fall" I jumped.

Wanna restart together? Whoever loses must donate $150 to GYE (or a tzedaka of choice). Let me know if you accept the challenge. 

I acted out yesterday, would love to go in with you on this.
PM me.

Re: Starting Again... 29 Apr 2021 19:36 #367674

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Grant400 wrote on 28 Apr 2021 20:04:

Lou wrote on 28 Apr 2021 19:45:
Unfortunately I had what I will term as a slip last night. This can not continue. BH it did not end in actual fall,but a slippery slope down there...

Hey Lou, I guess that was you slipping in the dark next to me. I was wondering who it was. Unfortunately I did fall. I actually hate the term fall, it makes it seem benign, like it wasn't my fault. So I didn't "fall" I jumped.

Wanna restart together? Whoever loses must donate $150 to GYE (or a tzedaka of choice). Let me know if you accept the challenge. 

R Grant,
I am in....starting from today. I had a fall (fail) last night as well. Just to make it more realistic this is only binding  until 90 This is bli neder!
If we both hit 90 then of course IMG will be giving $300!

Thank you!

Re: Starting Again... 29 Apr 2021 20:30 #367678

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Lou wrote on 29 Apr 2021 19:36:

Grant400 wrote on 28 Apr 2021 20:04:

Lou wrote on 28 Apr 2021 19:45:
Unfortunately I had what I will term as a slip last night. This can not continue. BH it did not end in actual fall,but a slippery slope down there...

Hey Lou, I guess that was you slipping in the dark next to me. I was wondering who it was. Unfortunately I did fall. I actually hate the term fall, it makes it seem benign, like it wasn't my fault. So I didn't "fall" I jumped.

Wanna restart together? Whoever loses must donate $150 to GYE (or a tzedaka of choice). Let me know if you accept the challenge. 

R Grant,
I am in....starting from today. I had a fall (fail) last night as well. Just to make it more realistic this is only binding  until 90 This is bli neder!
If we both hit 90 then of course IMG will be giving $300!

Thank you!

If you both make it to 90, then yes, I am bli neder "in" for $300 (to GYE, of course)...but please remind me at that time : )

Anyone out there to match my offer?

5 matchers would make it $1,500...

IMG

ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳]

 Perhaps you can find chizuk from my thread at guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/356161-Intro 

Feel free to reach out to me at
jackz90dys@gmail.com

Re: Starting Again... 30 Apr 2021 01:05 #367696

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Ish MiGrodno wrote on 29 Apr 2021 20:30:

Lou wrote on 29 Apr 2021 19:36:

Grant400 wrote on 28 Apr 2021 20:04:

Lou wrote on 28 Apr 2021 19:45:
Unfortunately I had what I will term as a slip last night. This can not continue. BH it did not end in actual fall,but a slippery slope down there...

Hey Lou, I guess that was you slipping in the dark next to me. I was wondering who it was. Unfortunately I did fall. I actually hate the term fall, it makes it seem benign, like it wasn't my fault. So I didn't "fall" I jumped.

Wanna restart together? Whoever loses must donate $150 to GYE (or a tzedaka of choice). Let me know if you accept the challenge. 

R Grant,
I am in....starting from today. I had a fall (fail) last night as well. Just to make it more realistic this is only binding  until 90 This is bli neder!
If we both hit 90 then of course IMG will be giving $300!

Thank you!

If you both make it to 90, then yes, I am bli neder "in" for $300 (to GYE, of course)...but please remind me at that time : )

Anyone out there to match my offer?

5 matchers would make it $1,500...

IMG

R' IMG,
I actually meant that part as a joke... Didn't mean to be mechayev you!

Re: Starting Again... 30 Apr 2021 02:19 #367704

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Many good ideas began as jokes...
: )

ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳]

 Perhaps you can find chizuk from my thread at guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/356161-Intro 

Feel free to reach out to me at
jackz90dys@gmail.com

Re: Starting Again... 30 Apr 2021 03:42 #367706

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Ish MiGrodno wrote on 29 Apr 2021 20:30:

Lou wrote on 29 Apr 2021 19:36:

Grant400 wrote on 28 Apr 2021 20:04:

Lou wrote on 28 Apr 2021 19:45:
Unfortunately I had what I will term as a slip last night. This can not continue. BH it did not end in actual fall,but a slippery slope down there...

Hey Lou, I guess that was you slipping in the dark next to me. I was wondering who it was. Unfortunately I did fall. I actually hate the term fall, it makes it seem benign, like it wasn't my fault. So I didn't "fall" I jumped.

Wanna restart together? Whoever loses must donate $150 to GYE (or a tzedaka of choice). Let me know if you accept the challenge. 

R Grant,
I am in....starting from today. I had a fall (fail) last night as well. Just to make it more realistic this is only binding  until 90 This is bli neder!
If we both hit 90 then of course IMG will be giving $300!

Thank you!

If you both make it to 90, then yes, I am bli neder "in" for $300 (to GYE, of course)...but please remind me at that time : )

Anyone out there to match my offer?

5 matchers would make it $1,500...

IMG

Feeling #Gevirish in Grodno 
Last Edit: 30 Apr 2021 21:56 by i-man.

Re: Starting Again... 30 Apr 2021 15:35 #367715

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Lou wrote on 29 Apr 2021 19:36:

Grant400 wrote on 28 Apr 2021 20:04:

Lou wrote on 28 Apr 2021 19:45:
Unfortunately I had what I will term as a slip last night. This can not continue. BH it did not end in actual fall,but a slippery slope down there...

Hey Lou, I guess that was you slipping in the dark next to me. I was wondering who it was. Unfortunately I did fall. I actually hate the term fall, it makes it seem benign, like it wasn't my fault. So I didn't "fall" I jumped.

Wanna restart together? Whoever loses must donate $150 to GYE (or a tzedaka of choice). Let me know if you accept the challenge. 

R Grant,
I am in....starting from today. I had a fall (fail) last night as well. Just to make it more realistic this is only binding  until 90 This is bli neder!
If we both hit 90 then of course IMG will be giving $300!

Thank you!

Awesome! I too am unfortunately starting from yesterday. Just one clause. NO BLI NEDER! With a neder. All it is is $150. Game on!

Let is not use pity on IMG's wallet as an excuse
Last Edit: 30 Apr 2021 15:36 by Grant400.

Re: Starting Again... 30 Apr 2021 16:06 #367716

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R' Grant,

Can you please summarize who is committed so far and for how much? Both as participants (i.e., "if I fall before 90, I will pay $150") and as sponsors? (i.e., "if all participants make it to 90, I will pay $300")...

Thanks!

IMG

ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳]

 Perhaps you can find chizuk from my thread at guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/356161-Intro 

Feel free to reach out to me at
jackz90dys@gmail.com

Re: Starting Again... 30 Apr 2021 17:48 #367721

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Grant400 wrote on 30 Apr 2021 15:35:

Lou wrote on 29 Apr 2021 19:36:

Grant400 wrote on 28 Apr 2021 20:04:

Lou wrote on 28 Apr 2021 19:45:
Unfortunately I had what I will term as a slip last night. This can not continue. BH it did not end in actual fall,but a slippery slope down there...

Hey Lou, I guess that was you slipping in the dark next to me. I was wondering who it was. Unfortunately I did fall. I actually hate the term fall, it makes it seem benign, like it wasn't my fault. So I didn't "fall" I jumped.

Wanna restart together? Whoever loses must donate $150 to GYE (or a tzedaka of choice). Let me know if you accept the challenge. 

R Grant,
I am in....starting from today. I had a fall (fail) last night as well. Just to make it more realistic this is only binding  until 90 This is bli neder!
If we both hit 90 then of course IMG will be giving $300!

Thank you!

Awesome! I too am unfortunately starting from yesterday. Just one clause. NO BLI NEDER! With a neder. All it is is $150. Game on!

Let is not use pity on IMG's wallet as an excuse

Sorry, I will only do bli neder
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